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Another BBC mess: "Do you think it’s right to tell transgender people which toilet to use?" Let's ask some men...

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BridgetYourFortyDaysAreUp · 12/09/2026 19:14

https://genderblog.net/bbc-gender-apology-row/

From Nick Wallis' Genderblog:

On 6 August 2026, BBC Three Counties local radio station, which covers Bedfordshire, Hertfordshire and Buckinghamshire, ran a half hour current affairs chat on the Jonathan Vernon-Smith Show. The midday item was posed as a question: “Do you think it’s right to tell transgender people which toilet to use?”

The first contributor put on air to talk about that question were Robin Moira White, a male barrister who claims to be a woman. Robin advocates for men to be able to use women’s toilets and does so himself. The next guest was Nora Padilla, a full-time policy officer at the campaign group TransActual, which also advocates for men to be able to use women’s toilets. Then we heard from “Michelle” from Watford. Like Robin, Michelle is a man who claims to be a woman and – surprise surprise – advocates for male use of female facilities....
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And the story goes on. And gets more and more damning for the BBC. The useless, ridiculously activist, taxpayer-supported BBC... Still.

BBC Gender Apology Row

Now they’re in trouble. Sex Matters. (l-r) Dr Helen Joyce, Maya Forstater and Fiona McAnena I am not a defund the BBC sort, but I can understand the frustrations of those who are. I have spok…

https://genderblog.net/bbc-gender-apology-row/

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NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:11

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/09/2026 23:07

Would he be just as dangerous in a busy public park as he would in a quiet carpark?

Yes.
https://www.cps.gov.uk/north-west/news/man-jailed-after-terrifying-sex-attack-broad-daylight

Woman suffers serious sexual assault while walking dog near park
https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cpvelr99xj0o

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Pointing to a horrific crime that happened in a park does not prove that a park and an isolated, unlit carpark carry the exact same risk profile.

Statistically and behaviorally, environment, visibility, and foot traffic drastically alter opportunity and risk

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:11

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:06

Partially, yes. People modify their behaviour based on who is present, the layout of the space, and the presence of witnesses. I was mostly talking about a well designed mixed sex space with plenty of footfall in a visible areas.

So how come men don’t modify their behaviour around women when it comes to murdering, raping and assaulting them? So what would you say to a woman in this mixed sex space who gets raped by a man who is perfectly allowed to be there? “It’s ok love, you were doing the Lords work cos we let men in there so other men could feel safe? Thanks for taking one for the team”? Why do you think we have single sex toilets to begin with? Why did women campaign so hard for them? Why are Oxfam actively campaigning to have single sex toilets in India, Nepal and Pakistan? Are Oxfam wrong to do that? If so. Why?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 12/09/2026 23:13

AimsAndObjectives · 12/09/2026 22:32

Nick Wallis seems to believe that there is a real person behind the reply. Let's see if the follow up question about Sex Matters being told that they were not needed gets a similar tone of reply.

Oh there is a real person yes. But they didn't write the reply, they just prompted the AI. There's no genuine apology there. No human had to consider whether and how they wanted to apologise, nor how much regret to express.

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:14

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:11

Pointing to a horrific crime that happened in a park does not prove that a park and an isolated, unlit carpark carry the exact same risk profile.

Statistically and behaviorally, environment, visibility, and foot traffic drastically alter opportunity and risk

So you ARE expecting women to be human shields for TIM aren’t you? Why do you hate women so much? Don’t you think they deserve single sex spaces?

a TIF was raped within one hour of being put in a male psych facility? Don’t think anyone had told those men they had to be well behaved in a mixed sex space. She was raped 3 times before she got moved. So tell me again why mixed sex spaces are safe for women…. I’ll wait….

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:18

@NotTodayTy Men who get put in female prisons because they claim to be trans have raped women. Did they not get the memo about being better behaved in mixed sex spaces?

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/09/2026 23:20

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:11

Pointing to a horrific crime that happened in a park does not prove that a park and an isolated, unlit carpark carry the exact same risk profile.

