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Isn’t AGP also what every woman experiences when they get dressed up & feel good about themselves?

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Theboredpanda · 20/01/2026 11:04

I have no agenda here. I’ve always just been interested in exploring other perspectives of debates…although I’m sure this particular thought will get flamed on here and end up very one-sided indeed 🤣
I don’t believe every trans woman has AGP, but I believe a significant proportion do. And I’ve always considered that proportion to be creepy, I feel anger at the fact these men get to walk around, at least in some circles, socially accepted as women, just so they can satisfy a sexual fetish. However, I was thinking about how I feel as a woman who’s comfortable and happy about being a woman when I get dressed up in my favourite sexy outfit and put on some makeup. It makes me feel sexy. Not sexually aroused but I do feel sexy. Is that vastly different to what a trans woman feels like when they get dressed up and look (at least in their eyes) like a woman? Could it be that it’s either not AGP and we all feel sexy when we know we look good as the gender we are or want to be…or everyone’s a bit AGP when they think they look sexy because they therefore feel sexy? Or is this a totally unoriginal thought that’s already been troped out by TRAs and actually there is a huge difference??

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selffellatingouroborosofhate · 26/01/2026 00:17

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:17

Your accusation is incorrect :) Mnay women seem to disagree, they have no issue with men and women in the same toilets. But you seem to disregard women who disagree with you and claim you speak for an roughly half the human population. Arrogant identity politics.

The "vote" for allowing men into women's loos is not a majority referendum but a Freemasons-style [https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blackballing blackball vote]] with a rejection threshold of one.

If one woman objects to the space being mixed, it stays single-sex.

All girls below the age of majority have a proxy vote of "reject" cast for them, because they are not old enough to consent to the extra risk of men being in the space.

The space stays single-sex. The Equality Act is clear.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 26/01/2026 00:28

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:14

If it's a child class, then I don't have a problem with neither women nor men not being allowed. That's an organised event. Not a public toilet.

The toilet is a public toilet for female people.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:11

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 12:11

Some people in every population are predators, that's not justification to tell people who aren;t doing anything wrong where they can or can't go. And those pictures aren't validating your argument, because if a man behaves inappropriately in the men's room, that is just as wrong, and if bad enough, could result in arrest. Which room it happens in makes no difference.

Any male in a female only space is AUTOMATICALLY doing something wrong. That's what you don't understand.

The female sex is vulnerable, which is why it is worse when a male gets his erect penis out in front of little girls and women.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:12

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 12:17

Good thing you aren't a mental health professional, telling people their trauma is 'appropriation'. I thought a lot of gender critical people claimed that there's an excessive number of autistic and 'neurodivergent' people groomed into being trans? The switch flips very fast from treating them as victims, to demonizing them.

Er, I am saying they are appropriating OTHER PEOPLE'S TRAUMA. I never mentioned anything about their so-called trauma.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:15

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 12:45

"Who is making that generalisation?" The people saying that men wearing dresses is a sign of being a pedo? Such as Posie Parker, and saying that men wearing dresses is inappropriate around children. How is that supporting gender non conformity?

"There is undoubtedly a group of male people with paraphilias that include them being treated as if they are female as a means of sexual arousal."

If people feel ;aroused' internally but aren't doing anything inappropriate, then I'm not sure what the issue is? You'll never know what other people are thinking because you're not a mind reader, so what people's inner fetishes are is irrelevant unless they commit an actual crime. And more importantly, you can't tell what people think or feel based on how they dress. So trying to promote speculation that men wearing dresses is somehow very relevant to being a pervert is actively at odds with the claim that it's okay for boys and men to be as feminine as they want.

If people feel ;aroused' internally but aren't doing anything inappropriate, then I'm not sure what the issue is?

A male having an erection in the ladies room is inappropriate. Only a predator themselves cannot see this, or do see it and pretend it's ok.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:17

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 12:55

They actually aren't banned. Even the supreme court ruling distinguished that it's up to individual people if they want to let trans people into into a single sex space or not. Although, none of my comments had a single thing to do with trans women being men. It was about how people dress.

