Important post pinned to the top of the relationships board: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/698029-Right-listen-up-everybody
Women are being asked to accept pity based sports which is all about abandoning personal feelings, ambitions, financial rewards, careers and interests in order to take the shitty end of the deal and prioritise the needs of male born people with trans identities. This is a non reciprocal relationship. Those male born people feel women owe this to them and aren't remotely interested in meeting any needs or feelings of those women, or even allowing those women to talk about them. This = abusive relationship. Regardless of how utterly lovely the male born person may be.
If this is asking for relationships on those same terms.... well lesbians know this one. They've already been told to get on with practicing with cock until they learn to cope with it - their sexual pleasure or needs doesn't enter into it, it's of no interest in the relationship, this is about duty to service a male born person's desires. They only need to learn to 'cope' - I suppose that means just find somewhere to cry afterwards where that person can't see you, and deal privately with the tormenting suspicioun that you are a person too, who could be having sex that fulfils and excites you, with someone who cares about you and your needs and desires, that you could be your authentic self, and that there ought to be a way for lesbian women to escape this fate of staying locked in a box for social reasons. And wondering why, having escaped this box once in the 20th century, some lesbians are so very bent on getting everyone back in it again. It's like some kind of masochism.
I have no idea if I'd date a trans person of the biological sex I'm attracted to; I couldn't know without meeting them. But anyone wedded to a political ideology campaigning hard to remove sex based rights from women without caring or even acknowledging there is harm in this and serious exclusion for those women; to remove and reduce child safeguarding to further the freedoms of male born people; who believes their identity and meeting the needs of it is a larger priority than their partner's bodily autonomy; who believes that women are generally of lesser rights, feelings, humanity and worth less consideration than people with trans identities.... not people I'd consider having a cup of coffee with, never mind dating. Absolutely not relationship material.