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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Why is anti-trans so important?

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Elizabethbd · 24/06/2025 11:48

So, I will preface this with saying that I’m not in the UK, and my country does not yet have the kind of anti-trans debate as there is in the English speaking world.

So, I have a hard time understanding why this is such an important question to many women.

Surely there are women’s issues that affect a larger part of society.

I’m thinking rape and violence towards women, homelesness, sex trafficking and honour killings. Why are these issues not more important and worthy of attention, as they affect so many more women than those who come into contact with trans women (or men)?

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Merrymouse · 25/06/2025 14:41

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:28

No I mean men who cynically suddenly decide they are trans when caught for an offence. I think it's clear what I mean and how it affects the stated crime stats of trans women. Posters say it doesn't matter but it does if people iare saying that trans women have a higher incidence of sexual crimes than other men. I'd like to be clearer about what could called ' genuine' trans womens sexual crimes. But I can guess this question is going to be deliberately misunderstood or I'll be told it's irrelevant. I will see if I can find any information myself, just thought someone might have the stats

The distinction you make either doesn’t or can’t exist in law.

The PC of gender reassignment is deliberately vague about classification.

The ECHR has ruled that a GRC can’t be dependent on treatment that would cause sterilisation.

If there ever was an idea that transition could be objectively defined in law, that ship has sailed.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/06/2025 14:42

spannasaurus · 25/06/2025 14:37

There been many posters of late, not just on this thread, who insist that transwomen are no danger to women. When you mention people like Isla Bryson, Karen White and Barbie Kardassian we're told well they're just pretending to be trans but it doesn't seem to click with some posters that these men are treated in the same way as the "real transwomen "

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There's no such thing as pretending to be a trans woman, because being a trans woman doesn't mean anything other than being male and saying you are a woman.

Those are literally the only criteria, so Karen White and Isla Bryson are just as much trans women as Debbie Hayton and Nadia from Bih Brother are.

There's no such thing as pretending to be a male person who says they are a woman. If you're a male person and you're saying you're a woman, you fulfil the only criteria there are.

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:43

spannasaurus · 25/06/2025 14:32

Even if some men are cynically pretending to be trans when caught what difference does it make when these pretending men are being placed in womens prisons.

None of them should be in women's prisons
That's not the point I'm asking about

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 14:44

What is the definition of a ‘genuine transwoman’? If there is not definition, how can statistics be collated to fit this definition?

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:45

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/06/2025 14:42

There's no such thing as pretending to be a trans woman, because being a trans woman doesn't mean anything other than being male and saying you are a woman.

Those are literally the only criteria, so Karen White and Isla Bryson are just as much trans women as Debbie Hayton and Nadia from Bih Brother are.

There's no such thing as pretending to be a male person who says they are a woman. If you're a male person and you're saying you're a woman, you fulfil the only criteria there are.

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Ugh I give up trying to ask a question

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 14:47

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:45

Ugh I give up trying to ask a question

Or do you understand the point we are all making?

That it is you who is gatekeeping who is and isn’t genuine. And you have no definition to describe this category of human, yet you insist there are ‘genuine’ versions of this category of humans.

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:47

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 14:44

What is the definition of a ‘genuine transwoman’? If there is not definition, how can statistics be collated to fit this definition?

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As I just said I give up with asking. I think people know what I mean but want to avoid answering

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:48

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 14:47

Or do you understand the point we are all making?

That it is you who is gatekeeping who is and isn’t genuine. And you have no definition to describe this category of human, yet you insist there are ‘genuine’ versions of this category of humans.

Fine have it your way, this is a waste of time

FlirtsWithRhinos · 25/06/2025 14:52

spannasaurus · 25/06/2025 14:37

There been many posters of late, not just on this thread, who insist that transwomen are no danger to women. When you mention people like Isla Bryson, Karen White and Barbie Kardassian we're told well they're just pretending to be trans but it doesn't seem to click with some posters that these men are treated in the same way as the "real transwomen "

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Exactly.

@LivTwist These men were claiming to be women, and so treated as "women", way before they were arrested and charged.

So if they were not "really" trans women, then something has gone badly wrong with trans rights because they were certainly being treated as if they were.

