Dads to be are 2nd class citizens on the labour ward because they don't get offered a cup of tea...

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Hope the link works: www.thedadsnet.com/forums/topic/2nd-class-citizens/?fbclid=IwAR2ah6KP7KIIY1RD5EebUKOBdolCcuI6w2kDndAiZoTBqc2WVWif-HFCeaY

How dare he not be the centre of attention while his wife is giving birth?

Thankfully most of the other men on the forum are quick enough to tell him he's a knob.

Today's winner of the internet.....

^2 things toolbelt.

1: This experience should never be about you. But since your frail ego can’t seem to handle that…

Congratulations on putting your pee-pee in a vagina until climax. Might I offer you a beverage? Perhaps a tea?

2: If you were there for the missus… ACTIVELY there for the missus, you wouldn’t “feel invisible” you’d be too concerned with her to care.

Every hospital I’ve ever been to I acknowledge my role as support for the patient.

To encourage, make sure they know they aren’t alone, to help with pain, fear, and boredom.

If I want a tea, I get it for myself. I ask the patient if they want something.

The hospital staff has always treated me with kindness. They were accommodating, and complimentary. (Compliments make me uncomfortable)

It’s obvious you’re somewhat of a selfish jerk. Because you take a time when your wife is in great pain, she’s scared, she’s anxious, she’s pushing a human out of her body… and you make a point to draw attention to how you were deprived of attention.

“Like I didn’t have a right to be there supporting my missus”

What in the passive-aggressive, in no way did you actually feel this, narcissistic, self-prescribed, victimhood is this bullshit?

I hope this child matures you.^

Italics never work for me!

The comments are fab aren't they!

Those responses are a thing of beauty !

@TurboTeddy, italics (and bolding) need to be enclosed in carats (*s), but if there is a line break inbetween them then it won't work. So you need to enclose each line in the carats.

What a prize twat.
I really feel for his wife!

Love the responses!!!

Time. Sorry mrs Smith dont push the dad in room.4 wants a drink

Didnt think to bring a drink or 2 but I Bet they remembered their phone

I saw that on Facebook and thought it was a tongue in cheek post. How depressing to realise it isn’t.

NHS staff rarely even get a drink themselves so what makes the fathers a priority?!

Where thank you. I'd got the bold bit but didn't know about the line spacing.

Sounds like his usual teasmade was malfunctioning (having a baby) so he thought the nearest female nurse/midwife/doctor would be an adequate substitute. When they didn't fulfill their designated fumction he felt aggrieved.

@Erythronium good point. I wonder if she met his usual high standards straight after the birth 🤔

I feel so sorry for his wife. Imagine being married to such an oppressed man💔

I fucking love some of those replies. What a selfish entitled manbaby of a little prick. I wonder if it had been a ward staffed entirely by men he’d be moaning that none of them made him a brew? I pity his wife and child.

Hope he never has to stay on a ward with a child when it is clear they aren't going to feed or water the parent, nor indeed look after the child while you go and get food.

The replies are great

Ah, next time the man baby should take his wife to the US to give birth - not only was there fresh coffee and tea making in the corridor but they brought h meals. The luxury of private healthcare, it came with a $25k price tag and dd is an adult!

What a fuckwad this guy is.

While I haven't given birth I have had major reconstructive surgery. DH forgot to eat, barely slept, went home to make me soups from scratch to ensure I received proper nutrients to heal, and was by my side every day telling me how loved I am. He did not think of himself - he was focused on doing everything possible to give me comfort. He did all of the things I would do for him (and frankly what we should all do for those we love).

Reading this post made me sad for this guy's poor wife. Shame on the man-baby, shame!!!!

Have you read the other posts on the forum? It doesn't take long; it's pretty moribund. The place is around 85% whiny whingers, with a valiant minority who are probably "staff". Don't look at it if you want to still like men.

Actually, I’d say most Dads are offered Tea, especially if the Labour is a long one.

The fact that this one wasn’t, possibly hints at what the NHS staff thought of him.

Have you read the other posts on the forum? It doesn't take long; it's pretty moribund.

TheDadsNet seems a bit of a second class affair relative to Mumsnet (which is, of course, 'by parents, for parents' so maybe we've got most of the good 'uns over here)

I think you lot are missing the point tbh. Ignore the cup of tea analogy, that was a bad way to say it. The point of this and people's responses are wanting to be a part of the birth of their child. It's not nice to be ignored like that, you would feel the same if it was position's reversed. It's not about being waited on, not about being the centre of attention, it's about wanting to be an equal part. That's not that much to ask as one of the 2 parents surely... The response to this is pretty disgusting as well. Talk about men acting like they regarding this and look at your behaviour... Only one side of this is showing themselves to be all about them and throwing their toys out the pram. Lastly, Dadsnet is ran by dad's and the members are dad's... To call into question their credentials and amazing hard work for a long time due to them sharing SOMEONE ELSE'S POST is outrageous! You cannot comprehend the amount of support and help people have receives through that group, no idea at all. Instead of making sweeping accusations about something you clearly know nothing about in terms of the group, why not try disagreeing the point sensibly and like adults, without the playground behaviour and group attacks.

Absolutely Pp91, sometimes thus forum is a man hating echo chamber and it deteriorates into childish playground behaviour imo.

I don't remember being offered a cup of tea at any point having either of my kids...

I think water was available anything else someone had to go to shop /cafe. There were soft drinks machines..
I think his expectations were way too high

Did his partner get offered a cuppa? I'm guessing not :/

This is a result of men generally being 'looked after', having people run around after them, and when it doesn't happen be takes offence.

But Pp91, childbirth is one of the times where it actually isn't about both parents. The patient is the mother, and that is who the medical staff are caring for because she is pushing the child out of her body in considerable discomfort or having major abdominal surgery.

It is not about equality of parents. It is about treating what is still a potentially life threatening medical situation with the appropriate care.

The fact that you think it should be "equal" is pretty worrying.