Lost six stone, feel humiliated

[ButterflyBarista]

I've told noone in real life how much I've lost but obviously it's very clear I have lost weight (in fact a third of my body weight). I have done this through diet and exercise alone and walking in my local neighborhood.I work locally too.
i just feel utterly humiliated by myself, does anyone understand? I get comments literally every day. In fact, yesterday I was stopped whilst on a run, by by two separate people I don't know to ask me exactly how much weight I had lost. Both women were trying to be nice and friendly but I just feel mortified. It's embarrassing that I had let myself get to such a weight in the first place, that people are watching me, and that, actually I am basically the same person I ever was but now somehow more worthy and "inspirational". I find it all utterly mortifying and although I understand people are trying to be nice, I just hear "you're so much better than the whale you were before".
Can anyone understand or talk me out of this?

So insightful !

Totally agree. It pissed me off that my weight was more interesting than anything else about me.

Wow I think you are amazing, well done

I need to lose at least that and taking that first step is so hard, I still haven't done it

You are amazing

Do you mean 'wrong' as in overweight?

Do you mean 'wrong' as in overweight?

You meant to ask @ButterflyBarista

Yes I did mean that, because whatever I did, I always felt outside of the norm. And often was made to feel like that by some particularly nasty people. I clearly don't agree with that (which is why I used quotation marks) and obviously I wasn't just overweight, I was obese.

So then you lose the weight, and people are still treating you as different, "wrong" in some way, and focusing their attention on the weight. So in a sense it's like you're still carrying the weight, psychologically.

I fully understand. I'm the same but still have the 6 stone to lose. You've done so well op.

I can totally understand where you are coming from OP, Ive also lost 6st in just over a year.
Sometimes comments make me feel good and sometimes they make me feel kinda judged and as if I wasnt good enough before. Losing a huge amount of weight changed your whole perspective on life, both on how you approach life and how people approach you. Im hoping my brain will eventually accept the 'new me'!LOL

Also it helps me to remember that often these comments really arent about me!
Sometimes its somebody really wanting to know how you lost weight because they are struggling to diet and think you have found new 'magic' method.
Sometimes people are just trying to be nice..... I used to struggle with any compliment and never believe them but Ive stopped disagreeing with people and just started to thank them instead as most of the time its just because they are trying to be nice and disagreeing will just make them feel bad and awkward.

OP I totally understand. I lost 3.5 stone years ago and the attention I had was ridiculous. Even neighbours and school parents I’d never spoken to before all of a sudden stopped me in the street. I know they were being complimentary but as an introvert I felt quite uncomfortable. One mum who had never been particularly friendly towards me told me I was tiny and how did I do it?! I had messages on fb from people I barely knew asking how I lost the weight. I just found it all so intrusive. I think partly why I put weight back on was to stop all the comments - as ridiculous as that sounds! I feel annoyed with myself for letting it affect me as I’d worked so hard to loose the weight and should’ve just shrugged off the attention.

And also a sense of validation for being slim! It made me think, was I not good enough before!