Agreed.
I think there's this desire to 'do the right thing' for society. People want to be good people and do the right thing and that's actually the point you need to keep in mind.
I encourage people to not look at identity and instead look at behaviour. If that behaviour would be problematic coming from someone with a different identity, would you feel so desperate to support them?
Reminding people that equality means treating everyone as equals - to the same standards and to the same expectations - is crucial.
It shatters the facade.
Anyone openly saying that have no considered the concerns and emotions of others whilst simultaneously demanding that everyone be fully aware of their feelings and do everything they can to be respected, is not acting in a way which is consistent with equality principles.
When you start to ask, am I really being 'identity blind in how I interact with others' it makes you start questioning.
Everything about this belief is about controlling the narrative and controlling how you think so you behave in an 'approved manner'. This is not necessarily the same thing as behaving in a way that's good for society.
People who want to do the right thing become easy targets to be controlled, the second they stop questioning.
Asking questions is always a good and healthy thing to do on any subject.