DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

Hello fellow noob Vebrithien

I'm in the danger zone right now, which is after I've picked the kids up and I'm making dinner. I can eat almost a full meal's worth of calories in snacks and then I'll eat dinner. I'm drinking diet coke instead. I'm not braving the scales for the first time until Friday but want to start getting into better habits now.

@Oysterbabe could you drink hot bovril or bullion? Or miso? I personally am not a massive fan of them but i know a lot of fasters do use them for that purpose, those half hours when dinner is cooking and you’re soooooo hungry.

I’ve just had my options hot choc, and am orange. That’s all my cals for today. I was going to go for a walk but instead I went to b&q to get some gorilla tape as the builder broke the sky dish today, then I climbed out on the flat roof to repair the dish 🤦‍♀️ being a grown up is relentlessly shit sometimes isn’t it?!

Thanks for the welcome!

I did my third run this morning, and yesterday went well, ate between 12:30 and 7:30, soup and toast, filled pasta and salad. Had a piece of chocolate too.

This morning will be the real test of 16:8 for me, as I've not tried it after running.

Still, first time for everything!

Good morning my lovelies

I had a night from hell last evening. I ate so much I had an awful stomach ache and went to bed exceptionally early and slept it off as you would an alcoholic hangover (serves me right).

I have to really sort this now it's getting too ridiculous.

DP is eating very healthily whilst he waits for his blood test to be taken again, (the drs surgery or the lab lost his first bloods) so today I am committing to joining him.

I had blueberries in my porridge instead of the usual teaspoon of sugar (yes I know blueberries contain sugar but they are better for me). I'm hoping to just have an orange and an apple for lunch but will see how it goes.

I daren't weigh myself but am committed to reversing the damage before June.

Have a lovely day everyone and keep trying.

How had everyone got on today?

I've settled into the approach of skipping breakfast, which is actually super easy for me. I've always struggled with what to have.
I had salad with feta and an apple for lunch and about to have chicken and spinach curry and rice for dinner.
WFH tomorrow so I'm going to have to fit some exercise in somewhere, as I won't be able to rely on my cycle commute.

I have really struggled today, and ended up grazing all day. In the end I went for a walk after work, went to the shop and bought chocolate, just one bar and put myself out of my misery. As a result of the grazing anc then the choc , ending on 2100 cals today. Try again tomorrow!

I went to Pilates last night and now I can't walk. Turns out exercise is bad for you.

Are reasonably well all day but ruined it with pizza for tea.

DD (18 ish months) keeps waking me up at 3am and it's just destroying my capacity to eat healthily. I just want crap to give me energy.

Sorry to hear some of you are having such a tough time @poorpaws and @Zebracat

At least we are still trying. I guess if we weren't offsetting the bad days with trying to be good then it would just all be bad days and then where would we be?

We are going to need a new thread soon as well

Welcome newbies 👋🏻
I was up again on Friday to 17'10". I haven't been that since last year so I'm really unimpressed with myself, especially knowing how close I was to being in the 16s recently. It has properly shaken me though, along with seeing my body with honest eyes and really not liking what I'm seeing. Time for a real concerted effort again.
I've told a real life friend that I need her help to keep me accountable. She's too nice to be strict with me or anything, but like checking in here, knowing that someone knows I'm trying to lose can help me keep focus!
More salad and veg at meal times and less snacking away from mealtimes.

Don't be too hard in yourself PinkArt we all know how easily this happens. I was deleting some of my old diet spreadsheets the other day and wad thoroughly depressed about how much lighter I was. All we can do is keep trying.

I'm WFH today so probably going to find it a bit harder to wait until lunch to eat. I have miso so maybe I'll see if that helps keep me going.

I've just made the same salad I took in yesterday and put it in the fridge. Having it ready will stop me making a sandwich, which is always a slippery slope. I eat a sandwich in 5 seconds and am still hungry, so then start reaching for the crisps and it turns into a feeding frenzy like a shark. The salad takes a lot longer to eat and fills me up more.

@Oysterbabe I do the same, I love a salad!

I've had a really good few days, but weighed myself this morning and feel defeated. I'm half a pound heavier then last week.
I had a day off on Saturday but I'm just sad that I haven't caught up.
My sons birthday is this weekend and I have a busy weekend of parties etc so I'm going to have some time off as I want to enjoy it. I had just hoped I'd have felt better about myself.
Oh well, just the way it is sometimes isn't it!

