What would you actually do if you saw a transperson in the wrong toilet/changing room for their sex?

[FattyMcFattyArse]

I've been pondering this ever since the FWS decision and since I saw an obviously male transperson using the ladies at a service station. I initially froze and wanted to say something, but all my Britishness and female social conditioning made me just mutter under my breath and walk away in disgust.

What would you do?

What have you done?

What is the right thing to do?

They don't belong there, according to the law.

Continue with my own life and not bother them in anyway

I don't think I'd be brave enough to confront him. If it was just me and him I'd leave. If there were other women in there I'd stay for safety in numbers as I wouldn't want to leave another woman in a potentially vulnerable position.

I said “I’ll come back when you’ve gone” and waited for him to leave. I complained to management. This was about three years ago (leisure centre changing room).

For those who aren’t that bothered with men in women’s toilets and are happy with Unisex toilets

What do you feel about the ever growing trend of spy cameras being installed. Leading to images of yourself and others being looked at and for some uploaded on porn websites

Depends on the situation. If it was somewhere that people go repeatedly to the same place (work/gym etc) I would report to the appropriate person.

If it wasn’t, then depending on the situation I would probably leave, keeping an eye out until he left to check other people were safe. If there were other women I would definitely catch eyes to clock that we had all noticed. And if it was somewhere I felt pretty safe, and by extension felt there was absolutely no reason that all men wouldnt feel safe in the men’s (eg large department store/library etc) I may give the man in question a ‘hard stare’ (like Paddington). I would never actually say anything.

Assuming this thread is fairly typical of female responses, makes you wonder who on earth all these women are who are apparently confronting butch lesbians, doesn’t it?

How would I know if it was a transwoman or a cis man?

First I would ask them to fill in a short survey on their gender identity.

Toilets, I just don’t care.

changing rooms I would leave as quickly as possible. I am not comfortable changing around male bodies other than my husband and do not want to see them. I would inform management on my way out.

The last time I approached a biological male in public for a small reason, he attacked me.

So no, I too wouldn't do anything.
THIS is why it's a problem.

Not sure my pelvic floor would last that long
and this is one reason they’d get away with it. A lot of us mothers simply

• can’t wait till they leave
• wait for them for fill out Lemons questionnaire 🤣

Off topic somewhat but I also read that a good percentage of 'women' on death row in the USA are biological men who decided to change gender to escape. male prisons. That is fucking unnaceptable.

Tbh if I saw a man in a Ladies', I'd probably chicken out and not do much unless I saw someone in charge of the toilets.
A changing room however I'd either FIND someone with some power to throw them out or find other like-minded women and do it ourselves.

I think the 2 things are different actually - a man in a Ladies' toilet MIGHT either have misread the sign (like I have before!) or be desperate. But a man in our changing room is a pervert!

Same. I'm just bothered about going to the loo, not looking at everyone else.

Would depend on the circumstances, if on my own I would probably be too scared to challenge a male. They are relying on that though aren't they?

It’s happened to me 2/3 times and I didn’t do anything. I remember the first time I didn’t notice, more recently the trans woman interacted with my 4yo DD I did feel a bit uncomfortable tbh but nothing bad happened

In a loo, if they were quietly just having a wee, probably nothing,. I would probably roll my eyes and not leave anyone alone in there. In a changing room, I would challenge, especially at a pool / gym where women / girls are undressed.

It would depend really, but probably nothing if they were quick and just getting on with it.

Say "hello dave"

If it was a changing room without cubicles I’d leave but otherwise I’d carry on as I was

Do you always turn your head if you see someone breaking the law?

Just leave. Wait outside somewhere safe until they left.

How do you know?
Do you know the man personally and know for definite that he's not a danger to girls and women?

and if you’re desperate for a wee ?

Nothing. I'd just do my business and leave, and I assume I wouldn't see anything of them other than entering their own cubicle and washing their hands. I don't care about unisex toilets so it wouldn't bother me at all, assuming they were just going about their business like anyone else.

If you are indeed pregnant (as in your username) then that would be very sensible.