So what was not in place that should have been to recognise they were fakes, deny their claim of "womanhood" and prevent their access to women's bodies, women-only spaces and women-only services? In all the rush to protect and validate any man who might just, maybe be really and truly this thing called trans, where were the protections for women against the men who were not?

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 14:53

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:48

Fine have it your way, this is a waste of time

It is clear you have no definition, yet you are now expressing your frustration that we won’t agree with your definition that you cannot even describe.

Yet, you expect us and society to accept that there are ‘genuine’ and ‘non-genuine’ transwomen. Perhaps you should actually consider why you are so frustrated and think about why you can’t provide a legal definition of the category you are insisting we provide statistics for.

Merrymouse · 25/06/2025 14:53

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:48

Fine have it your way, this is a waste of time

You may not want to deal with these questions, but people making policy and law must.

Datun · 25/06/2025 14:57

FlirtsWithRhinos · 25/06/2025 11:58

I have a lot of respect for you Datun and I appreciate the "bollocks" was aimed at a specific misreading of a comment, but in a subthread about how someone may or may not feel about being raped I think that's harsher than it needed to be (also also likely to be seized on out of context and used against you).

Wasn't using it about being raped. I was using about the deliberate misunderstanding of the comment.

Shortshriftandlethal · 25/06/2025 14:57

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:47

As I just said I give up with asking. I think people know what I mean but want to avoid answering

I think some people do have an idealised 'transwoman' in their mind - who is 'genuinely' trans. This involves being delicate and emotionally fragile; probably same sex attracted; gets on well with women socially; likes 'girly' things like interior design and getting their hair done etc They've known they're a woman all of their life and have been suffering since childhood. They're harmless.

Is this what you mean by a genuine transwoman'?

FlirtsWithRhinos · 25/06/2025 14:58

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:47

As I just said I give up with asking. I think people know what I mean but want to avoid answering

No Liv, we don't know what you mean. And we are pressing it because we think you don't know what you mean either, not really.

Because you are a nice person (I assume you are at least, and you come across that way) you have taken it on faith that some men are really somehow women on the inside, and that they probably are gay and probably have surgery, and they need to be treated with care and respect and that means pretending they erally are women.

But now you have to really think about that and explain why you believe it you are starting to realise there is a great big gap in the middle with a sign on top saying "don't look too closely at this because questioning it is transphobic and hateful".

And that is what we want you to realise. That the reason you don't have all the answers is not a failing in you but because there are no answers. And you are not failing, you are learning.

Because we have all been there as well.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 25/06/2025 14:59

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:45

Ugh I give up trying to ask a question

Well why don't you have a go at answering one then?

What is the difference between a real trans woman and a man who is just pretending to be a trans woman?

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 15:02

Here I will help.

We need to provide statistics for a group of male people who hold a philosophical belief about themselves that doesn’t reflect material reality and their rate of committing sex crimes. We have done this and yet you are the one rejecting this.

You seem to believe one group of male people’s philosophical belief about themselves that doesn’t reflect material reality at all is more genuine than other male people’s philosophical belief that doesn’t reflect material reality at all. How do you want us to access which group’s philosophical belief about themselves that doesn’t reflect material reality at all is more genuine ?

Both group’s philosophical belief about themselves doesn’t reflect material reality at all.

For instance, Is it about the time they have had this belief? Because those male people are all usually very clear they have experienced this philosophical belief about themselves that doesn’t reflect material reality at all since childhood. But they are only just expressing it now.

Surely no one wants to say to these male people that unless they tell someone and risk outing themselves when they are not ready, then they are not really women or girls at all?

Datun · 25/06/2025 15:08

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:48

Fine have it your way, this is a waste of time

The reason it's not about genuine transwomen vs fakes is because in terms of spaces, it doesn't matter. And self ID doesn't distinguish anyway.

Access to the space cannot be on the basis of the man's own self image. Whether he's a homosexual transsexual or an autogynephile or just a plain predator isn't relevant.

I understand that many people want to make the distinction because one cohort has a fetish and the other doesn't.

But in terms of access to unconsenting women it's immaterial.

What you don't do is create a loophole in safeguarding which means any man can access vulnerable women.

Because guess who is most likely to do that?

Instructions · 25/06/2025 15:08

I can care about more than one issue at a time. My opposition to the trans agenda does not mean I no longer oppose other abuses of women.