"So if a trans woman ignores the law and he still chooses to go in a woman-only space, he is a predator." Wrong again. Being a predator is what makes someone a predator. It requires intent and action. If a man goes into the women's toilets and doesn't do anything predatory, then he's not a predator. Reality prevails.

Appealing to the law also isn't very smart, it just shows your authoritarian inclinations. Women who get abortions in countries where it's illegal are technically seen as criminals too. I'm sure you question laws all the time and even see them as wrong. The same applies here. People who want to treat public toilets as important safety issues to the point of false accusations of being a predator, are very much in the wrong.

WRONG! The ruling makes clear that if an area is LABELLED as single sex, it must, BY LAW, be single sex.

You are confusing gender neutral/unisex with single sex.

'People' (and I say that loosely) who support males in female only intimate safe single sex spaces are very much in the wrong in EVERYONE'S eyes apart from sexual predator's eyes.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:33

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 19:40

So you'd accuse this person of being a predator? He's a trans man, but how you know if you saw him leaving or entering the women's room?

Again, the photoshop test stopped working 40 thousand times ago.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:34

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 19:31

Accusing an alleged trans woman of being a predator and wanting him fired for mentioning a bra fitting service to a 14 year old and her mother, which was wrongly referred to as a "man offering to change a girl's bra". Some people seem to think that just falsely accusing people of things is okay.

Any male who doesn't work on that floor, had no business being there, and approaches a girl to talk about underwear is automatically a dangerous sexual predator.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:36

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 19:24

If a man goes in and out of the toilet, and doesn;t loiter or cause a scene, then I doubt it would amount to much, even if this were true. Most people likely wouldn't care. Even more so if the toilet isn't busy.

I can see you're the type of person who wants to loosen what it actually means to be a predator though. A bit like the people who say staring at people should be considered a minor crime.

A male going into a FEMALE toilet is AUTOMATICALLY a predator. He has no reason to go in there, and no woman wants him there. It causes TRAUMA to rape and DV survivors. Only someone with no morals and no compassion, empathy or human decency doesn't understand this.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:37

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 19:18

I'm not either of the things you labelled me as. But it's interesting to be labbelled and MRA for stating that men who wear dresses shouldn't be accused of being pedo's just for how they dress. Last I checked, MRA's are often very mocking toward feminine men.

You want to remove womens hard won rights. That makes you an MRA.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:42

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 19:01

I don;t agree with people calling it safeguarding because you can't safeguard an open door, rapists can already go in there. Strangely, they don't though.

So you can't safeguard a 'Staff Only' door either? There is a reason rooms are labelled.

Only predators want to REMOVE safeguards for women and girls.

And rapists don't go in there? Really? Say that to women who were raped by a male in the womens toilets, like these:

Isn’t AGP also what every woman experiences when they get dressed up & feel good about themselves?
Isn’t AGP also what every woman experiences when they get dressed up & feel good about themselves?
ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:43

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:50

The law doesn't say a man is a predator for being in the women's room. There's no conviction a man will face unless he actually does something wrong. Breaking the law does not = convicted of rape/assault. Duh

You neglected to answer my question about abortion, given your ridded and technical language: Do you view women and doctors as killers of unborn babies if it happens in a country where it's unlawful/illegal? Do you judge them just as harshly purely based on the legal status? Or do you make an exception because it's something you might be biased about? Just wondering how much you actually believe what you're saying.

WRONG yet again. Voyeurism, as well as Indecent Exposure, are charges that men get if they go into the ladies. You really have no idea just how ignorant you are on this.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:44

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:21

I, and many people disagree that it's important for toilets to be 'sexed' in the first place.

Only MRAs and predators who don't recognise the vulnerability and humanity of females don't understand why it is VITAL that toilets are 'sexed'.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:47

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:35

"Male on male rape is talked about by the media and is taken much more seriously than the rape of women or girls."
😄Based on absolutely nothing whatsoever. Odd then that most domestic abuse and rape subjects are mostly dedicated to women. But you seem to think that something being more common makes less common things unimportant. "Women get raped more!"

