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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Bondi killings

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BeagleMum2024 · 14/04/2024 07:25

Been thinking about this horrendous incident. Why do innocents have to suffer ( majority female victims it appears) because a man has lost control of himself? Why didn't this nasty man just fuck somewhere and end himself quietly? I keep looking at photos of the mother who has been murdered and my thoughts are with her baby who is fighting for his or her life, and of course the other victims and their families.

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Letsgotitans · 14/04/2024 20:02

GoodnightAdeline · 14/04/2024 18:16

It doesn’t necessarily have to be outright misogyny to target women either. At one end we have Elliot Rodger style misogynistic terror attacks with a woman hating manifesto. At the other we have men intent on going on the rampage and they mainly select women simply because they’re weaker and a softer target, but not for ideological reasons. And everything in between. All of them are attacks on women - and the result is the same.

Only today I was walking DD to the park with DS in the buggy and during a 10 minute walk, 2 men tried to speak to us. One looked odd, the other quite rough. I can’t even walk from A to B without being expected to pay attention to men I have never clapped eyes on before. It usually happens at least 3 times a week, and you guessed it, NEVER when I’m with DP. Always when I’m alone or with the children.

Even DD asked ‘mummy why do men talk to us all the time?’, and she’s 4. She’s clocked that we get this kind of unwarranted attention constantly whereas Daddy doesn’t.

I’m fed up with it. Leave us the fuck alone. Sometimes conversation happens organically between strangers and that’s fine and healthy, but approaching exclusively women with the purpose of demanding attention isn’t that.

Basically pretty much everything men do regarding women they don’t know has some kind of sexism about it.

Omg where do you live?? This would literally never happen to me where I am! (midlands UK)

GoodnightAdeline · 14/04/2024 20:03

PaperWalkAndTalk · 14/04/2024 19:49

You made a point that in these cases they don't target men and when presented with one have changed it to list a number of serial killers where there was a clear sexual motive.

I really don't like this competitive element to rack up totals of number of males killed vs number of females killed. Massacres will see many males and females being killed.

But I find it distasteful that you just write off the male victims of these crimes as though it never happens. Even the media seemed to forget that so-called Plymouth Incel killed two men, two women and one girl.

Knowing a friend-of-a-friend who had a male family member murdered in a similar incident, I just find it insensitive to say that it never happens to males.

Apart from nobody said ‘it never happens to males’ did they?

GoodnightAdeline · 14/04/2024 20:03

Letsgotitans · 14/04/2024 20:02

Omg where do you live?? This would literally never happen to me where I am! (midlands UK)

South coast. Coastal towns seem to have high levels of oddballs around here. It’s got a lot worse over the last 2 years although I’m not sure why. I’m probably accosted a few times a week.

Ingenieur · 14/04/2024 20:13

NutellaEllaElla · 14/04/2024 19:27

People with mental health problems are not more likely to be violent than anyone else. Your views are misinformed.

Nice strawman, my post never mentions that people with serious mental health problems have higher levels of violence, perhaps you are projecting.

My point is that the PP was looking for a reason why this happened, and I'm suggesting that as we're dealing with an irrational thinker then ascribing a motive is asinine.

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:22

BeagleMum2024 · 14/04/2024 07:25

Been thinking about this horrendous incident. Why do innocents have to suffer ( majority female victims it appears) because a man has lost control of himself? Why didn't this nasty man just fuck somewhere and end himself quietly? I keep looking at photos of the mother who has been murdered and my thoughts are with her baby who is fighting for his or her life, and of course the other victims and their families.

Clearly in your mind mental health diagnosis = irrational thinker.

It may be the case with this man. But we don't know that at this stage.

All we know is that you believe people with mental health problems can't be rational thinkers, perhaps that's what the poster was highlighting?

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:22

So sorry @BeagleMum2024 I meant to quote @Ingenieur with that last post

GoodnightAdeline · 14/04/2024 20:43

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:22

Clearly in your mind mental health diagnosis = irrational thinker.

It may be the case with this man. But we don't know that at this stage.

All we know is that you believe people with mental health problems can't be rational thinkers, perhaps that's what the poster was highlighting?

Well I’ve been very seriously mentally unwell (I was almost sectioned - long story, don’t want to go into it on here) and I certainly wasn’t thinking rationally, isn’t that what mental illness literally does?

