Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

I think it's outrageous that she couldn't have waited a week to dye her hair a ridiculous colour. Anyone over the age of 16 shouldn't be walking around with bright coloured hair anyway imho

Do you think people will forget you're the bride because someone else in the room has dyed their hair?

You're being bonkers. Put it down to pre-wedding stress and get on with your day.

You sound lovely, OP

Get the bridesmaids to wear hats. Or headscarves.

Or wigs. So they all have matching hair.

OK, I'll get my coat. It was just an idea...

buy her a wig! (cheap one for photos!) it will mess up her hair nicely so the unofficial photos if she takes it off will look messy :) punishment fitting crime -sez she with tongue in cheek!

Oh god OP, if this is real it is utterly shameful. Do you have no self-awareness at all?

It’s her hair ! She can do what she wants your replies are coming across rude too. Guaranteed you will be the bridezilla in many of your guests stories when discussing weddings. The whole princess on your wedding day portrayed by society is so annoying. It just makes grown women turn into brats.

'Anyone over the age of 16 shouldn't be walking around with bright coloured hair anyway imho'

It's ok everyone, the grownup has arrived.

My sister dyed her hair blue and had it curled for my wedding. She basically looked like Marge Simpson when she pinned it up too!

It's not even like I had a big wedding. Only parents and siblings were invited but there she was with bright blue sodding curls on top of her head.

I just shrugged it off - it was no reflection on me as a person but spoke volumes about her.

As I'm awesome on Photoshop I changed her hair colour in all the photographs we printed to her normal hair colour

she is incredibly self-centred

3 words:

Pot Kettle Black

Sounds like a dick move on the BM part, but she won't be able to dye her again in such a short amount of time (she could shave it all off, though, so be careful what you wish for....)

It's really annoying- I'm with you!

However - she will stand out as looking stupid and the photos in years to come will look hideous. Her problem, not yours. How likely are you to print out a big picture of your bridesmaids??

It is a bit that she did it a week before the wedding and pink sounds like it would clash horribly with red. However, YANBU for wanting her to dye it back but YWBU to ask / tell her or uninvite her. Does it really matter?

One of my BMs had an area of colour in her hair that clashed horribly with the dresses, I was annoyed that she didn't dye over it, but it's not my hair, so I didn't mention it. She was the one that looked silly on the day, a couple of my friends commented about it. However, I don't remember it now looking back, so my advice is just to let it go.

Maybe your wedding isn't the only one that will ever happen, has no influence over the rest of the universe, and isn't the sole preoccupation of everyone attending?

Is she a Beauty School dropout?

The bridesmaid dresses are red

She is going to look like jelly and blancmange!

Actually I agree with you and I am not and never was a bridezilla. But I think doing a really in-your-face change like this so soon before a wedding is a bit of an odd thing to do.

I doubt she did it just to piss you off. Going from brunette to pink is a lot of work and a lot of money. It would be even more money and work to 'dye it back' without it turning green.

Offer to pay and then pay to have it stripped and turned pink again (or at least reimburse her the original cost) if you're so bothered, though I can't see why you would be.

My daughter had a blue hair at my sister's wedding. I told her to ask my sister before she did it, which she did. My sister was a bit confused and told her to ask me . It never occurred to her she had a say because DD was going to be a bridesmaid at her wedding.

have you talked to her about it?

I would dye my hair a week before a friend's wedding if I fancied it or it needed it.

I wouldn't expect my friend to give a shit because, you know, we're friends and I'd assume I was asked to be bridesmaid because of our friendship rather than because of my pre-dyed hair colour.

As PP has said, your wedding is not the most important thing in your friend's life.

Or or or, maybe, you don't own her and she doesn't think you own her either?

Or maybe the most important thing about a wedding isn't the photos?

Anyone over the age of 16 shouldn't be walking around with bright coloured hair anyway imho

Anyone with that humble opinion should be sitting watching antiques in their armchair

@elcarmen I'm not sure you know what self righteous means.

Oh Dear.... can't you embrace her individuality?! Why does she have to match everyone else...

Why does her hair colour affect anything?

Unless you are a bridezilla who cares more about the aesthetics of the wedding (and pictures) than the reason for getting married.

Well presumably she thinks it looks nice and she wants to look nice for your wedding. I honestly have no clue why this would bother anyone at all.