Merrymouse · 25/06/2025 15:11

This is Lisa Nandy responding to a question about putting violent men convicted of rape in women’s prisons:

'I believe fundamentally in people's right to self-ID.
'I believe the Gender Recognition Act strikes the wrong balance in relation to that.
'I think that crimes that are recorded should be recorded as that person wishes, having gone through that process, received support and self-identified.
'I think trans women are women, I think trans men are men, so I think they should be accommodated in a prison of their choosing.'

You might not agree with her, but she is aligning herself with what she understood to be the orthodox ‘progressive’ position on this issue, and from that position it makes sense.

Biological women are still classified as female when they commit awful crimes, so why would you treat trans women differently if you genuinely think trans women are women?

Datun · 25/06/2025 15:12

The thing is LivTwist none of these men are women. And women are being used in one way or another to fulfil their requirements.

Right up to and including accessing women and children purely on the basis of their own thoughts and self perception.

It's quite crazy when you think about it.

Instructions · 25/06/2025 15:13

LivTwist · 25/06/2025 14:47

As I just said I give up with asking. I think people know what I mean but want to avoid answering

People are answering. You don't like their answers.

Datun · 25/06/2025 15:23

Merrymouse · 25/06/2025 15:11

This is Lisa Nandy responding to a question about putting violent men convicted of rape in women’s prisons:

'I believe fundamentally in people's right to self-ID.
'I believe the Gender Recognition Act strikes the wrong balance in relation to that.
'I think that crimes that are recorded should be recorded as that person wishes, having gone through that process, received support and self-identified.
'I think trans women are women, I think trans men are men, so I think they should be accommodated in a prison of their choosing.'

You might not agree with her, but she is aligning herself with what she understood to be the orthodox ‘progressive’ position on this issue, and from that position it makes sense.

Biological women are still classified as female when they commit awful crimes, so why would you treat trans women differently if you genuinely think trans women are women?

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She's contradicting herself. I don't think she understood it at all.

'I believe fundamentally in people's right to self-ID.
'I believe the Gender Recognition Act strikes the wrong balance in relation to that.
'I think that crimes that are recorded should be recorded as that person wishes, having gone through that process, received support and self-identified

Self ID doesn't require any process or support. It's just saying it. And the acquisition of a GRC does, at least, require something of a process.

She makes no sense.

Merrymouse · 25/06/2025 15:37

Datun · 25/06/2025 15:23

She's contradicting herself. I don't think she understood it at all.

'I believe fundamentally in people's right to self-ID.
'I believe the Gender Recognition Act strikes the wrong balance in relation to that.
'I think that crimes that are recorded should be recorded as that person wishes, having gone through that process, received support and self-identified

Self ID doesn't require any process or support. It's just saying it. And the acquisition of a GRC does, at least, require something of a process.

She makes no sense.

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She is vague about the process and how you get from A to B, and what she means by ‘women’, so yes, she is confused about that part.

But ignoring that, if you believe that trans women are women in the same way that you believe that anyone with a British passport is British, then it is logical to argue that they should be treated the same.

Lisa Nandy is now a Secretary of State, and I don’t think she has changed her position on prisons, so perhaps that might also in part answer the OP’s query about why this is still such an important question for women.

Helleofabore · 25/06/2025 16:24

Is part of the issue also that some people don’t like to hear that they are gate keeping who is and isn’t transgender according to their personal definition when they talk about ‘true’, ‘genuine’, ‘sincerely’, ‘committed’ people with transgender identities? They are uncomfortable with acknowledging that this is the outcome of their opinion and cannot acknowledge this because they have this amorphous description in their mind but cannot articulate it clearly. And never stop to wonder why people won’t accept their opinion and see other people as the issue and not them.

Another aspect is that they might have never stopped to consider exactly what the terms are that they use and just assumed everyone else ‘knew’. Just assumed that there was this agreed societal definition that everyone agreed to and understood, but couldn’t form into coherent and understandable definitions.

The result is when challenged there is this reluctance to accept that maybe it is that they accept misinformation and theory as fact.

Eastermuppet · 25/06/2025 16:25

As others have said it's a women's rights issue, for me a part of why I am so passionate about it is that I was in an abusive marriage where I was gaslit horrendously and there is no way that will happen to me again especially from government / authorities, I will not accept a distortion of truth.