@myplace I didn't know about the feminism boards because I'm just a mumsnet tourist really. I'm not even a mum! After stumbling over this thread I feel like this is why I'm here. I don't know when feminism became taboo. As far as I'm concerned, equality between the sexes is a myth, and if as a society we want equality then feminism is how we get it.
When I woke up this morning I realised why this case his struck a chord with me. My last relationship was with a manipulative, controlling, narcissistic man. His entire self-image was based on a web of lies and he existed in deep denial of reality. We split up nearly a year ago, and over time I have recovered from the mind-fuckery he inflicted on me. As a consequence of all of that, I now have a very strong aversion to the denial of reality and a deep need for truth.
I'm not trying to diagnose a personality disorder, but Upton is clearly narcissistic, and has infected the minds of everyone around him so that they collude with his denial of reality. Seeing it play out has induced a visceral reaction in me, because I've been in their position before. I made a vow to myself to never get into that position again. I, for one, will not collude in the denial of reality.