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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

What's the deal guys?

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shadesOfTeal · 17/02/2026 21:23

I don't think this post is going to last long but what's the deal with hating trans women so much? I've been a women for 13 years of my life since 18 and it's never been a problem. Suddenly I'm not only talk of the town but also an evil man stealing everyone's rights away from them? I wasn't much of a boy as a kid anyway but. I just wanted to ask like what's the deal? Why do you hate the idea of me existing so much? What have I personally done to you that's been so bad? I feel like I need to be careful with my words because it'll be easy to accuse me of all sorts but I've done no harm to anyone. If you want to ask a trans woman some honest questions then please do, I don't usually talk about it in my day to day life and that, I'm pretty down to earth and will help you understand as much as possible. But I'd like to ask the people that hate me so much, can we ever get along? Please don't assume I'm what the internet and the media says I am though, I'm not like that at all! I just want us all to get on and I'm sick of having my life debated every 5 minutes.

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DialSquare · 19/02/2026 08:49
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onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:50

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 08:46

”That first paragraph is a mangled recontextualisation of various facts I have conveyed here. I'm not asking anyone, here especially, to accept them or to be more obvious, be capable of believing them. They just are.”

They are not the female experiences you describe them as, no. They are specifically male experiences that you keep telling us are female experiences and that you therefore should be except to being excluded from female single sex provisions.

You also keep doubling down and telling us that you will still continue to use female single sex provisions even after we point out why you should not.

I have not ‘recontextualised’ your posts away from what they mean for female people and our needs.

And every single time you access a female single sex provision, you are demanding that female people accept your ‘facts’ as being those of a female person. So, again you are mistaken in your defence that you are not asking for people to believe you outside of your immediate support circle.

However, this post again shows how you need to compartmentalise information to make it fit what you need to believe and deny the harms to others.

What you are calling female experiences are my experiences. Whether or not you wish to share them is not up to me and is solely your belief at that moment.

How you decide to understand my life is not my responsibility.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 08:50

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:47

I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.

Sex realists would agree with you. Maybe not anyone else.

We understand that some countries allow legal fiction.

Legal fiction doesn’t replace material reality though. Surely someone explained that to you at the time.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:54

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 08:50

We understand that some countries allow legal fiction.

Legal fiction doesn’t replace material reality though. Surely someone explained that to you at the time.

I've only ever seen the words 'legal' and 'fiction' together from sex realists. So, I would assume it's part of their sovereign citizen lingo.

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 08:56

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:47

I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.

Sex realists would agree with you. Maybe not anyone else.

Being a 'legal' woman when you aren't a biological woman is utter nonsense and again, everybody knows that, even you.

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 08:58

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:54

I've only ever seen the words 'legal' and 'fiction' together from sex realists. So, I would assume it's part of their sovereign citizen lingo.

It's a well known term. It's what happens when people are allowed to lie about verifiable facts on legal documents.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 08:59

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:50

What you are calling female experiences are my experiences. Whether or not you wish to share them is not up to me and is solely your belief at that moment.

How you decide to understand my life is not my responsibility.

'What you are calling female experiences are my experiences'

I am just going to repeat this post here I think. Maybe it will sink in.

All humans generally have both estrogen and testosterone naturally produced in their bodies.

The quantities you are taking are not naturally produced in your body. You are not ‘replacing’ estrogen at the levels your body ‘needs’. You have undertaken a decades long cosmetic procedure, it is not a replacement programme. And sure by now, your body might need that exogenous chemical, still doesn’t make your body female though.

Perhaps, it should be called a supplement programme? But that doesn’t fit with the whole narrative that male people have changed sex.

Just like it doesn’t fit with the behaviour of using words used to describe distinct female body processes for something that a male person or group of male people have decided they want to acquire. ‘Acquired’ meaning their bodies are not going anywhere through that process at all, but ‘near enough is good enough’ seems to be the key.

Just like a male person suppressing male puberty then goes through nothing like a ‘female puberty.’ A male person cannot have a female puberty. If they take puberty blockers from the start of puberty and then estrogen, they simply have a male estrogen driven puberty. Which is not a ‘female puberty.’ But near enough is apparently good enough for any male person who uses that language.

