Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

Sorry posted that here by mistake.

Since i'm here does anyone have any advice?

She sounds like a PITA. I would no longer have her as bridesmaid. No, it's not your business what colour her hair is, but she's done it for the first time ever right before the wedding? I'd be fuming, don't care how terrible that makes me sound.

As others have said get a huge hair band for her. Ultimately she's the one who'll look an idiot.
You're probably worried about the pictures? Call the photographer and see if they can photoshop the colour. Also on the day you won't care!

Option 3

You just skip having photos with bridesmaids.

No one is that interested in other people's wedding photos anyway and all your guests will thank you for keeping the time spent hanging around waiting for photos to a minimum.

Everyone's a winner.

Well except the numpty who has dyed her hair pink a week before she's wearing a red dress to a big event. She's going to look stupid. But that's her problem.

@aquamineral has he dyed his hair pink? Or are the other men you are looking at of the pink-haired variety?

It’s an attention- seeking dickish move on her part, that’s for sure. Have you asked her why she couldn’t wait a week or two? Because what her action say, no matter the weird defensiveness on here, is that she cares more about herself than you. Great friend.

WHOA

Just seen that you're having your bridesmaids in red. YABVVVVVU. It's not 1998 anymore.

Cancel the wedding, it’s obviously ruined now.

OP not replied for a bit, could be a fake post

You've got various options.

Tell her she has to dye it back or she's not coming to your wedding.(don't do this on, you'll look bonkers)

Get all the other bridesmaids to dye their hair pink (then it will look like a theme and you will have scuppered her attention seekingnessness )

Dye all the bridesmaid's dresses to a colour that doesn't clash with pink (purple?)

Ignore her, get on with your day and photo shop brown hair onto her when the photos come back.

I used to know a minister who had long pink hair.

Never mind the bridesmaids - have you been in touch with the Registrar or Celebrant to make sure that their hair meets with your approval?

If I was the bride, she'd be sacked. Unless she dyed it back. What selfish behaviour! How old is she - 5?

What's wrong with red bridesmaid dresses? Looked lovely for the winter themed wedding I went to. Bride was in cream dress with red embroidery/red in the train.

I've just texted her asking her to tone it down for the wedding. She's naturally a brunette so it won't be too much hassle to dye back.

In the nicest possible way OP assuming you’re genuine you’re a dick.

If people think appearances don't matter, they should be piling onto the OP for having bridesmaids in (presumably matching) red dresses, when they would probably be much more comfortable in clothes of their choice, even if that means some old track pants and a shirt with a rude slogan.

It will be a hassle to dye it again though, it damages hair a lot. Tbh I’m a bridesmaid next year and I’ve dyed my hair bright ginger so I probably shouldn’t talk. Just deal with it now, it’s done

I literally have no idea how this would be a problem?

Why does her hair colour affect anything?

Unless you are a bridezilla who cares more about the aesthetics of the wedding (and pictures) than the reason for getting married.

I think you've nailed it there.

Have you hired a good photographer?

I only ask, because photoshop is a marvellous thing for occasions such as this. Let her get on with it, but ask your photographer to change it back in the pictures ..... (or, indeed to any other colour you fancy. Green might look nice ..... )

I like the dresses and paid for them so can you keep your opinions about that to yourself. My bridesmaid actually encouraged me to get this colour before dying her hair!

When you say pink, what does pink mean exactly?

If she's brunette and actually pink and not a reddish colour, she has bleached her hair, so cannot simply dye it back.

She could go blonder, I guess.

Get it logged with 101.

patiently waits for pinky's response

OP why did you ask AIBU only then to disagree with the people who answer saying you are. Did you actually just want reassurance that you are being reasonable? I hope she says she doesn't want to be your bridesmaid if her hair matters more to you than her presence.