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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Ginny - an update

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idontknowwhattosay23 · 09/07/2023 13:02

Massive apologies for the delay in an update. It's been tricky to know how to word it so that I don't get into trouble or have to ask for it to be taken down again. Plus I've been so depressed with the situation I haven't really known what to say.

I won't be able to post the full story as before so really this is only for the benefit of those that read the last (now deleted) thread and wondered what happened / can remember the details.

The meeting went ahead as planned, although with the massive twist that it wasn't actually just myself and "Ginny" but was turned into a whole office meeting, which turned into just giving Ginny a platform to talk about her life as a trans woman (all 6 months of it) and how she is constantly objectified by men, sexually harassed and cat called and suffers far more than any cis woman and as such, deserves (and needs so she doesn't harm herself) the support and cooperation of everyone in the office, especially other women. No, I'm not joking.

The tampon / being in the women's toilet issue was brushed under the carpet as quickly as possible and explained to us as a complex matter of dysphoria that we couldn't possibly grasp and was not to be spoken about again. We were then informed that female sanitary products would be provided by management in ALL toilets, men's women's and the disabled toilets to avoid any future "misunderstanding". I was asked if I wanted to apologise for my outburst and make a fresh start with Ginny, I did so because as I said in the last thread, I really need this job at the moment. I'm so disappointed in myself for doing so and feel gross. But I couldn't do anything else. I want to thank all those that said to just suck it up and apologise, it saved me my job 100% no question about it.

Overall it was bordering humiliating for all involved, we were spoken to like children and patronised beyond belief. Ginny has been given a new desk set up right by the bosses office, best view, newest computer and a client list that even people who have been there 10+ years wouldn't usually get a look in on and have been working hard to secure for a long time... myself and two other women have been relocated to the back office. Apparently absolutely unrelated incidents, based on "the continuing restructure of company operations to maximise productivity and output". Two men have handed in their notice, again entirely unrelated.... (I can't say much, please put the pieces together yourselves ❤️)

I'm speaking now because frankly I'm dreading Monday, as in physically feel crap and absolutely can't face going in, but for now I have to. I'm actively looking for another job and have had my 3 weeks holiday approved from mid-July so I just need to get through a week and a half and I'm free of the nonsense for a bit to regroup and figure out what I do next.

It's no understatement to say I am utterly baffled as to why there is such massive special treatment for Ginny, considering the huge mistakes they have made since starting and the constant drama. Current theories floated by colleagues suggest either the boss believes that this is legally how trans people need to be treated in the workplace and is entirely uneducated in it, thus airing massively on the side of caution and has pushed inclusivity so far he's excluded everyone else. And another theory to do with crushes that I couldn't possibly repeat.

So there we have it. I'm sorry it took a while to update, there is plenty more happening that I just can't really share at the moment. But when I can I will.

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Chersfrozenface · 13/07/2023 09:40

I presume the boss had the wit to ensure "Ginny" is on a probationary period (no pun intended).

Poor performance is a good enough reason to not continue employment after this period.

FictionalCharacter · 13/07/2023 09:41

Fourlegsandatail · 13/07/2023 09:36

She’s locked everyone out of the office! Well there’s your bosses open goal opportunity to dismiss her right there (assuming he’s been worried dismissing her for anything else could be construed as transphobia).

If he doesn’t dismiss Ginny for this I think something has to be going on between them…

You’re forgetting that nothing can be Ginny’s fault because she is horribly oppressed and misunderstood.
Maybe she has severe PMS 🙃

Motnight · 13/07/2023 09:43

I am reading these updates. I have no idea what to say in response. The whole situation is absolutely bonkers.

Enjoy the coffee. Have a croissant.

Zebracat · 13/07/2023 09:47

I can’t wait for the next update. This is better than Wimbledon.

DiabolicalFinial · 13/07/2023 09:47

Is there any sensitive information in the main office?
Client lists, commercial/confidential information?
Personal/private information?
Will it be detectable if anything is accessed?

Just imagining worst case scenarios….

idontknowwhattosay23 · 13/07/2023 09:48

As far as I'm aware they're on their own! When the shouting started someone said come on let's head outside for a breather and give Ginny a minute, as soon as we were all out the room Ginny charged at the door, slammed it shut and locked it.