Statistically and behaviorally, environment, visibility, and foot traffic drastically alter opportunity and risk

Just pointing out that being in a busy park/public place does not stop men from being dangerous.

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:23

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:14

So you ARE expecting women to be human shields for TIM aren’t you? Why do you hate women so much? Don’t you think they deserve single sex spaces?

a TIF was raped within one hour of being put in a male psych facility? Don’t think anyone had told those men they had to be well behaved in a mixed sex space. She was raped 3 times before she got moved. So tell me again why mixed sex spaces are safe for women…. I’ll wait….

Why do you resort to extreme emotion manipulation and character attacks? You are so clearly beyond debating in good faith.

I was specifically answering your question around why a trans woman could be unsafe in a single sex space and safe in a mixed sex space. I wasn’t even arguing for universal mixed sex spaces like the original commenter. I was just making the point that environment and people can change behaviour. Do I think mixed sex spaces are safety than single sex spaces for women? No. Do I think a mixed sex space is safer for trans women? Yes. Do I think we should force mixed sex spaces everywhere? No.

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:26

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/09/2026 23:20

Just pointing out that being in a busy park/public place does not stop men from being dangerous.

Obviously not all men will be put off from committing a crime, but a busy space is still going to put most people off. If it didn’t we wouldn’t have street lighting and CCTV everywhere

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:27

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 19:53

But why would that be a problem? Surely it’s good people hear both sides of the debate. It’ll enable both sides to put forth their most coherent and logical arguments won’t it? I mean one side you’ve got men saying they want to access female spaces because they want to, and the other side women explaining why they should not be allowed. It’d be an eye opener I think.

It wouldn't be a problem for me - it would be for some of the more vocal 'GC' voices who have turned it into a money-making venture. (I don't actually believe they are GC in actual fact - I think they think they've found a grift to earn an easy crust from a captive audience. I think had it been financially necessary 15 years ago they'd be fully paid-up members of the no debate society.

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:28

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:26

Obviously not all men will be put off from committing a crime, but a busy space is still going to put most people off. If it didn’t we wouldn’t have street lighting and CCTV everywhere

So you are admitting mixed sex spaces will not always be safe? So why are you advocating for them? Why do you want to put women in danger? Why do you think the toilets will always be busy?

TheywontletmehavethenameIwant · 12/09/2026 23:30

We have an idiot savant in the building. What fun, not.

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:30

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:27

It wouldn't be a problem for me - it would be for some of the more vocal 'GC' voices who have turned it into a money-making venture. (I don't actually believe they are GC in actual fact - I think they think they've found a grift to earn an easy crust from a captive audience. I think had it been financially necessary 15 years ago they'd be fully paid-up members of the no debate society.

So let me understand, people only pretend to be GC to make money, but all trans people are totally honest and true? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Bless you my sweet summer child.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 12/09/2026 23:31

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:27

It wouldn't be a problem for me - it would be for some of the more vocal 'GC' voices who have turned it into a money-making venture. (I don't actually believe they are GC in actual fact - I think they think they've found a grift to earn an easy crust from a captive audience. I think had it been financially necessary 15 years ago they'd be fully paid-up members of the no debate society.

Oh dear. Maybe it's bed time if we're getting onto all the billions that women are making out of standing up for child safeguarding and women's rights 😂😂

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:32

MrsOvertonsWindow · 12/09/2026 23:31

Oh dear. Maybe it's bed time if we're getting onto all the billions that women are making out of standing up for child safeguarding and women's rights 😂😂

We are?? How do I sign up?? Is there like a secret list??

iwishitwouldstartraining · 12/09/2026 23:32

SwirlyGates · 12/09/2026 20:48

It's a really weird question to ask, I think - if they'd asked, "Do you think it's right to tell men which toilet to use?" or "Do you think it's right to tell women which toilet to use?" people would be scratching their heads wondering why you were asking, because it's bloody obvious. People don't get to choose the toilets they use, they are told which one and expected to get on with it.

Also, as well as missing out gender-critical women, they missed out gender-critical men. They do exist after all - many men want single sex spaces not just for women but for themselves. And the men could make a case for welcoming trans women in the men's.

