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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Carly-May Kavanagh

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NitroNine · 23/09/2022 00:46

There are rumours circulating on Twitter that Carly-May Kavanagh (the one who screams at babies: Daily Mail) has, despite her “apology” been suspended from the Labour Party. Presumably such a suspension would have an impact on her job as Lloyd Russell-Moyle‘s head of policy?

Apparently if she is suspended it [probably] won’t be made public. Given the reason for her [potential] suspension; if Labour actually do take action, you’d think they’d want to reassure people that they expect their members to uphold certain standards. I mean, “not screaming abuse at infants” is less upholding a standard than it is failing to trip over pebbles of basic decency…

Clearly one cannot put too much weight into Random Person Says Unevidenced Thing. However, it would be a foolish rumour to start without cause, so I thought it was worth starting a thread here to see if there are developments to follow.

Should Kavanagh face consequences for her behaviour it will be a watershed moment: Labour acknowledging women have rights all their own, including the rights to assemble & to speak on issues of concern to them, such as their need for single sex provisions.

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DarkDayforMN · 24/09/2022 13:29

OK, but the post above spoke of risk, not dislike. What risk are you positing?

I think the risk is that it could be used to discredit you/get you fired from your job/promote rumours that you’re “associated” with the far right and that GC views are associated with the far right. While “I had no idea they were there and you can’t stop people from filming a public event” is completely logical and should be a defence against this, the world isn’t really that logical.

TheClogLady · 24/09/2022 13:32

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YouSirNeighMmmm · 24/09/2022 13:33

ImNotGreta · 24/09/2022 13:10

I don’t understand that at all. If you believe in your message surely you want it spread as widely as possible.

This comes across like the Labour activists saying they don’t want the votes of anyone who supported Brexit.

I don't understand how you can not understand. I am saying one thing and one thing only.

I can see why many people don't want to be on far right websites!

Well, I can see that many people might feel that the downside of potentially being associated with the far right, outweighs the upside of potentially turning people on the far right, probably mainly men, into gender critical feminists.

Others might feel that it undermines the cause to be linked to the far right, even inadvertantly.

Saying that you don't want brexiteer votes is infinitely more stupid than saying that you would rather a video of yourself did not appear on a brexiteer website.

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:37

TinselAngel · 24/09/2022 11:45

Sappho genuine question- do you ever ponder how you've seamlessly, and in a quite short space of time, gone from telling women what to do on here because you were a TRA, to telling women what to do on here, because you're a better GC feminist than us?

When have I ever told anyone what to do or said I'm a better GC feminist?

You seem to really dislike me Tinsel but I'd appreciate it if you didn't post lies about me.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 13:38

Ereshkigalangcleg · 24/09/2022 13:27

Great post, @GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder 👏

I'm looking for the Hearts of Oak video on YouTube but I can't find it - has it been taken down?

I don't know, I took a screenshot of it (I hadn't seen anything they've ever posted as I don't follow/engage with anything far right) last night after one of JCJ's flying monkeys posted a link to it (so, again, claiming to not want to 'platform' far right agitators while posting links to their SM profiles makes zero sense) and the engagement (even after days of this argument raging on twitter) was pitiful.

And other posts they've added prior to this even have barely got 1 like - they've over 4k followers but don't get any engagement.

In twitter terms, I get more interaction than they do & I'm a nobody who posts occasional cute dog videos, likes some funny or interesting stuff & mainly posts about women's rights.

They're non-entities IMO. Now massively boosted by the very people claiming to be so diametrically opposed to them that they won't share a platform. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Carly-May Kavanagh
ImNotGreta · 24/09/2022 13:41

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:37

When have I ever told anyone what to do or said I'm a better GC feminist?

You seem to really dislike me Tinsel but I'd appreciate it if you didn't post lies about me.

Given your lies about others that’s a bit hypocritical. You are seamlessly moving on this thread from making a snide I evidenced assertion to them using it as fact to justify your next point.

Your techniques are pure TRA.

