Pissed you can't piss in peace

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Being trans right now is to be institutionally discriminated against. It’s having to worry about where and when you can go to the loo. Which is fucking outrageous. That this should happen under a so called Labour government is unforgivable.

Meanwhile we stagger on. If you want backup using a toilet I’m yours. I’ll walk into the ladies with you and tell people to back the fuck off if I have to. I will walk into the men’s too if I have to, so everyone is scandalised at me while you get a chance to sneak in and have a piss in peace. The situation is ludicrous - what I can do is a drop in the ocean, but drop I will.

Maybe I need to print myself a t-shirt that says fighting for the freedom to piss in peace. I don’t know. The world is on fire both metaphorically and literally, yet of all the things one could do a big chunk of people have chosen to gang up on a vulnerable minority. It’s like watching people dig their own graves.

The meaning of which is poorly defined and highly contested

The problem is that - in recent times - the word 'gender' has become conflated with 'gender identity'.

Certainly, when I was younger, the word was used interchangeably with 'sex' in everyday speech.

What does it mean?

Gender: You are Either Female or Male according to your DNA profile.

No that's sex

gender is the stereotypes ascribed to ppl because of their sex eg all girls like pink

You just described sex. Gender is no longer just a prudish synonym for sex.

There is no such person as a cis woman. Women are not a subset of our own sex class. Trans-identified man are a subset of the male sex class. The overwhelming majority of sexual offences are committed by males, however they identify, which is why no men belong in female spaces.

Gender used to mean masculine or feminine.

It does not mean male or female as that refers to sex.

For example someone could be a 'masculine' woman or a 'feminine' man but those are just very outdated gender stereotypes now.

Gender is obsolete in that respect now unless you are very old fashioned but it still applies in language ie French nouns.

Many thanks for that response, and for the link to the obit - we should all be grateful to Selwyn Goldsmith. It's astonishing that it took an individual to tackle an issue which women had known about for years - in about 1990 I went with a friend to the ballet at the Royal Opera House. I cannot recall which ballet we watched, but I do remember spending the entire interval queueing up for a bloody pee.

I can understand the issues with old buildings (I live in one, it fails modern standards on multiple counts), but I remain bugged by places like modern pubs and cinemas, or present-day events (local agricultural show, I'm looking at you) where the women queue and the men never have to.

Edited to add, and hats off to Selwyn G for the dropped kerb.

That is sex. Gender is a grammatical term, best not applied to any animal or plant. Very much best not applied to humans.

Oh. No. Now I'm painting that picture in my head. It's not pretty. 😩

Okay. The trouble is that people use it to mean different things. Because of the Gender Recognition Act and the Equality Act, we've had to get more specific.

So 'gender reveal parties' work on a DNA profile result? I did not know that.

I can only really speak for myself, so that's what I'm doing in this post.

When I was a young man, I would have been highly embarrassed at the presence of a woman in the gents, and utterly unable to cope with a woman in a men's changing room (but that didn't happen). These days, I'd cope with no more than a bit of discomfort at the situation. In the changing room situation, I would get out as quickly as possible, out of a concern about being accused of inappropriate behaviour myself. The same pretty much applies to how I'd feel in the presence of a "transwoman" in those locations, to be honest. But my feelings are only of unease and discomfort, and I would have very little reason to be afraid. As a young man, with far less experience of the weirder aspects of human behaviour, I was uneasy with many non-conforming expressions, in the same way that many people are weirded out by eyeball tattoos or forked tongues.

So I'd prefer trans identifying people to use universal toilets and individual changing rooms wherever possible. If those are not available, they can use the single sex facilities provided for us all, according to their sex and in line with the Equality Act 2010 and the Supreme Court's FWS judgment, and I will put up with my discomfort. I hope I would have seen this issue the same way when I was a young man.

I've never come across tampons in any gents toilets I've been in, so perhaps that shows that most people don't see them as spaces for women, even those women who think they'd be happier as men.

But it means something different to sex