I think we can sometimes be a bit nostalgic for the old school transsexuals because we all tacitly accepted that it was a polite fiction. We know Denise is really Dennis, and Denise certainly understands that he's male, but we know and like Denise and we don't want to be assholes.
It's been disconcerting to see a new generation coming up who have been marinated in gender theory in school and college, and who literally believe that human beings can change sex. That's the danger of operating a polite fiction where we can't actually say it's a polite fiction.
I wonder if there's something similar going on with extreme and violent rhetoric from the trans community. Like there might be older transpeople who are just indulging in dramatic hyperbole, but they're also grooming a generation of Hong Wei Bing who will take their words literally and act on them.
If you've convinced mentally ill youngsters that society is mostly composed of fascists who hate them and want to kill them, the chances are good that at least a few will be unhinged enough to do something atrocious.