OvaHere · 24/09/2022 13:50

YarnosaurusRegina · 24/09/2022 12:20

What exactly is the problem with these oaks men turning up and being exposed to feminist ideas and women's stories? As far as I could tell from the clips I watched, they were respectful, didn't attempt to hector or speak over or for women. The women who watch the event via their stream rather than the 'official channel' are as much stakeholders in this as the rest of us. Why is it assumed that they (all 2 or 3 of them!) will turn the political minds of over 100 women, many with established feminist beliefs and 'credentials'? Might it not work the other way around and take feminist ideas to their 'side'?

This whole thing reminds me of being peripherally involved in organising a GC feminist event a few years ago. A woman bought a ticket who we knew was a TRA, and who had made up lies about the behaviour of attendees at a WPUK event (think that was in Brighton too), I think she'd accused GC women of spitting at TRAs, completely far-fetched. But we didn't stop her and her friend coming in, we weren't concerned that they'd turn us all into TRAs, the hope was that our speakers would give her and her friend food for thought, and that maybe we'd 'turn' her.

The idea that people with somewhat extreme and divergent political views attending a women's event will somehow pollute women's political thinking takes us right back to before we had the vote, because it suggests that our political thinking is shallow and easily corrupted. The message coming from the devoted to the Labour Party GC women, when they tell women how to run events or even which events they are allowed to attend, or chastise them for attending, is that they know more and they know best. It's not a good look.

Yes quite.

As for those men that showed up to listen and film. What if listening to women speak actually made them more amenable to our point of view on all things feminist? Rather than all the women there magically becoming far right purely due to proximity.

I think it was either Helen J or Maya who said that in the public square whether that be physical or online you have no control over who listens to or amplifies your words. More men listening to women whatever their politics could prove to be a net positive.

I saw it mentioned that Sophie Corcoran, the right wing speaker whose presence triggered much of the current argument is just 19 years old. At the moment she holds views many find unpalatable and maybe lacking nuance in a number of ways. No-one's world view is fully formed at 19 though.

Perhaps for her getting involved in a movement that centres women but draws from a wide spectrum of political views will be an opportunity to reflect and learn more on a number of issues. That wouldn't be a terrible thing.

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:51

Not taking critique, demanding total, unquestioning support and turning a blind eye to sexism and racism is pure TRA.

I'm not the one doing that.

TheClogLady · 24/09/2022 13:53

@GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder

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The Streisand effect strikes again - all this ‘Don’t associate with them’ stuff is just going to make normies curious and thus increase the algorithmic reach of the people who are supposedly so dangerous we can’t even stand in a public park beside them without some sort of ‘literal’ (by which I mean, not actually literal) harm happening by… osmosis?

it’s all very ‘Boy who Cried Wolf’ stuff.

Now that ^everyone* is a nazi, it’s getting increasingly hard to see the wood (actual nazis) for the trees (people randomly accused of being nazis by disingenuous political opponents).

I posted this on another thread a week or so ago, but I think it deserves another outing:

ImNotGreta · 24/09/2022 13:58

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:51

Not taking critique, demanding total, unquestioning support and turning a blind eye to sexism and racism is pure TRA.

I'm not the one doing that.

No-one’s doing that, stop being dishonest.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 13:58

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:51

Not taking critique, demanding total, unquestioning support and turning a blind eye to sexism and racism is pure TRA.

I'm not the one doing that.

So doing feminism better than others then? After being a TRA when TRA were being sexist & racist?

I think you over estimate the certainty of moral high ground you are trying to occupy. It's a bit like ex smokers who are the worst at lecturing smokers on how disgusting their habit is. Maybe try something a little less sanctimonious given your history.

ImNotGreta · 24/09/2022 14:02

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 13:58

So doing feminism better than others then? After being a TRA when TRA were being sexist & racist?

I think you over estimate the certainty of moral high ground you are trying to occupy. It's a bit like ex smokers who are the worst at lecturing smokers on how disgusting their habit is. Maybe try something a little less sanctimonious given your history.

It’s weird isn’t it how people who know that they were utterly wrong before can’t be open to the idea that they may still be mistaken.

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 14:06

Mistaken about what? Far right nationalism?

Signalbox · 24/09/2022 14:09

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 13:51

Not taking critique, demanding total, unquestioning support and turning a blind eye to sexism and racism is pure TRA.

