I feel very angry that women are again - as they have been throughout history - being shouted down and sidelined and told they have no claim to their own identity and equality in society.
My message to Lily and others like her:
I do not believe I am transphobic and I support LBGTQ rights. To have your own freedom and identity and live how you choose. Absolutely.
But not at the expense of my experience, my identity and my voice. You do not speak for me and for my lifelong experience of being treated unequally and disempowered by men. I will not allow you to reinforce this experience by taking the place of women like me, by shouting down women like me, or by insulting my right to disagree with you. Your freedom to be who you want to be does not trump mine or that of other women like me.
My biology is not my weakness - it is my strength. What do you understand of my, and other women's experience of being born and raised a woman in this society? My experience of breasts and adolescence and periods, and childbirth and menopause. Of being told that I cant have certain toys because they were boys toys or being told to be ladylike and feminine? By being asked sexist and illegal questions at interview that wouldn't be asked of men. Your experience is different - not worse or less worthy, but it is different. Just because you feel disempowered and disenfranchised it doesn't mean you are more woman than me. You are simply different to me and to biological men. You walk your own path and I walk mine - and I wish you the best of luck with it. Make your own experience and adventure, be truly your own self. You cannot appropriate mine.
And if you try to silence me and other women like me - by bullying and calling out and labelling 'transphobe' or other vile labels, you will be denying women their freedom of speech and reinforcing centuries of misogyny. You are not me. You walk a separate path. Make it your own.
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How do you think men would react if it was the other way round? Please....
But my one thought pause for thought reading Lily's FB profile how young and potentially vulnerable this person is.