Great post, as usual.
It's almost easier to just put on a front and pretend everything is ok. Even when it's obvious to others that they are not ok. There's almost a Stockholm syndrome going on for some I think.
Isn't the 'putting on a front' also common with those that are suffering coercive control? Partly because the messed up logic is designed to undermine sense of reality and self and question previously accepted knowledge and facts. The abuser positions themselves as always in the right and the person / people they are controlling as always in the wrong (which even itself as a basic premise is so obviously unlikely to always be true). I think particularly for parents this is very difficult because you're used to sacrificing for your children in the first place, usually.
We saw attempts at this in court from DU to NC. No chance of it working on her, but the little things, the glares, the physical intimidation the flying monkeys doing his job for him - these are all part of chipping away.
The weaponising the court process to try and set up the coercively controlling narrative that DU is 'always right' e.g. by trying to force wrong sex pronouns and sex deception but then, when that failed, the chastising of SP's team for not doing what was demanded as 'transphobic hate' with no-one - not least the Judge or the court - reflecting on the fact that not only did SP's side not demand correct sex pronouns be used by DU's team, but they also haven't chastised them for using wrong-sex pronouns EVEN THOUGH as a doctor this could lead to medical negligence.
Only one side is trying to bully and control and yet the Judiciary seems blind to this, so captured are they.
It's tragic that society has got to this point.