It's so, so frustrating because in practice the question is completely irrelevant.

Sex can be objectively quantified, but identity can't, so the only question worth asking is whether toilets should be single sex or mixed sex. If you have decided that they should be mixed sex, you then need to ask how that impacts safety, for all the reasons detailed at length on this board by keeptoiletssafe.

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:33

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:30

So let me understand, people only pretend to be GC to make money, but all trans people are totally honest and true? 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄. Bless you my sweet summer child.

Are you OK? You must have put your back out with that reach. Are you wilfully misunderstanding again?

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:34

MrsOvertonsWindow · 12/09/2026 23:31

Oh dear. Maybe it's bed time if we're getting onto all the billions that women are making out of standing up for child safeguarding and women's rights 😂😂

Not billions but don't you find it odd that there are a few people who never mentioned it until they found a way to monetize it? Nick being one. Sharon Davies being another. She was down to her last farthing a few years ago and now she's raking in £400 a day at taxpayer's expense. You really think she believes half the nonsense she spouts?

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:35

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:28

So you are admitting mixed sex spaces will not always be safe? So why are you advocating for them? Why do you want to put women in danger? Why do you think the toilets will always be busy?

Fuck me. Are you sure you’re with it? I just said we shouldn’t force mixed sex spaces everywhere

MrsOvertonsWindow · 12/09/2026 23:35

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:32

We are?? How do I sign up?? Is there like a secret list??

Think we must still be on the list waiting for all the cheques to come rolling in for our "grift"

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:37

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:33

Are you OK? You must have put your back out with that reach. Are you wilfully misunderstanding again?

You’re the one who said you didn’t think some GC people were pretending to be GC didn’t you? I suppose that’s nothing to with the fact they’d make mincemeat out of any TRA pitted against them. The interview with KJK and Helen Webberley is a great case in point. Even Piers Morgan can verbally beat a TRA. Which is something.

FlirtsWithRhinos · 12/09/2026 23:40

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:34

Not billions but don't you find it odd that there are a few people who never mentioned it until they found a way to monetize it? Nick being one. Sharon Davies being another. She was down to her last farthing a few years ago and now she's raking in £400 a day at taxpayer's expense. You really think she believes half the nonsense she spouts?

Don't you find it odd that Stonewall, Mermaids, GLP, Pride et al have raised many millions to support trans people yet haven't funded any additional unisex provisions? Don't you find it odd that their focus has all been on the much less practical, less popular and frankly less morally justifiable tactic of demanding the use of women's spaces?

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:40

NotTodayTy · 12/09/2026 23:35

Fuck me. Are you sure you’re with it? I just said we shouldn’t force mixed sex spaces everywhere

So if men can’t be trusted to behave well in hospital wards and prisons, why are you expecting them to behave better in toilets? I mean, TIM will obviously have to use male wards and prisons now, so surely they’d be unsafe there? So by your logic, we should make prisons and psych wards mixed sex as well.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 12/09/2026 23:41

alcovecupboards · 12/09/2026 23:34

Not billions but don't you find it odd that there are a few people who never mentioned it until they found a way to monetize it? Nick being one. Sharon Davies being another. She was down to her last farthing a few years ago and now she's raking in £400 a day at taxpayer's expense. You really think she believes half the nonsense she spouts?

So you're not happy with Nick Wallis and now Sharron Davies? Both who've relentlessly stood up for women in recent years with Sharron in receipt of massive abuse from unhinged transactivists

Still - you do you and all that. .

FlirtsWithRhinos · 12/09/2026 23:44

And of course the eternal question - given that lots of men face risks from other men in various ways, why is it only the ones who claim to be women that anyone is suggesting have to get a pass to hide in the ladies bogs? Are the others not as important or something?

Rollingpinofdoom · 12/09/2026 23:44

So if you believe mixed sex toilets and spaces are unsafe for women, why do you think we should implement them? Just to protect TIM. In that case, no. Male on male violence is nothing to do with women. If some men feel unsafe in male spaces, that’s on men to solve.

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