Ingenieur · 14/04/2024 20:44

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:22

Clearly in your mind mental health diagnosis = irrational thinker.

It may be the case with this man. But we don't know that at this stage.

All we know is that you believe people with mental health problems can't be rational thinkers, perhaps that's what the poster was highlighting?

It has been confirmed that the murderer has a diagnosis of schizophrenia so it is characteristic of that diagnosis that he would have disordered thinking, delusions, misperception of reality and psychosis.

Which is why I don't believe it is useful to suggest that a rational motive can be ascribed to these horrific and saddening crimes.

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:48

@Ingenieur
@GoodnightAdeline

The point is, neither of you know his state of mind at the time of the attacks. Neither of you.

So stop confidently declaring that you do.

Clafoutie · 14/04/2024 22:51

MarieDeGournay · 14/04/2024 11:26

I think that is a nice apology, I for one understand how sometimes you pick the wrong words or place a wrong emphasis in haste, and in emotion.
I like that posters here often come back in to make a full, un-defensive apology - it's not something that happens a lot in real life, and I always like to salute the apologizer.

I agree, and I think an apology was hardly necessary. It seemed obvious to me that @ArcaneWireless was talking about it from the killer’s perspective, not actually saying they thought the security ‘got in the way’. I too salute people who apologise though.

Firefly1987 · 15/04/2024 06:13

Daily fail showing photos of his parents-disgusting! They shouldn't be hounded like this. I have a family member who has just come out of an 18 month psychosis (it's like a light switched one day and he suddenly sounded normal, which we were beginning to think would never happen) there's only me and my elderly mother to try and manage him. I feared something like this might happen to us-he's never been violent before but threatened a lot and damaged some property. When he's ok he's SO laid back and easy going but I don't know what he's capable of in that state (the professionals never seem to know either do they?) and he would get SO angry so I did fear the worst.

I couldn't imagine if we were forced to issue a statement like this man's parents and try and defend ourselves and what we'd done to try and help. We didn't get listened to, if no one will help there's nothing you can do with an adult man. They don't want them in hospital anymore. The professionals need to listen to family about someone's behaviour! I'm thankful 99% of people don't blame the parents, but the odd person does still say they should've stopped him. Literally what could they have done? Barricaded him in their home?

BreatheAndFocus · 15/04/2024 06:29

Whether he was completely rational or not, he clearly targeted women. This could be because of incel issues or it could simply be they were easy targets. As soon as I heard the initial reports, I thought incel frankly.

BBC news:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-68814395

Joel Cauchi

Sydney attack: 'Obvious' killer targeted women, police say

Joel Cauchi, 40, fatally stabbed six people in a crowded Sydney shopping centre on Saturday.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-68814395

EasternStandard · 15/04/2024 06:31

BreatheAndFocus · 15/04/2024 06:29

Whether he was completely rational or not, he clearly targeted women. This could be because of incel issues or it could simply be they were easy targets. As soon as I heard the initial reports, I thought incel frankly.

BBC news:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-68814395

Absolutely terrifying image and actions

EasternStandard · 15/04/2024 06:45

The police officer Amy Scott likely saved lives by sprinting to the scene

HoppingPavlova · 15/04/2024 07:10

I just don't understand what motivates these killers to destroy the innocent lives of people just out shopping

Mental illness. Just like the UK, our support services for those with mental illness is pretty non-existent. I read his family paid privately for treatment but he reached an age where he could not be made to engage. It’s a really complicated area but there would have been several touch points from the sound of it where in an ideal world he should have been MADE to engage. But that takes away people’s rights, and also is a conveniently non-existent concept in a health area that has had the guts absolutely stripped out of it with funding. That’s what needs to be focused on here not some self-serving feminist bs. Yes, he was a coward avoiding men, likely no more than that, didn’t want to risk anyone who may fight back. A severely mentally ill coward.

Edited to add that his long standing mental illness was schizophrenia, and seemingly he had a long standing fascination with knives, guns and weapons in general so probably amazing he didn’t do something like this sooner really.

BeagleMum2024 · 15/04/2024 07:29

Self serving feminist bullshit? He's killed majority women and a seriously harmed a baby. He's attacked those physically weaker than him. He made a choice to do that. This has been an attack on women. Don't you dare tell me not to think that it is not.

