Bridesmaid won't dye her hair

[elcarmen]

My bridesmaid has dyed her hair this week a horrible pink colour and I am getting married next saturday. Am i being unreasonable to ask her to dye it back or uninvite her from the wedding?

For context she is incredibly self-centered and always wants the attention to be focused on herself and I think she has done it just to stick out in the photos.

[altiara]

Haven't finished reading the thread, but wanted to stand in solidarity with the OP as I think pink is an odd colour to go for the week before being a bridesmaid in a red dress.
OP - what you need to do is buy a bottle of brown root spray, have the hairdresser put her hair in a bun/style that minimised amount of hair on show, then spray it all over with root spray instead of hairspray I’m not 100% sure it will work or maybe blonde spray is better? Something to dull the shock of the unnatural pink.

Failing that, in Claire’s accessories you can buy neon hair spray, so all the bridesmaid could go pink or have their own colour.

[Motherof]

If she did it to get at you ,it’s working why let her know this,don’t even acknowledged it ,

[wheezing]

2up2manydown is probably my favourite post of all time.

You’ve presumably been to other weddings and likely also been a biridesmaid before? You get that weddings for guests are partially a nice day out and partially an annoying inconvenience? That actually they don’t spend much if any time at all thinking about the same things the the bride and groom do? Won’t even notice exactly the accessories the bridesmaids are wearing? Probably don’t think twice about any of the little touches you have spent weeks on?

I can’t imagine that many people will realise the pink hair is a brand new thing so will then not take it as an insult to the bride. I’m sure the bride party photos will still look fine and if she doesn’t look her best that’s a shame for her. Then again, maybe she’s thrilled with her new look and maybe it really works for her.

[Lilajuvel]

Do I live in a densely pink-populated area? I see people with pink hair everywhere!

Possibly. I used to live in Camden and saw colourful hair everywhere, now I'm further North London, and cannot see a single pink-haired person on the main high street outside my window right now... It's still early though!

[rosesandflowers1]

Oh, really? Maybe I'm underestimating how shocking it would be to certain posters then

But surely in the days of social media and pop culture, they would know that people have pink hair?

[Clionba]

Well, I'm late fifties, up North and not shocked by pink hair. I don't think that's the issue, completely and the OP either just gets on with the wedding or talks to her face to face.
Just think, why are you getting married? For the photos and social media, or because you want to share a special happy day with friends and family?
Me and my friends married in the mid 80s. You can imagine some of the bridesmaids' hair!! It really doesn't matter down the line.

[Pickapart]

Ummm, I haven't RTFT yet, but did you know you have made the channel 9 news this morning in Perth, Australia? Even bloody Aussie journos are on the Daily Mail lazy writing bandwagon now!

FWIW I think your friend dyeing her hair pink just before your wedding is a bit of a dick move on her part. She could have waited until afterwards knowing that a wedding is a reasonably formal event (usually). I'd be tempted to ask her to colour it back or stand down as a member of the bridal party. She'll look bloody ridiculous with pink hair and a red dress.

[Gah81]

You get that weddings for guests are partially a nice day out and partially an annoying inconvenience? That actually they don’t spend much if any time at all thinking about the same things the the bride and groom do? Won’t even notice exactly the accessories the bridesmaids are wearing? Probably don’t think twice about any of the little touches you have spent weeks on?

This. So, so true (having been to more weddings than I care to remember, I was under no illusions as to how little the guests would care about the way things look. Took a whole load of stress off when planning my own :) )

[janaus]

Just saying ... this story has made it onto Australian Tv news show, The Project. Thank you Daily Mail

[Gah81]

Bloody hell - it's in The Sun too.

[HairDyedPink]

I hope they track Bridezilla who has been desperate to be the center of attention, she can share the article with all her guests because she is a real celebrity now! Expect a call from reality-tv show any minute now!

[Mummyoflittledragon]

EvilMorty
Obviously I don’t live in London. So what if hair colour is more conservative outside the city. Personally I don’t give a flying fuck what colour people have their hair but the bm was rude as her hair originally was a natural Colour. Was it only ok for London dwellers to answer the question “Do I live in a densely pink-populated area?”?

[mostdays]

This thread is absolutely hilarious.

[DidimusStench]

I’ve never dyed my hair but I have been on Pinterest A LOT since this thread started, trying to decide which ‘out there’ colour I’d like to take my hair dying virginity.

Pink is definitely in the top 3.

[Frequency]

Pink is fading from fashion atm. It hasn't really been a thing for three-ish years now. Of course, it's still fine to have pink hair if you like it or it suits you.

My sister is good at spotting upcoming trends and jumping on them before they become a thing. She is asking me to give her horizontal striped past hair atm

www.facebook.com/BuzzFeed/videos/10157887027010329

I've never tried it before but that's what I love about my sister. She lets me try out ll the new techniques on her and she's much cheaper than buying training heads all the time

DD tends to follow current trends and wants UV reactive canary yellow.

[EvilMorty]

Canary yellow is really in because it’s an easy colour to achieve if you can’t lift the brunette enough past the orange phase. But I personally like faded orange or even green. Once green is in its impossible to get out though. I had green hair for ages as a teen still got invited to weddings though

[EvilMorty]

Mummyoflittledragon

Obviously I don’t live in London.
Not really, your username isn’t doesntliveinlondon
So what if hair colour is more conservative outside the city.
I don’t think it is, I just think that in London/Cities you have a larger population and so more diversity of hair colour. I used to live in Birmingham and there was a lot of vibrant hair colour there too.
Personally I don’t give a flying fuck what colour people have their hair
Ahhh that’s not really true is it? Because you go on to say but the bm was rude as her hair originally was a natural Colour.
Rude? What an odd way to describe someone colouring their hair. It’s almost like saying someone’s eye liner is rude.
Was it only ok for London dwellers to answer the question “Do I live in a densely pink-populated area?”? hmm
Well you answered so obviously not

[Mummyoflittledragon]

EvilMorty
I left school a long time ago. You’ve obviously decided to pick on me and frankly I’m not interested in playing spiteful games.

[EvilMorty]

Ffs I only asked if you lived in London, I answered your points and now I’m “playing spiteful games”. I didn’t know I even was? Am I winning or losing?

[3luckystars]

I love short hair on women and young girls. I saw a woman with a shaved head outside the school and she was absolutely stunning, she looked like a soldier. I was just staring at her she was so beautiful.

Anyway if it was me, I was smile and tell her she looked great and put it into to box in my head that’s called ‘things I can do fuck all about’ and enjoy the wedding!!

I really would admire it because if she did do it to annoy you, then it will drive her MAD! So smile and enjoy every minute of your day. Good luck.

[BabyItsAWildWorld]

I reckon the Ex was called Mittens

[squeekums]

@2up2manydown
Most normal right-thinking people would be annoyed at that and it is a dick move just before your wedding. She knows it, you know it and ALL your guests will clock it.
No, most normal people aint so arrogant as to think they can dictate a persons hair colour. Wedding or not.
Ask for same dress, yeah ok i get that, shoes mmm maybe, not everyone can wear heels so that situation depending imo
but hair? No, you have no right as a bride to dictate hair colour, demanding someone changes their body to make pretty pics for your wedding album is pathetic. And yes hair is part of a body.

[MiddleClassProblem]

My parents live near a large town in Devon. Fair bit of hair colour there.

[babycc29x]

Fashion colours like pink tend to wash out easily maybe it will be a nice rose gold - pink by the time your weddings here! Otherwise get her hair put up and avoid getting her in lots of photos