Sometimes our bodies are dicks like that midnightblue12 It's probably water or something.

Just been to an event at the school for my kid in reception. Whenever I'm in a group of lots of women I always find myself checking how many of them are fatter than me. I'd say 3 out of about 40 people. One of them was pregnant.

Definitely look over a month not a week @midnightblue12

I always gain even though I'm being good right up until the week before my period and then I lose 4lbs in a week while eating all the chocolate I can find.

Hiya, can I join? I'm rubbish at sticking to diets.

I started an overhaul at the end of March as my scales were telling me I was the biggest I've ever been. I was doing well, 3 weeks in and SW-4lbs then for many reasons I threw in the towel. This week I'm back on it. Daily weigh ins have been really odd though.
Tues: SW-6lbs 🙂
Weds: SW-7lbs 🥳
Thurs: SW-5lbs😟
Fri: SW-3lbs😩

By Weds I'd made my first half stone goal and was elated and the next few days I've put on 2lbs a day. Very odd and demotivating. Historically, the effort I put in now shows up on the scale in 2 weeks time, so maybe I was quite unhealthy 2 weeks ago. I won't let it derail me.

Welcome LaWench

I braved for the scales today and set my 'start weight' on my spreadsheet I weigh almost exactly the same as I did 7 years ago when I set out to lose the baby weight. There has been another baby since then, my weight has yo-yoed, I've been slim, I've been obese. Now I'm back where I started at 13st 1.8lbs.
I guess it could be worse. Without all the weigh loss attempts in the middle maybe I'd be a lot bigger now.

Onwards and downwards.

Good morning everyone and welcome @LaWench

I braved the scales before my official Monday weigh-in to see if I'd recovered from the horrendous fail at the beginning of the week. Three nights on stir fry based dinners and I've recouped all the damage done.

Back to 10 st 13.75 lbs this morning. Yes very high 10s but better than the 11st zone so hoping to keep motivated.

DP thinks I am a dietician and is driving me crazy. This is the first time he's ever tried to eat more healthily (not overweight but worried about pending cholesterol results) and I get endless questions about food, are blueberries better than bananas?, can I still have yogurt?, what should I eat with salmon?, it's relentless. I do support him greatly and I know it's because he's so worried about his health, but oh my he's going over the top.

Anyway, I'm hoping that with him making so many changes I'll keep my diet going and see a good loss by the end of the month.

Have a good Friday everyone, the weekend looms, do your best.

Thanks @Oysterbabe - that was a very good reminder to be nice to myself while I'm doing this. I do the weight comparing thing too. Let's try to shake that habit because it definitely doesn't fall under being nice to ourselves?

I'm back down two pounds to 17'8" today, which is good psychologically. That's with coronation snacking too which wasn't all as healthy as it could have been! I'm feeling in a good head space to hit another loss next week.

Well done PinkArt

I'm good at giving at advice but not too good at following it myself. I will try and be kind to myself.

Weekend, which is my usual excuse for 3 days of feasting (Friday is part of the weekend right?) I'm going to try and limit it to just Saturday evening while watching Eurovision and eating sensibly the rest of the time. That will be a big improvement for me.

I've just had a salad and an apple so far today. I'm making tuna steak, oven chips and peas for dinner. I'll have a glass of wine later.

Good evening, ladies.
I am ending up on 1251 cals, that leaves me 51 in the bank and includes 2 glasses of wine. I traded out half my steak and my dessert to allow for wine, I wasn’t going to drink tonight. Carbs on 60g which is excellent. All pretty good actually considering I’m due on, AND it’s Friday. Yo be honest I’ve had a few little extra nibbles today that haven’t quite made it into the tracker (a bit of chicken, a few carrot sticks etc) so probably more like 1400 ish. But still good.

things I have enjoyed this week: lemon mayo- squeeze a half lemon into a tbsp mayo and whisk it up, it’s blooming lovely. Calamari- half a bag of frozen calamari in the air fryer is 250 cals.
Really expensive tomatoes- honestly, the taste is incomparable to bland, cheap cherry tomatoes. Makes me determined to grow some this year as they are very spendy $$$$!

