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fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:21

When a big muscly dude with a beard walks into a women’s toilet, the surprised reactions are not in that guy’s head. You don’t want him in there, it’s strange for him to be there.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:23

I think you need to be a bit more honest about what you want. You don’t want these people to be transgender at all.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:23

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:21

When a big muscly dude with a beard walks into a women’s toilet, the surprised reactions are not in that guy’s head. You don’t want him in there, it’s strange for him to be there.

No, we don't want a big muscly bloke in there, but all he has to do now is claim to be a woman and there is nothing we can do about it.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:24

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:23

I think you need to be a bit more honest about what you want. You don’t want these people to be transgender at all.

What an odd comment.

What does that even mean, I don't want them to "be transgender"?

MrsOvertonsWindow · 26/09/2023 20:24

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:23

I think you need to be a bit more honest about what you want. You don’t want these people to be transgender at all.

Are you 12? There's a nuanced discussion going on and this is your contribution?

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:25

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:23

No, we don't want a big muscly bloke in there, but all he has to do now is claim to be a woman and there is nothing we can do about it.

You are the one calling him a woman. You are saying that you want him in there, but I do not believe you. You want him to not exist in public.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 20:25

Trans identifying males are not nicer than any other men. They don't deserve special treatment any more than other men.

Where they pee with out shopping is not a problem for women to solve.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:25

MrsOvertonsWindow · 26/09/2023 20:24

Are you 12? There's a nuanced discussion going on and this is your contribution?

Well, where does he go? Where would you be happy seeing him?

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:26

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:25

You are the one calling him a woman. You are saying that you want him in there, but I do not believe you. You want him to not exist in public.

I am happy for male people to exist anywhere they like except in single sex spaces for female people.

Not sure what's so controversial about that.

I couldn't care less what people wear or how they present, although I would rather male people didn't call themselves women if I'm honest.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:27

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:24

What an odd comment.

What does that even mean, I don't want them to "be transgender"?

You don’t want a trans man in the women’s toilet and you don’t think he belongs in the men’s. Where can he exist?

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:28

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:26

I am happy for male people to exist anywhere they like except in single sex spaces for female people.

Not sure what's so controversial about that.

I couldn't care less what people wear or how they present, although I would rather male people didn't call themselves women if I'm honest.

You are not understanding. I was describing a transgender man who was born female. You don’t want him in the women’s toilet, you said so yourself, you would be unhappy to see him there.

Desecratedcoconut · 26/09/2023 20:29

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:27

You don’t want a trans man in the women’s toilet and you don’t think he belongs in the men’s. Where can he exist?

You can keep repeating that like a matra but I would rather have a transman in the toilets with me than a trans woman.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:29

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:27

You don’t want a trans man in the women’s toilet and you don’t think he belongs in the men’s. Where can he exist?

I am quite happy for trans men to use the women's toilets unless they really do pass so convincingly that they actually look like men, which most of them don't.

If they actually look like men then they can use the men's and no one will be any the wiser I guess.

Where trans men pee isn't actually a burning issue for most people since trans men aren't a threat to either women or men.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:30

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:28

You are not understanding. I was describing a transgender man who was born female. You don’t want him in the women’s toilet, you said so yourself, you would be unhappy to see him there.

No, I don't want male people in the women's toilets.

Someone who was born female still is female.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:30

Desecratedcoconut · 26/09/2023 20:29

You can keep repeating that like a matra but I would rather have a transman in the toilets with me than a trans woman.

How on earth would you know? You would just see a big muscly man with a beard.

MrsOvertonsWindow · 26/09/2023 20:31

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:26

I am happy for male people to exist anywhere they like except in single sex spaces for female people.

Not sure what's so controversial about that.

I couldn't care less what people wear or how they present, although I would rather male people didn't call themselves women if I'm honest.

Indeed. Had the countless trans lobby groups spent some of their millions of £££ lobbying for third spaces from the outset we wouldn't be in this mess. Sadly their approach was to insist that women must be available to validate men who claim to be women & to upend the social contract rather than respecting the rights of others.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:31

But you would not be able to tell the difference between him and any other man.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:31

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:30

How on earth would you know? You would just see a big muscly man with a beard.

You are living in cloud cuckoo land if you think we can't easily tell what sex people are 99.9% of the time.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 20:32

As the pp said. They are of no threat to men or women so toilet choice isn't that important. Most people don't want to unintentionally scare or intimidate people though so...

Desecratedcoconut · 26/09/2023 20:33

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:30

How on earth would you know? You would just see a big muscly man with a beard.

Oh please, transmen are only convincing from the neck up.

wincarwoo · 26/09/2023 20:33

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:31

But you would not be able to tell the difference between him and any other man.

Apart from all the clues that humans have used for centuries to identify people of either sex. Even when disguised.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:33

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:31

You are living in cloud cuckoo land if you think we can't easily tell what sex people are 99.9% of the time.

I am thinking of my friend in particular. You cannot tell, and he is huge.

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:34

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:33

I am thinking of my friend in particular. You cannot tell, and he is huge.

Well then no one will care if your friend uses the men's then, will they?

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:35

Desecratedcoconut · 26/09/2023 20:33

Oh please, transmen are only convincing from the neck up.

You’re hanging out with some particularly scrawny, hairless trans men then.

fionamattel · 26/09/2023 20:36

MargotBamborough · 26/09/2023 20:34

Well then no one will care if your friend uses the men's then, will they?

Awesome! Great to hear. Not really sex based then, is it?