DD has just called me a bloody T*RF!

[SauvignonBlanche]

DD is home from Uni, she identifies as a feminist and a lesbian but when JK Rowling somehow came into the conversation and I said something vaguely GC she came out with the old TWAW and shut down any debate by calling me a TERF.

It’s scary how there’s no debate allowed, she just told me to educate myself on intersectional feminism but then left the room when I declined to say that JK was ‘wrong’.

Apart from telling her to FU how do you have a debate with an opinionated young person who can’t see there’s the possibility of being GC without being transphobic?

Oops! My apologies, @SauvignonBlanche

I shall pop off and will stop adding to the derail!

@SauvignonBlanche as she's a Rugby player, you might want her to take a look at World Rugby's guidelines on transgender players and how they were developed. Also Ross Tucker (@scienceofsport on twitter) is good at discussing the issues around trans inclusion in sport.

Ask her about her feminism, what she means by intersectionality, etc. Seriously, ask her about it, get into a deep conversation but don't contradict her, get as much info out of her as you - tell her you're educating yourself if you must, but keep asking questions. If the absence of logic hasn't made itself obvious by the end of it, the tackle it again in a few days, "I was thinking about our conversation, and I don't really understand this bit....". Just keep talking.

It sounds as if the lines of communication are open, which is great. Idk if she’s always been a lesbian. However, if she wants to date a transwoman, the reality is that she could become pregnant. I know your dd is now a young adult, but idk if she’s thought of this.