I'm not the one doing that.

Not taking critique? Is it now mandatory to accept the critique of others no questions asked?

IcakethereforeIam · 24/09/2022 14:11

Thank you @TheClogLady I'd not heard that song before, now I've got it as an earwormSmile

Ilike the posts about HoO and their, diminutive, audience being exposed to the diverse feminist voices at SFW is much likely to affect them than the other way round.

As tras call everyone fascists anyway, if HoO weren't there it would make no measurable difference.

I think KJK shouldn't be immune from being critiqued, but failing to acknowledge what she's achieving is bad. Comparing her Marine Le Pen is just hyperbolic nonsense imo.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 14:14

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 14:06

Mistaken about what? Far right nationalism?

Mistaken about your certainty that CMK's extremism is just a silly mistake she'll be sooooo embarrassed about so giving her some slack, while insisting women who caught a whiff of some fascist bloke's cologne without knowing who he might have been, must 'say the words' or be deemed irretrievably unclean for ever more?

The black & white positions that shift with their targets to account for perceived naïveté erroneously attributed to TRA while hardened positions of fascism cannot be scrubbed without 'saying the words' for women who didn't have a clue who the fascists were or what they were doing, is doing nothing for your newly found enlightenment.

Women are not fascist by dint of their proximity to random blokes at a public meeting.

ImNotGreta · 24/09/2022 14:18

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 14:06

Mistaken about what? Far right nationalism?

There you go, you’ve just slid from a sly insinuation about some people being right-wing to operating as though it’s a fact.

The state if you lot, can a single one of you understand the structure of a valid argument?

What’s next, more disingenuously pretending that you just don’t understand what people are calling you out for?

Everyone can see what you are.

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 14:20

Women are not fascist by dint of their proximity to random blokes at a public meeting.

We know the GC women who now appear alongside Tommy Robinson on a fascist website are not fascists. Other people may now believe them to be.

I can't be the only person to find this really unfortunate.

Fallingirl · 24/09/2022 14:24

We know the GC women who now appear alongside Tommy Robinson on a fascist website are not fascists. Other people may now believe them to be.

Is this real? Does anyone have a link? -and when you say “alongside”, do you mean there is a site that includes videos of TR as well as showing speeches by feminists?

IcakethereforeIam · 24/09/2022 14:25

Wtf Tommy Robinson was there!?

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 14:34

SapphosRock · 24/09/2022 14:20

Women are not fascist by dint of their proximity to random blokes at a public meeting.

We know the GC women who now appear alongside Tommy Robinson on a fascist website are not fascists. Other people may now believe them to be.

I can't be the only person to find this really unfortunate.

The significance of this is being massively overplayed. The 'shock horror' at the idea of people being recorded without their knowledge and ending up on websites they wouldn't touch with a barge pole isn't new, isn't something anyone can legally or reasonably do much to prevent & the impact that has (given how little engagement their platforms get) is disproportionate to the focus being given to this outcome.

The antifa who couldn't pick out the fascists in crowd while TRA screamed fascist at babies? Where's the mockery or how utterly incompetent the antifa mob actually are when they're actually adjacent to fascists?

The overactive imaginations at play over this - that 2 random blokes who said not a word have the ability to destroy years of work by women across a whole movement? It's ridiculous.

But CMK, the poor dear, should get cut some slack (ignoring her history of bullying activism - treating her as though this was a one off out of character situation instead of the worst thing she's done that's been caught on camera) while she's returning to a previous target of bullying (The Famous Artist Birdy Rose) to throw more abuse at her?

There really is a skewed response to all of this that betrays the 'genuine concerns' that people 'just want to be able to discuss' while completely ignoring or downplaying the worst of what went on.

The women who attended the SFW meeting, the women who organised it & the women who stewarded it are all brave, kick ass women who stood up to the bullies & let the bullies reveal themselves to the world. Left wing feminists are shitting all over

Signalbox · 24/09/2022 14:36

😂this just about sums it up.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 24/09/2022 14:36

Pressed post too soon.

Some left wing feminists are shitting all over the collective work of the women who went in Sunday despite all the threats leading up to that meeting.

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