"Women cant rape anyone so there's no women on women rape to report and the vanishingly rare cases of women sexually assaulting women are reported its just so rare that you probably missed it"

I think it's fine to call women rapists. I'm aware of the stupid definition change, but it's wrong. Most people in general aren't rapists, but you don't have to be so dismissive about it just because you're biased against female predators getting attention.

"Any man however he identifies who enters a female single sex facilitie is a predator who is intentionally braking the law and social convention that is a fact whether you like it or not."

Explain to me how a man is a predator if he walks into the toilet, uses the toilet, washes his hands and leaves. None of that is predatory. You can disapprove of him being there as much as you want, and it could be as illegal as you want, but factually speaking, it doesn't make him a predator, it means he's broken the law, quite a difference. He would have to assault someone, or at the very least spy on or harass someone in order to be considered a predator. How is a gay man a predator against women, if he has no interest in them and says/does nothing to them. You're not a serious person.

Do you view women and doctors as killers of unborn babies if it happens in a country where it's unlawful/illegal? Do you judge them just as harshly purely based on the legal status? Or do you make an exception because it's something you might be biased about? Just wondering how much you actually believe what you're saying.

You've always needed a penis to rape. Women don't have a penis.

Explain how it is not predatory for a male to enter a space where women and girls are in a state of partial to full undress where they are supposed to be safe from men. A man who wants to use the toilet will use the man's toilet.

And again, your rubbish about gay men. Some men hate women so much that they will enjoy seeing women uncomfortable. THAT, is what those men get out of it.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:52

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:37

Toilets are toilets. Not safe spaces.

WRONG!! As you've already been told; Women flee to the ladies to escape a man. We cry. Seek help. We miscarry there. We change out at the sinks to go clubbing. We wash blood-stained underwear at the sink, and baby sick off our blouses. We are in a semi state of dress and sometimes momentarily completely naked. We don't want MALES there, understand? Perhaps LISTEN to women instead of mansplaining about such a PRIVATE ISSUE that you as a male, will NEVER understand!

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:53

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:41

It's factually wrong to say that someone is a predator because they go against a law. Being a predator requires intent and action. That's your fallacy.

Any male that enters a female space has intent and action. That makes him a predator. That is your fallacy.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:54

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:42

And? That doesn't make it wrong. Do you think something should always be considered a crime, just because of law?

It is morally wrong for a male to enter a female only space. One who isn't a predator doesn't need this to be explained.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:56

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:51

I don't judge people based on social expectations. You can, that's on you. And trans people are typically not expected to not use the opposite toilets. They were doing it for decades without it being treated like a serious issue.

That is an oft repeated myth with no basis in any fact. There is zero evidence males were using female toilets 'for decades'. If they were, we'd know immediately, the police would be called, the filthy predator would be charged and have 19 shades of hell beaten out of him by other men and if he survived that, he never entered the ladies again!

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 01:57

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:01

If you're argument is that it's okay to penalize people who haven't done anything wrong because of trends, then that's not a sensible argument. Being a pest, something that many non trans people are, has nothing to do with criminality either. I don't dictate where people go because I don't like their personality or behaviour, unless they actually commit a crime.

Men are not being 'penalised' because they can't go in the female toilets.... Hmm

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 26/01/2026 02:04

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 18:35

"Male on male rape is talked about by the media and is taken much more seriously than the rape of women or girls."
😄Based on absolutely nothing whatsoever. Odd then that most domestic abuse and rape subjects are mostly dedicated to women. But you seem to think that something being more common makes less common things unimportant. "Women get raped more!"

"Women cant rape anyone so there's no women on women rape to report and the vanishingly rare cases of women sexually assaulting women are reported its just so rare that you probably missed it"

I think it's fine to call women rapists. I'm aware of the stupid definition change, but it's wrong. Most people in general aren't rapists, but you don't have to be so dismissive about it just because you're biased against female predators getting attention.

