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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions
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Dontcallmescarface · 25/02/2024 17:00

PP82 · 25/02/2024 16:53

Um, I have never defended men's rights to abuse women. Just the rights of trans women to swim in a pond (and use a loo.) That is not abuse.

Private healthcare is very cheap here. Certainly not the preserve of the rich, nor paid for with money I earned myself.

Sharing a pond is not oppression. And I'm the one with 'luxury beliefs?'

They can swim in a pond....the mixed one, nobody's stopping them. The same with toilets, use the mixed sex ones.

Baldieheid · 25/02/2024 17:01

PP82 · 25/02/2024 16:32

If you can find a deserted spot. You don't get to drive others away.

But it's okay for males who identify as having lady feefees to drive females away from the single sex women's pond.

Got it.

It's the quiet part said out loud. Again.

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:03

pp3p0 is hugely invested in not engaging, which makes it curious as to why they are here?
I strongly suspect a bloke with womanly feelz

but it is hugely enlightening to have the fact they have zero arguments spread out like this

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:03

Baldieheid · 25/02/2024 17:01

But it's okay for males who identify as having lady feefees to drive females away from the single sex women's pond.

Got it.

It's the quiet part said out loud. Again.

Driving away suggests action and intent. Not just quietly going for a swim.

And 'man with lady feefees' is vile hate speech.

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:03

or a collection of them and alies

RebelliousCow · 25/02/2024 17:03

PP82 · 25/02/2024 16:17

Well quite.

Mine have grown up now......and I now have a grandchild. You learn a lot, over the years. You learn the difference between utopian fantasy and reality, for a start.

Brefugee · 25/02/2024 17:04

PP82 · 25/02/2024 15:48

I'm not particularly disgruntled. On a personal level I'm very happy. I'm certainly concerned about the direction that the world is taking. The climate crisis, the continued rise of the populist right, the migrant crisis, Ukraine, Gaza.

I certainly think that trans people should be treated according to their gender identity, and that excluding or othering them is cruel. I don't feel the need to define or justify that, as I'm not actively campaigning about it, just chatting on the internet.

But what makes me really angry, even more so than that, is that while the world is burning, there are a whole group of people who think that the most important issue is who uses which loo or swims in which pond. The world is I'm crisis and that is where you are directing your energies??? Despite what you may think, I am not a fan of identity politics. I just argue with you lot because you relish in misgendering just to be cruel. Using the right pronouns is good manners. People's feelings do matter. But there are people every day drowning trying to reach Europe, and you are all obsessed with toilets and whether an NHS trust uses gender neutral language. I haven't thought these issues through much because they are so trivial! I'm just here because I find your psychology grimly fascinating and find exploring your world view interesting. I'm not captured by anything or anyone. I'm bemused is all, that in the current climate this is what you are all focusing on.

are you new to a) womanhood or b) the internet?

because last time i looked i was able to be be concerned, to various (and varying depending on my mood/things that have just happened/where i am) things all at the same time. The issue of trans women trampling all over women's rights - something i have been interested in and fighting for, for a very long time. Several decades. More than several decades. (I am an ancient rights hoarding dinosaur, apparently)

In my lovely girls' school, our upper 4th common room debates had more understanding of nuance than what you are spouting. (incidentally: a career is more than doing this job or other for a couple of years or so)

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:05

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:03

pp3p0 is hugely invested in not engaging, which makes it curious as to why they are here?
I strongly suspect a bloke with womanly feelz

but it is hugely enlightening to have the fact they have zero arguments spread out like this

I'm just a bored uterus haver. Lost my job last month. Waiting for the sex discrimination case against my employer to come to court. Not looking for another job as about to start IVF. Too much time on my hands.

RebelliousCow · 25/02/2024 17:06

PP82 · 25/02/2024 16:46

You have to actively do something to drive others away. Not just be quietly minding your own business.

Is 'white flight' caused by immigrants driving white people away?