New starts had such an uneventful and quiet day yesterday, they're not in until 10am either today, so they will be turning up at the same time as the boss to this circus 🙃

Boss has always very kindly given us an allowance at this coffee shop, everyone can have 2 coffees a week on him. Can't recall a time 14 of us have all gone at once though 😂 poor barista saw us walking in en masse and looked so confused.

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idontknowwhattosay23 · 13/07/2023 09:49

Oh gosh I didn't mean to attach that picture 😂 I had sent that gif to a friend to explain the situation!!!

It's this one, and frankly sums it up

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CashmereDarling · 13/07/2023 09:49

Good grief that is good going in five minutes 😂😂😂

Well well well. Enjoy the enforcer bonding session with your colleagues!!

CashmereDarling · 13/07/2023 09:50

Haha that gif is perfect 😂

BezMills · 13/07/2023 09:50

Oh em gee, I can't even believe this is happening. Enjoy your coffee, have a slice of cake.

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 13/07/2023 09:53

‘Boss has always very kindly given us an allowance at this coffee shop, everyone can have 2 coffees a week on him. ‘

I am glad you clarified this because I can’t have been the only person whose most burning question about this of course perfectly normal situation was ‘How come the coffee is free?’

Zeroperspective · 13/07/2023 09:53

Nah come on this is made up now surely??

GretaGip · 13/07/2023 09:54

Brava to you and your sense of humour @idontknowwhattosay23 💐

Here's hoping that when Ginny Has Left the Building you get your previously wonderful boss back ☕☕☕

idontknowwhattosay23 · 13/07/2023 09:54

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 13/07/2023 09:53

‘Boss has always very kindly given us an allowance at this coffee shop, everyone can have 2 coffees a week on him. ‘

I am glad you clarified this because I can’t have been the only person whose most burning question about this of course perfectly normal situation was ‘How come the coffee is free?’

😂😂

In my defence Ginny used the last of the coffee and in amongst all the drama I have just been desperate for my morning cup! That has taken precedent over whatever is currently going on up in that office. I also like not paying for it 😂😂

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GretaGip · 13/07/2023 09:54

TheCountessofFitzdotterel · 13/07/2023 09:53

‘Boss has always very kindly given us an allowance at this coffee shop, everyone can have 2 coffees a week on him. ‘

I am glad you clarified this because I can’t have been the only person whose most burning question about this of course perfectly normal situation was ‘How come the coffee is free?’

You were not! 😂

Redshoeblueshoe · 13/07/2023 09:56

I was going to say PMS but everyone else has already suggested it.

idontknowwhattosay23 · 13/07/2023 09:56

Zeroperspective · 13/07/2023 09:53

Nah come on this is made up now surely??

I have an interview tomorrow and fingers crossed should I end up getting the job, then this whole thing is going to feel like a really weird fever dream. I absolutely hold nothing against anyone who thinks it's ridiculous! I feel the same!

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NotBasically · 13/07/2023 09:58

I'm wondering if you missed an opportunity to have this episode recorded including Ginny locking everyone out of the office. I bet Ginny will say it never happened and everyone is ganging up on poor Ginny.

SpottyBumPony · 13/07/2023 09:59

Wow, I've been watching your thread. Ginny is ... wow

ickky · 13/07/2023 10:00

Someone needs to film the boss arriving.

CashmereDarling · 13/07/2023 10:00

The two free coffees a week thing just shows how lovely your boss is when not strangely afflicted by his current madness

Treaclemine · 13/07/2023 10:01

And once you're free, you have the skills to write this up as a short story, though where you would publish such transphobic work is beyond me. Call it Loretta.

WickedSerious · 13/07/2023 10:01

He's a dizzy wee thing isn't he?

BobaFeta · 13/07/2023 10:03

I started off feeling so sorry for you op, but now I'm highly entertained by this batshit. Grabbing popcorn as I'm invested now.

Silvered · 13/07/2023 10:04

Delurking to say bloody hell, this has gone proper batshit. I'm supposed to be working but will be watching to see what your boss says!

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