Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

Where's the OP?

@elcarmen yadnbu! Why couldn't she wait to look like masseuse going to a festival? Absolutely ridiculous! I agree with you! Say to her "you are not going to be a part of my wedding party , looking like a unicorn. Go blonde or something nice!".

I suspect no longer a problem. Prominent in the Daily Mail etc. The bridesmaid will know all about it!!

I'd ignore her. If she did it just because she liked it and didn't think of the wedding, you'll upset her. If she did it on purpose, you're playing into her hands.

And it really won't be that big a deal on the day to anyone but you and her, so try not to let it spoil your day.

I was a bridesmaid once, where another bridesmaid was so obsessed with being the best-looking one and distinctive one there, she insisted on wearing 5" heels, despite already being 6 foot. The bride was 5'1", other bridesmaids, about 5'6". She talked about it for weeks beforehand, how pleased she was she'd found these great heels and how tall she was going to be. I thought it was out of order but the bride just said "Ok, whatever makes you happy" and rolled her eyes a few times. And on the day? All eyes were on the bride. And if anyone noticed that particular bridesmaid, they just thought she looked like a giraffe.

So don't worry, it won't spoil your day. I'm sorry the photos won't be so great, but the most important ones won't involve her anyway.

I've been a bridesmaid loads of times and even I am not bothered about the wedding pictures that include me, I just like the ones of the bride and groom.

Geez firstly I would ignore the comments that were stingers and suggested negatives about you and the bridesmaid. My honest advice is to ask yourself how much will her pink hair affect your special day on a scale from 1 being extremely important and 5 being just a hiccup. Also what's your partners opinion on this? If you get a score between 1 and 3 then an honest chat perhaps starting with" Will your hair be pink for the wedding or will it be washed out by then? If it's a permanent dye then gently explain your photographer has concerns she will look odd in the photos which will be unflattering to her. A little fib can help sort a bigger dilemna.

I think I know that bridesmaid TigerJoy, is she welsh?

I doubt she even thought about your wedding when dying her hair. We're flaming you op because someone says something you don't agree with and you're attacking them for it and because you seem very highly strung because it's so close to the wedding and you don't have the full control of the wedding I.e hair colour like you thought you did. Hense the bridezilla comments

The pink haired bridesmaid is no longer the bride's main concern today ... it's the football match! hahahahahahah

I wonder what happened. 🤔🤔

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Haven't RTFT so apologies if there turned out to be a back story.

I actually think this is shitty behaviour on the part of the bridesmaid.

Surely you could wait ten days to dye your hair a weird colour?

Let it go, get the photographer to change her hair colour when he edits your pics

I need to know what happened @elcarmen

Did the bridesmaid still go to your wedding?

And did you get the photographer to edit the colour of her hair?

I'd like to know too!