I do remember Ben Cooper asking questions and just letting the answers remain.
It's not like on here where you drill down into an argument to expose the most basic inconsistencies.
just letting the person tell you what they think, feel, and want, is sometimes quite enough, without you revealing their motivations.
Having said that, I feel like a fucking wet rag reading through these threads. I'm a bit behind, too, playing catch up. my jaw is really hurting!