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BigMoFos: get your substantial arses over here for a regroup

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WigWamBam · 29/08/2008 20:32

Those of you who were only with us in spirit for our meet-up today won't know this, but we have decided to regroup with renewed vigour, mount a new offensive, and also have a rethink about what we want from the MoFos threads and how we want them to work.

We are all decided that we need the threads to continue in one form or another but we are not sure that the weekly weigh-in/new thread is the way forward. It has been suggested that we have either a monthly thread, or that we go for one of the "chat"-type threads, which we plough on with until it's full.

With regard to a weigh-in, there was some thought that we could either simply post our weights or our losses (whichever we each prefer) every week on the ongoing thread. There is a chance that the weights could get lost among the chat, though, so if we prefer we could have a separate thread where we posts weights or losses on a weekly basis so that we can keep track of our own losses (or gains). Alternatively I am happy to collect and record weights/losses/gains as before, and post them as a single post - either on the chat thread or as part of a dedicated progress thread.

This is your group, and I would like to hear how you would like it to continue so that we can go back to offering the kind of support we are all capable of offering, and which we all so badly need. Please come and tell us what you need from the threads and how you would like them to work from now on.

One thing is for sure; kicks up the arse are compulsory and will be freely given (as soon as I finish off the Mississippi Mud Pie I bought home from the meet-up today )

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cheekysealion · 08/09/2008 20:46

i also recently had hypnotherapy and it has made no difference

why cant i just eat when i am hungry
i find myself thinking of food all the time

in the past i have found ww points a good tool to use as i transfer my food obbsession onto points obbsession....

think i said before but if anyone wants to borrow any books on compulsive eating from me then let me know

This is my worse time of day for eating
so i am going to bed with a highlights hot choc and newspaper!!!

night all

JackieNo · 08/09/2008 20:51

Night sealion - I know what you mean - evenings can be bad for me too.

PinkChick · 08/09/2008 20:56

Hi Girls that IS the hardest thing to do when like me, you have alwas been overweight - only eat when you're hungry!, i NEVER knew what hungry was as i always just ate when i FANCIED something..the tabs have helped stop that!..but also they didnt work for my mum (reason i went to doc, very big and i was going down same route with all ehr health probs arising..also didnt work for friend at school??..but maybe i just believe anything im told??..dont care!..mind oevr matter!, its working

TigerFeet · 08/09/2008 21:00

G'night cheekysealion

Evenings are by far the worst for me too, athough I hold my hands up and admit that whilst dd has been at school in the mornings I have been stopping at the shop on the way home from dropping her off... for my emotional fix

This should improve once I'm back at work next week.

Agree PinkChick - it really doesn't matter how it works - it just needs to work

cheekysealion · 09/09/2008 19:38

evening all....

Hows your day been...

I have had a really great day...
does in matter how much veg i eat..
just had a heap of cauliflower, corgette, and cabbage... with quorn sausages and gravy.. but the veg was loads... not sure if i had to much

WigWamBam · 09/09/2008 22:36

I don't really think there's such a thing as too much veg ... although all that cauliflower and cabbage will probably have you farting all night

And if you're eating Quorn you'll need some proper food inside you as well - revolting stuff ... although I'm not allowed to say so because Quorn is keeping dh in a job at the moment!

I'm in on my own tonight and feeling rather down - danger time. So my good intentions have flown out of the window tonight ... again ...

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Kewcumber · 09/09/2008 23:07

what does your DH do WWB (now I have visions of him clearing quorn-clogged drains!)

WigWamBam · 09/09/2008 23:24

No, not clearing Quorn-clogged drains

He is a Project Manager. Mainly runs food projects, although the company also does design engineering and project management for pharmaceuticals companies (getting the freebies when his projects were for Thorntons and Cadburys were much better than the freebies he got from the pharmaceutical company who sent us a crate of travel sickness tablets and children's vitamins ...)

He's currently heading up a large project for the company who make Quorn - they are expanding their production and he's running the project to do it. They sent us a box full of their ready meals once but I'm allergic to the rubbish stuff.

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 09:12

Shame - my vision was funnier.

Isn;t quorn just some kind of scientifically engineered mushroom (or have I got that wrong?)

TigerFeet · 10/09/2008 10:41

THat's pretty much it Kewcumber

When I worked in a food micro lab we used to do testing on Quorn and the sludge that it's made from... it looked vile but it didn't put me off, I was a vegetarian at the time and ate loads of the stuff!