There are three swimming ponds. Two which men can use and two which women can use. Those who are comfortable with, or who prefer mixed sex, can choose to swim in the mixed sex pool. Nobody is being driven away.

Dontcallmescarface · 25/02/2024 17:06

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:03

Driving away suggests action and intent. Not just quietly going for a swim.

And 'man with lady feefees' is vile hate speech.

But using the pond that is for women only, when they can use the mixed sex one does show action and intent. They are deliberately choosing to be somewhere they know will cause an issue. I'm amazed you can't see that....or more likely you can but refuse to admit it.

Peskysquirrel · 25/02/2024 17:07

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:05

I'm just a bored uterus haver. Lost my job last month. Waiting for the sex discrimination case against my employer to come to court. Not looking for another job as about to start IVF. Too much time on my hands.

I thought you said this thread wasn't about you?

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:07

Dontcallmescarface · 25/02/2024 17:06

But using the pond that is for women only, when they can use the mixed sex one does show action and intent. They are deliberately choosing to be somewhere they know will cause an issue. I'm amazed you can't see that....or more likely you can but refuse to admit it.

But they are women.

Baldieheid · 25/02/2024 17:08
Candy Swimming GIF by Trolli

But they just wanna swim!!!!

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:08

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:05

I'm just a bored uterus haver. Lost my job last month. Waiting for the sex discrimination case against my employer to come to court. Not looking for another job as about to start IVF. Too much time on my hands.

sex discrimination case? well you can wave good by to that one. once the brave new world of gender comes in

RebelliousCow · 25/02/2024 17:08

Men who truly identify with women would know not to use the women's pool - certainly when they have two other options.

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:09

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:07

But they are women.

and yet you have cruely not told us how they are women even though you know yourself

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:09

Peskysquirrel · 25/02/2024 17:07

I thought you said this thread wasn't about you?

I was responding to someone else accusing me of lying about my biological sex.

RebelliousCow · 25/02/2024 17:09

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:07

But they are women.

TW are male. Men who identify as women - by definition, are not.

Prul · 25/02/2024 17:09

What a ridiculous me-rail this thread became.

The Ladies pond again
Peskysquirrel · 25/02/2024 17:10

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:08

sex discrimination case? well you can wave good by to that one. once the brave new world of gender comes in

It's already come in in Spain, where PP lives.
How is a sex discrimination case fought in a country where self ID is law?
Why not start a thread on that, PP82?

Dontcallmescarface · 25/02/2024 17:10

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:07

But they are women.

No they're not. They are men. No matter what they think the "Y" chromosome say's otherwise. FACT.

AlwaysGinPlease · 25/02/2024 17:11

But they are women

Pathetic.

This has become all about you and it's really fucking boring.

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:11

Ohnohedident · 25/02/2024 17:08

sex discrimination case? well you can wave good by to that one. once the brave new world of gender comes in

We have gender self ID here and I can take my employer to court for sex discrimination too. Almost like they aren't mutually exclusive!

Peskysquirrel · 25/02/2024 17:11

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:11

We have gender self ID here and I can take my employer to court for sex discrimination too. Almost like they aren't mutually exclusive!

I would genuinely like to know more about this.

PP82 · 25/02/2024 17:12

Peskysquirrel · 25/02/2024 17:10

It's already come in in Spain, where PP lives.
How is a sex discrimination case fought in a country where self ID is law?
Why not start a thread on that, PP82?

Because you can bring a case for sex discrimination, or for discrimination on the basis of gender identity. Depending on the circumstances.

Edited to add that if anyone wants to know more about this feel free to ask elsewhere and tag me and I'll try to answer, though I'm not terribly knowledgeable and just having to learn about all this recently. But I can share what I know, if anyone is sincere in saying they are genuinely interested.

As far as I'm aware though, it's just that sex and gender identity are different protected characteristics, as I believe is the case in the UK.

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