As positions go, it's got to be as wobbly as they come.
Transactivists need to be victims, in order to enhance their status and justify their demands, whilst at the same time, they know that victimhood as a goal for children isn't what you'd call, er, aspirational.
That's why you have the simultaneous, and contradictory, positions of being both wonderfully happy, and terribly sad.
I have a wonderful life, I'm fulfilled, sought after and respected and I just want that for the kids, but I also need special treatment, complete compliance and handling with kid gloves, because I'm so fragile and vulnerable.