The Asexual spectrum.

[TastesLikeStrawberriesOnASummerEvening]

I've been informed recently about this.
I thought it was had no sexual feelings, or had sex, but apparently not.
Now I know better.

I absolutely didn't laugh, promise.

If you do an Internet search for relevant keywords, for example "asexual" and "promiscuity", you'll find that some years ago "asexual" became an umbrella term to include those who enjoy sex and have active sex lives. I'll leave to others to speculate on what's been the cause of this and who might benefit from the redefining of "asexual". What I will say is that it follows the familiar patttern of "queering" some people's sexual boundaries.

Well I did laugh, sorry 😂

Some people really need full-time jobs.

I genuinely think that the naming of asexuality as a part of human experience was a positive step and allowed people who don't want sex to name themselves positively. But this nonsensical stuff sounds like a way for men people to undermine and devalue the genuinely asexual.

I am now identifying as being on the eye-rolling spectrum. Can someone design me a nice spinny flag, please?

It's utter nonsense.
16 flags for people who don't want to have sex, except sometimes they do, and that makes them "queer"

They are probably now terribly victimised.
No, just no.

So essentially the person is faithful to their husband and has no urge to seek out sex but enjoys it with him - so, monogamous then?

Yes, but only when he instigates which makes her queer obvs

I never seek out cranberry sauce, but eat it when offered at festive gatherings. Where's my flag?

My DD is asexual and not interested in any form of sexual contact. It really pisses her off that it's been coopted by the rainbow vexillographers to be as good as meaningless.

And who is this person defending her sex life to? WhoTF is she telling about it in the first place?

I'm sure the 'other queer people' are delighted to hear all about how much he or she does/doesn't enjoy shagging his or her husband.
They're bang on though, the rest of us do not need to know and indeed consider it way TMI.

Me too, then - who knew?

I'm queer too. Old. Monogamous. Can't really be bothered with sex but it's not so bad when it gets going or I'm invested in it. Bit like parties. Or shopping.

This is me exactly. I had NO IDEA I was queer.

What to do...?

I wonder if it's a too much porn thing actually. They see the always-on way people in porn react to members of their desired sex, and because they don't want to drop their pants and shag the plumber they think they're somehow unusual.

Here I am yet again wondering what Queer actually means (nowadays). This woman is heterosexual, has sex with her husband, sometimes. What does it mean? Am I queer?

“I’m tired of having to explain and then defend my identity” 😂 What a first world problem. The problem of no one getting why you’re special or a victim when you feel you deserve that status.

I often wonder if some of these people will wake up one day and go "Fuck me, I've been a right self absorbed cunt haven't I?"

One can hope.

😂

Ah, but she's not out to anyone else, which makes her one of the oppressed, dintchaknow?

FFS what has a monogamous intimate heterosexual relationship got to with being 'out'?

Also weirdly this seems to be certainly in my case, a symptom of peri menopause

Although I've a feeling my age disqualifies me from such a hip and cool gathering

This really made me laugh. Yep the thought of it is often more of a ball ache than the doing.

🤣🤣 I doubt it, but you never know!

What a terrible burden it must be... if only we could normalise straight women who can't really be bothered to instigate but will happily comply when pushed.