What you're saying is, that inherent to being trans, is the requirement to trample boundaries and disregard safeguarding.
Do you really believe that? If so how would you defend that?
Do you not think that this is actually somewhat transphobic? As in, actually transphobic as opposed to "shut up women" transphobic.
I would argue that plenty of trans people do not insist on using single sex spaces for the opposite sex because they understand why those spaces exist in the first place. Plenty of trans people are not offended by safeguarding because they understand that it is not personal, it is just the best we can do in society in order to attempt to mitigate threat to vulnerable groups such as women and children.
Why aren't so called trans allies expecting tolerance from men to accept transwomen into their spaces? Do we not all want to live in a tolerant society any more?
It's curious, isn't it, that this particularly fundamentalist strain of trans ideology got so far so fast? That ordinary trans people such as ones I've met are largely ignored by the media. I'd guess that's because it doesn't trouble the status quo (patriarchy, capitalism, big pharmaceutical companies etc) at all. There's nothing new about a system which keeps men ahead and expects women to endure additional risk with threat of social exclusion for non compliance.