"Any man however he identifies who enters a female single sex facilitie is a predator who is intentionally braking the law and social convention that is a fact whether you like it or not."

Explain to me how a man is a predator if he walks into the toilet, uses the toilet, washes his hands and leaves. None of that is predatory. You can disapprove of him being there as much as you want, and it could be as illegal as you want, but factually speaking, it doesn't make him a predator, it means he's broken the law, quite a difference. He would have to assault someone, or at the very least spy on or harass someone in order to be considered a predator. How is a gay man a predator against women, if he has no interest in them and says/does nothing to them. You're not a serious person.

Do you view women and doctors as killers of unborn babies if it happens in a country where it's unlawful/illegal? Do you judge them just as harshly purely based on the legal status? Or do you make an exception because it's something you might be biased about? Just wondering how much you actually believe what you're saying.

There has been no definition change on this side of the Atlantic. Rape has always involved a penis in English law. Tell me you are American without telling me...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5475381-well-this-was-totally-predictable?reply=149936282 explains why eliding rape with other forms of sexual assault is not progressive and does not benefit women.

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Woman identifying as a man is 'raped in all-male psychiatric ward' [[https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-15461027/Transgender-man-raped-male-psyc...

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5475381-well-this-was-totally-predictable?reply=149936282

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 02:07

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:12

Doesn't actually answer the question. You can't tell apart a passable trans man or a man at a brie glance, sometimes even a long one. So, a man could easily walk in, claim he's a trans man, and you wouldn't know any better.

Again, this has been answered 40 thousand times, the 'but what about trans men' gotcha. We know a small beardy female from an actual male. You men can't because you don't have the evolutionary instinct. It is hardwired into women as a survival instinct to spot a male. Studies show women and even young girls can accurately determine sex 96% of the time. But because you men don't have that survival instinct, you ass'ume women don't, too. That, is where you're very wrong.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 02:09

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 17:04

I disagree. Especially if they have made an effort to pass. You don't seem to care about intentions. I do.

None of them pass. Their male skulls and male skeletal structure is far too different. Makeup only accentuates the male jawbone, if anything. It doesn't hide it. And we don't give a fuck about their 'intentions'. We care about how they make us feel. That's the only important issue.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 02:11

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 16:43

There's already privacy in toilets. That's what cubicles are.

Again, WRONG!! Women flee to the ladies to escape a man. We cry. Seek help. We miscarry there. We change out at the sinks out in the open, not in a cubicle, to go clubbing. We wash blood-stained underwear at the sink, out in the open, and baby sick off our blouses, again, right out in the open.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 02:14

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 16:33

I don;t think so, in the case of the ones that make an effort to pass.

None of them pass. Most of them try so hard to pass that they look like a ridiculous caricature of what they think women look like and prefer to dress like. They only stand out even more.

And spaces that are designed to keep males out don't have an exemption for 'effort'.

ThatBlackCat · 26/01/2026 02:15

Skywinn · 25/01/2026 16:29

"Why does this remind me of Felix telling women they can't do this, that and the other, mustn't speculate, etc."

Both men and women complain about this, not just women.

"Women can absolutely accuse men who are violating their boundaries in their single sex space, without consent, as being predators."

You can, but you're both factually and morally wrong to do so. Just as people could accuse you of being a baby killer for getting an abortion. You might not appreciate that, but people can say it. You don't seem to understand what a predator is. If a man is in the women's toilets, who has no intention of harming anyone, does their business and leaves, they are, factually, not a predator or a criminal. A predator has to have predatory intent and action. You can be uncomfortable with whatever you want, but it doesn't make you're accusations true.

Using the word consent also comes off as manipulative. Since people being in a public place isn't actually a violation of anyone's personal rights. And if this is just about comfort and dignity, and not just about safety, then why is it okay for women to use the men's room? Men are even more exposed than women in there, because they have urinals, not just cubicles. It's all the more easy for men to be spied on when they urinate. And that does happen.

Any male in a female only space is AUTOMATICALLY a predator. You, are morally, and legally, wrong.

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