Just like male people cycling hormones are not having anything like a ‘period’. They are not having a menstrual cycle, they are simply cycling hormones artificially in their body and calling it a ‘period’, because they want to use female language. Again near enough is apparently good enough for any male person who uses that language.

Just like any male using the term ‘menopause’. Again near enough is apparently good enough for any male person who uses that language.

Each of the terms I mention, female puberty, periods, menopause have specific meaning. They are not terms that a male person can claim to have some symptoms of (even completely artificially created through hormone control) so therefore they can just claim that is what they are going through. That is the point many of us have tried to point out over and over.

And even the claim that a male person undergoing a particular ‘protocol’ means that male person has then got the exact same breast physiology and the endocrine system to control the function of that body part to ‘feed’ an infant. No. The male breast will never ‘mature’ exactly like a female breast. It will mature only to the point the male breast can mature and no further.

But in this case, ‘near enough’ is putting an infant at risk of harm. Even a male medical specialist who transitioned himself declared this was wrong and he wouldn’t be making that decision knowing it could put his infant child at great risk for unknown future complications.

Of course, this is where that entire behaviour pattern of ‘near enough is good enough’ has given the group of male people who do make the decision, this false belief that they are ‘breastfeeding’ an infant. when no, they are merely feeding the secretions from their male breast to an infant. Hugely limited in quantity, and not producing staged milk or specifically tailored to that child. Because they lack the body parts for that refinement.

Yet … near enough is good enough, eh?

Everytime a male person claims to be experiencing a specific female body process when they cannot and are not, they are stating clearly that they have simply acquired medical terminology, formal or informal, for themselves and repurposed it.

Yes, your body is processing estrogen, some of it naturally produced. It does so because of your deliberate decision to remove the body part needed to produce testosterone, that estrogen is what your body is using to survive.

If a male person were going on ‘HRT’, that would be them taking testosterone because they chose to have their primary testosterone production body part removed. Or it is not working through disease or injury. Even for extreme body modification to support an identity. Yet male people claim the term ‘HRT’ for artificially supplementing estrogen at levels their body was never going to produce naturally if it was in good health. So, it is a false use of the term.

Of course, you need to be clear to any medical staff that you are a male person taking estrogen and any other chemicals, and that you don’t produce testosterone from testes and that you haven’t for decades. That is your medical history and it is vital information to have for making medical decisions for you and a medical team.

However, the medical record should indicate you are still male, not female. In surgery, your medical team should have made all the calculations based on someone being male but having no ability to produce male ranges of testosterone, taking exogenous estrogen in a dosage range greater than the male range for decades. No poster is denying this. It is fact. Of course all human bodies naturally produce some of both hormones. That is not being denied at all.

What posters are pointing out is that none of the medical processes any male person undertakes makes them female.

That male people acquiring female language to describe some symptoms, even completely artificially induced symptoms, does not mean that male person is materially experiencing what they have labelled the experience. Perhaps they are using those words to make themselves feel good, perhaps they don’t understand that they are behaving in a way that is misogynistic in doing so. Perhaps they have told themselves it is harmless to anyone else that they use these words and it means their mental health is so much better for it. Whatever the reason, the outcome is still the same.

Male people are not experiencing the processes they use the terms for. They might be experiencing some symptoms that are similar but this ‘near enough is good enough’ approach from those male people is harmful to female people collectively.

So, no. You did not 'experience' female body processes, no matter how many times you double down on saying you did.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:59

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 08:56

Being a 'legal' woman when you aren't a biological woman is utter nonsense and again, everybody knows that, even you.

I must have missed all the 'biological woman' signs.

teawamutu · 19/02/2026 08:59

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:54

I've only ever seen the words 'legal' and 'fiction' together from sex realists. So, I would assume it's part of their sovereign citizen lingo.

Nope: https://academic.oup.com/clp/article/77/1/413/7825890

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 09:00

Interesting to see "sex realist" used as a sneer. When did that happen?

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 09:00

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:59

I must have missed all the 'biological woman' signs.

Woman is a biological category. No need for them, unless you are being deliberately obtuse.

Funny, I've never seen a 'legal woman' sign on a door. Have you?

