I haven’t yet read the whole thing but I popped back to the thread to say that I liked the point he made about HR.
I have noticed something in recent years about increased readiness from certain individuals to weaponise official processes. It goes something like:
Enter a new arena, such as a university, professional field, political party or employer.
Realise that they are just one of many and don’t particularly stand out from others, despite what they see as their unique perspective and experience. Their unique characteristics are acknowledged but not centred. Not be happy about this.
Perform at a reasonable but not outstanding level. Decide that the success and recognition achieved by others must be due to their ‘privilege’.
Take offence at something and file an official complaint, bringing into play their protected characteristics. This complaint will probably happen even sooner if their performance is poor.
Take that complaint to the highest possible level and publicise it relentlessly. Gather support, status and become a ‘speaker’ for their cause.
Regardless of outcome, leverage their new experience into influence, opportunity and content.