WigWamBam · 10/09/2008 11:00

It's a fungus - well, a mould actually - man-made but not genetically manipulated. It was created in the 60s by scientists trying to convert the waste products from the bakery trade into animal food. In the 80s they becan to develop it as a supplement for a predicted world famine but when this didn't actually happen the company decided to cash in on the market for healthy eating - it's low fat, high protein, suitable for veggies.

It grows like a yeast - they have starter batches from the orginal 60s stuff, and each new batch of Quorn is grown from a piece of the starter batch in great big fermenting tanks. But it is much more highly processed than they would have you think, and the plant is more like a chemical plant than a food one (ICI had a lot to do with it at the start).

It has been suggested that Quorn is actually Soylent Green, for those of you old enough to remember

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 11:18

Soylent Green? ISn;t she Robson's less well known sister?

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 11:28

Sparkling clean bill of health for DS at his adoption medical yesterday . Evil witch of a GP seemed quite taken aback at how well behaved he was and how developmentally normal he was (she didn't add "considering he has a fat mother" but we elephants don't forget )

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 11:28

Does anyone remember the story of my medical for the adoption? Otherwise you will be a bit bemused by that comment!

WigWamBam · 10/09/2008 11:33

Soylent Green

I remember, Kew. Two fingers up to the GP as you left the office, I trust?

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Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 11:41

nah.. smiled nicely (and thought "evil witch" as I left but it wasn't nearly as satisfying as kicking her hard on the shins would have been)

swiftyknickers · 10/09/2008 12:02

hey hey-can I join??!!! Am getting hitched next year and have just weighed myself and am officially horrified!! help!

hockeypuck · 10/09/2008 13:46

Kew - I don't remember that story - I remember the early days when you had been told that you had been improved and were off to meet him, but not the evil witch medical comments.
Oh and to answer your earlier question too. I live in a suburb to the North of Cardiff, about 10 mins from the city centre. Yes, I agree that Cardiff rocks! I moved here when I got married 11 years ago and would never leave now - I love it.

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 14:40

I was in halls in my first year a little north of Roath and then in Cathays for a couple of years.

I'll find the thread about the evil witch...

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 14:51

this thread explains

particularly my posts of 20:21 and 23:19 just to read it again.

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 15:00

sorry to ignore you swifty - what are your aims? You're in with the real heavyweights here - the emotional eaters, the druggies etc so steel yourself! (On the upside we are very funny and very kind and very strict and very understanding )

WigWamBam · 10/09/2008 15:02

You forgot the big feet which we use to kick each other's backsides occasionally, KC

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hockeypuck · 10/09/2008 15:02

Aww Kew - what a nightmare. You are absolutely right that all women should be allowed to have child, by birth or by adoption regardless of their weight. I hope that the GP now looks at your lovely healthy son and sees how happy he is and what a great relationship you have and feels guilty. Maybe she will be more considerate to the next person who needs a medical.

I had an awful time while pregnant with DD 6 years ago. I was prepped for an elective Csection (agreed with my consultant because of a difficult pregnancy and an expected small pelvis). My consultant went on holiday and while I was on the operating table, fully ready to receive my DD in half an hour a different consultant came in and said "I'm not doing the section, you can try a natural birth instead, you're too fat to risk a section mothers can die through this you know" and refused to do it. He did all this in front of a theatre staff of about 10 people. I then had to cope with another month of pregnancy (went 3 weeks overdue because he refused to do the section and my consultant still away on leave) then I went into natural labour, had 24 hours, big surprise yes my pelvis was too small and I had to have an emergency section which was much more complicated because it was an emergency.

I am devastated that in this day and age the only ism that is still allowed is fatism. Racism, sexism etc are rightfully protected against, but I still come across ignorant fatist fascists all the time.

Thank you for sharing what must have been a really horrendous time for you Kew. I'm so glad it turned out well for you in the end and you have your wonderful son x

swiftyknickers · 10/09/2008 15:04

Hi waves well i am now 15 stone and would like to be 12 for the wedding,-getting married next May-is this achievable?? am doing slimming world which i like but i drink toooooooooo much and then end up binge eating-friggin nightmare

Kewcumber · 10/09/2008 15:10

The most ridiculour thing Hockey is that DS's most likely alternative to me as a mother was no-one as a mother, surely having a fat mother is better than none. Also I do genuinely have no health issues (at the moment!) I have two living parents in their 70's (one as overweight as me) and a living grandmother who's 93 (all apparently the best indicator of your age expectancy). It was the deceit of it which troubled me most - waiting until I'd left the room and implying she would sign the form before adding the comment - luckily the adoption manager felt I deserved a copy.

I'd love to know whether her surprise at how well he's doing was down to his poor start or to his fat working mother!