Igneococcus · 19/02/2026 09:01

Biological is the only way of being a woman.

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 09:02

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:59

I must have missed all the 'biological woman' signs.

Pretty pointless to have the sign if it means anything else.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:03

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:54

I've only ever seen the words 'legal' and 'fiction' together from sex realists. So, I would assume it's part of their sovereign citizen lingo.

Ahhh.... another accusation of women being far right or supremicists or whatever makes you feel good about then dismissing them. You make it clear over and over that you consider the discussions that we have on this board is some minority fringe belief. Whereas it is actually a reflection of the majority opinion of the population and in most cases the law of the UK.

And no, there are numerous 'legal fictions'. Your declaration that you are female legally is just one 'legal fiction'.

teawamutu · 19/02/2026 09:03

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:59

I must have missed all the 'biological woman' signs.

No, you just read them the way you wanted to.

Lots of people did, until the Supreme Court helpfully clarified for us last year.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:04

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 09:00

Woman is a biological category. No need for them, unless you are being deliberately obtuse.

Funny, I've never seen a 'legal woman' sign on a door. Have you?

I've never thought of myself as a 'legal woman.' Should I have been looking for one?

TheKeatingFive · 19/02/2026 09:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:04

I've never thought of myself as a 'legal woman.' Should I have been looking for one?

No because it's nonsense and you know it.

Being a woman is biological state. You are not a woman.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:59

I must have missed all the 'biological woman' signs.

Maybe you should actually read the two judgements handed down over the past year. Those judgements were very clear despite what a group of activists heavily invested in male people having access to female single sex provisions say.

Did you miss Friday's judgement?

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 09:05

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 08:50

What you are calling female experiences are my experiences. Whether or not you wish to share them is not up to me and is solely your belief at that moment.

How you decide to understand my life is not my responsibility.

It is not within our gift to 'share' female experiences.

If an experience can be shared by men and women, it is an experience that can be shared by men and women.

All black cats are cats. A blackbird is not a cat.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:06

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:04

I've never thought of myself as a 'legal woman.' Should I have been looking for one?

Yet, you felt the need to say

'I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.'

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 09:09

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:06

Yet, you felt the need to say

'I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.'

'I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.'

Anyone who believes this needs to re-read the GRA.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:10

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:03

Ahhh.... another accusation of women being far right or supremicists or whatever makes you feel good about then dismissing them. You make it clear over and over that you consider the discussions that we have on this board is some minority fringe belief. Whereas it is actually a reflection of the majority opinion of the population and in most cases the law of the UK.

And no, there are numerous 'legal fictions'. Your declaration that you are female legally is just one 'legal fiction'.

There really is no subtlety allowed here, is there. Everything is immediately referenced in the most direct and unflattering way.

I will state it plainly: I see similarities in the way in-group terms and phrases are shared within sex realism, with how I learned about sovereign citizen incantations. Magic words and shiboleths, oh my!

Yes, it's probably very obvious. I believe sex realism is a niche obsession.

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:12

nicepotoftea · 19/02/2026 09:09

'I am a woman, legally, as any other woman who has immigrated to the UK.'

Anyone who believes this needs to re-read the GRA.

I don't have a GRC. I don't need a GRC.

Helleofabore · 19/02/2026 09:14

onepostwonder · 19/02/2026 09:10

There really is no subtlety allowed here, is there. Everything is immediately referenced in the most direct and unflattering way.

I will state it plainly: I see similarities in the way in-group terms and phrases are shared within sex realism, with how I learned about sovereign citizen incantations. Magic words and shiboleths, oh my!

Yes, it's probably very obvious. I believe sex realism is a niche obsession.

Why do you believe that anyone should accept a misrepresentation if the person falsely believes that they have done it with 'subtlety'?

You really do believe that 'near enough is good enough', don't you? It comes across as how you live your life?

Brefugee · 19/02/2026 09:14

pawsedforthought · 18/02/2026 19:09

My 1988 monsters of rock t-shirt gets an annual airing at another annual 1 day rock festival 😁

ignoring all the posts between then and here - that was Maiden right? Kiss? Guns 'n' Roses (and those two poor lads died during their set)

That was a good day (until i heard the news)

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