What would you actually do if you saw a transperson in the wrong toilet/changing room for their sex?

[FattyMcFattyArse]

I've been pondering this ever since the FWS decision and since I saw an obviously male transperson using the ladies at a service station. I initially froze and wanted to say something, but all my Britishness and female social conditioning made me just mutter under my breath and walk away in disgust.

What would you do?

What have you done?

What is the right thing to do?

They don't belong there, according to the law.

Toilet honestly I would probably just continue into a cubicle, changing room at the gym where it’s open plan with no cubicles I’d self-exclude and leave, I will not get undressed in the same room as a man I don’t know and I don’t want to see them undressed either.

I wouldn't make a show of him but I'd definitely have a quiet word. I'm old now, so no fear!

What would I do? Mind my own fucking business and get on with my hand washing.

Me too.

And if I was by myself, I’d leave too.

Changing rooms - I’d leave and report to customer service or reception and wait to see they took action to remove him. If they didn’t I would call the police to report flashing.

Hard to say - it would probably depend on my mood. I'd certainly say something and if there was security I'd complain to them and tell them they needed to remove the man from the woman's toilets.

Stand our side in the safety where he couldn't see me and shout out very loud that there's a man in the ladies toilets

I’d do absolutely nothing. It really isn’t something I worry about.

The epitome of “I’m alright Jack and sod
everyone else”.

Well nothing in the moment other then get out as fast as possible. Possibly complain to the venue but I'm not interested in confronting a man who's bold enough to breach the law and woman's boundaries, outing myself to him as a 'terf bigot' while either alone with him or surrounded by potential trans allies (other women).

I'm not confrontational though and usually have my kids with me. Nothing but respect for those who do though.

Depends on the situation. If it was in a shop/restaurant/service station I would leave and report to the manager.
if I was on my own eg isolated public toilet, I would just leave. Men in women’s toilets scare me.

I wouldn’t confront in person as it would be intimidating. But I would certainly report to the venue/employer and then to the police if he was not ejected.

I did at Heathrow recently. I was coming out of a toilet cubicle. The guy, easily six foot in a flowery summer dress, was just coming in. We made eye contact because obviously I knew straight away it was a man (before I’d even clicked what he was wearing) and I couldn’t help looking at him. He looked confident. I found it very uncomfortable. Maybe it’s that I’ve been conditioned not to be expect men in the ladies’ toilets apart from male cleaners (and I don’t like that either) but I’d quite like not to have to get used to it.

I think I’d probably turn tail. I do not want to be in an enclosed space with the kind of man who is happy to trample women’s boundaries.

if I did have the presence of mind to say something I think it would be something along the lines of ‘this is the women’s toilet’

I’d do the same
Publicans toilets are a real problem as there are no police around

So an email to local MP, police and Local council pointing out there’s a health and safety issue and a request on clearer signage . I have done this in our local town and there’s now external cctv and clearer signage

In a shop I’d report to the manager or/ and security
and wait for them to be removed so I can use the loo.

Following the Supreme Court judgement, I assume that any male going into the women's toilet or changing room is a bad faith actor hoping to be challenged and looking for conflict and may be surreptitiously filming or recording any encounters. I'd get myself out of there as quickly as possible for my own safety.

Email Heathrow possibly or they will do nothing

If I was alone I’d leave, if there was another woman or girl there I’d leave when she did. Safety first.

If I was with my DD, not leave her alone. If toilet was busy, exchange raised eyebrows with the other women. If quiet, not leave if I thought there was a vulnerable woman or girl in there who might end up alone. If quiet, possibly mention to any women walking in as I walk out.

There’s no point risking your physical safety by having a pop at somebody who is bigger and stronger than you. And fundamentally if you raise it with them, they are not going to agree and will be offended. So you are risking a reaction.

Same here. I wouldn’t leave another woman alone with him but I would get out of there as quickly as possible. I would also report to the venue/security where possible.

I like to think that if I saw a man in a woman's space, then I'd point out that he's in the wrong place and that if he argued, I'd look for a member of staff to report him to.

In practice, I probably wouldn't do anything - not out of fear but because I'm not very good at responding in unexpected situations. I tend to freeze up and think afterwards of whatever I should have said at the time.

If they’re minding their own business and getting on with what they need to do eg using the loo or getting changed I’d just do the same. I’ve been at venues with unisex toilets and used them with no issue.

It is all women's business when men invade women only spaces.

OP isn’t referring to unisex toilets. They are designed very differently
They are referring to women’s toilets