I could also say to you, stop hijacking this thread for political purposes. Why are you on the feminist board anyway? Start your own thread and impart your so called wisdom there. Confused.

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BeagleMum2024 · 15/04/2024 07:31

Amy Scott is a very courageous officer who likely saved many lives.

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EasternStandard · 15/04/2024 07:34

BeagleMum2024 · 15/04/2024 07:29

Self serving feminist bullshit? He's killed majority women and a seriously harmed a baby. He's attacked those physically weaker than him. He made a choice to do that. This has been an attack on women. Don't you dare tell me not to think that it is not.

I could also say to you, stop hijacking this thread for political purposes. Why are you on the feminist board anyway? Start your own thread and impart your so called wisdom there. Confused.

I agree with you I’m not sure why anyone would call it that, seems odd.

Who was targeted ie women in particular is a line of investigation, just on the news

Otter2 · 15/04/2024 07:41

tickabillatoon · 14/04/2024 20:48

@Ingenieur
@GoodnightAdeline

The point is, neither of you know his state of mind at the time of the attacks. Neither of you.

So stop confidently declaring that you do.

Quite.

mirax · 15/04/2024 07:43

GoodnightAdeline · 14/04/2024 18:28

Also, even though this chat is primarily about feminism, I find it nauseating that so many people were desperate for the attacker to be Muslim when he wasn’t and actually killed a Muslim man who was defending other people.

There were thousands of post on X (check Syrian Girl)and reddit (I have screenshots of the scrubbed reddits) started by muslims claiming the murderer was a jew/isreali named Benjamin Cohen. Australia's channel 7 named Benjamin Cohen as a suspect. Jihadi attacks are common, jews running amok killing random people not so common. There was real world harm as a 20 year university student named ben Cohen was misidentified as the suspect.
https://www.smh.com.au/national/nsw/sydney-uni-student-trolled-for-being-bondi-junction-killer-in-a-terrible-case-of-mistaken-identity-20240414-p5fjoo.html
Political partisans who gleefully went to town with the stereotypical jewish name are being sued.
https://twitter.com/realMaalouf/status/1779644945457885682

Sydney uni student trolled for being Bondi Junction killer in a terrible case of mistaken identity

The Seven Network apologised for broadcasting the misinformation after the 20-year-old hit out at those who “mindlessly” propagated the claims.

https://www.smh.com.au/national/nsw/sydney-uni-student-trolled-for-being-bondi-junction-killer-in-a-terrible-case-of-mistaken-identity-20240414-p5fjoo.html

Otter2 · 15/04/2024 07:43

BeagleMum2024 · 15/04/2024 07:29

Self serving feminist bullshit? He's killed majority women and a seriously harmed a baby. He's attacked those physically weaker than him. He made a choice to do that. This has been an attack on women. Don't you dare tell me not to think that it is not.

I could also say to you, stop hijacking this thread for political purposes. Why are you on the feminist board anyway? Start your own thread and impart your so called wisdom there. Confused.

Yes - why post this offensive crap on this thread? I wish these posters would just go and waste their time somewhere else. I guess now that the police have established that he WAS targeting women they will come up with an excuse for that too. FFS.

mirax · 15/04/2024 07:46

Otter2 · 15/04/2024 07:43

Yes - why post this offensive crap on this thread? I wish these posters would just go and waste their time somewhere else. I guess now that the police have established that he WAS targeting women they will come up with an excuse for that too. FFS.

He was targetting women, even children, no matter his state of mind and I am glad a woman cop shot him down.

BeagleMum2024 · 15/04/2024 07:59

It's all coming out now in news articles - he was an incel, hated women.

Enough of the self serving bs attempts at silencing us from stating this fact.

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HoppingPavlova · 15/04/2024 08:10

I’m not trying to silence you. You are trying to silence me. You neck or not, would this have happened if he had of been receiving appropriate services/care for his uncontrolled mental illness? I don’t think it would but you do so we differ in opinion. You don’t own the internet. You can’t police who posts where. You don’t own forums.

I stand by the fact that with appropriate mental care this could have been prevented, and that’s where the focus should be on preventing such things in future.