The weekend is upon us again and tomorrow at least looks like it will be dry and warm ish here. We have gardening and other jobs to do, so should be able to keep busy. I’ll plan out all my food tonight, I do find it helps if I fast in the morning til lunch but I need to occupy myself. I’ve not run all week because i have pain in my hip so I plan to do a little gentle run tomorrow in the morning, and a decent yoga sesh in the afternoon.

The scales had been bouncing about for me too this week. Down a pound this morning despite Nando’s and cinema treats yesterday, but still up 2 pounds since Monday. I’ve had a much better day today, and also been busy in the garden. I try not to include Friday as the weekend.I’m going to try that lemon Mayo.

Sorry to hear your DD was thoughtless @Zebracat - my DM is (very) obese also due to terrible hip problems - DP is full of tactless comments about this (although thankfully not in front of her!) when he's over 20 stone himself... don't get me wrong, her eating habits definitely haven't helped, but she was always a reasonably average weight before her hip issues developed. I think people who haven't had any experience of debilitating conditions - in themselves or family/ friends - just have no empathy with the situation.

@Vebrithien I'm starting C25K again next week, I've actually found a local group to run with which hopefully will encourage me. DP is usually full of disparaging comments about me not doing any exercise etc (despite always walking 10K+ steps per day!), being overweight etc... now I've said that I'd like to join this group for an hour a week he's suddenly full of grumbles that he'll have to, you know, put his own kids to bed once a week

DTS1's lack of sleep is the bane of my (tired!) life @effiesgoldwig - he was an absolute horror as a baby for getting to/ staying asleep and even at 7 is still not great, I suspect ASD or similar as without enough sleep he's manic in the morning too, it's not a fun combination when I'm then hideously tired and grumpy

I'll definitely try the lemon mayo @thenewaveragebear1983 - I often roast tired looking cherry tomatoes in the air fryer with a spray of olive oil, delicious.

I've made cakes in the air fryer @poorpaws, I don't put the oven on that often now. Always on the lookout for healthy recipes for cakes, biscuits etc! Would your DP accept flapjacks or similar as a healthier snack? Is he still on his health kick?! DP's requirements for his last diet were:

• no lactose
• as few carbs as possible
• no red meat, but plenty of other meat, but not chicken or turkey
• no 'vege alternatives' like tofu or Quorn
• very little fruit
• fish, but only once a week as he doesn't really like it

And so on... there were more! When I asked him what he would actually eat, he didn't have a single meal idea...

I'm feeling a bit invisible this week (except weight-wise, sadly!) - it was my birthday at the weekend and two friends I'd consider very close didn't bother to get in touch at all. I've known them both 20+ years, we speak regularly via Messenger/ WhatsApp, and yet... nothing. I didn't want birthday drinks or even a card, just a Facebook message or text would have done! And MIL, who I'd also say I'm close to, didn't bother either PIL have just 'lent' BIL and his wife £20K to finish their house renovations and offered to take them and their DC on holiday at Christmas, and I didn't even get the usual £20 in a card... I know it's not compulsory but I always make sure the DC buy/ make her thoughtful gifts for her birthday and Christmas, so it stings a bit to get nothing back, not even a birthday text.

Ooof, what a pity party! I'm hoping to turn a corner now and use my next birthday as a date to aim for - I have 50lb to lose and it's 50 (or so) weeks, hopefully that's serendipitous!

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl I’m struggling to work out what “no red meat but lots of other meat but not chicken or Turkey” means???? What did he eat??? 😂 this sounds like when my son was little and he didn’t eat fish but we told him fish was ‘chicken of the sea’ and it was his favourite food. The day he found out it was fish was a dark day in our household.

i would be annoyed too about the birthday thing. The in laws giving them money /holiday is probably a backwards compliment really as in they don’t think you need it. But the birthday card sucks and I’m with you on that. I hope you did have a lovely birthday despite that. And 50lbs in 50 weeks is just a perfect target isn’t it, manageable and sustainable. Play a little game of ‘this time next year….’

Good Morning. I am not having porridge today, so thinking about a boiled egg and soldiers with a little marmite, mug of scaldingly hot tea. Or pancakes with crispy bacon. Or a banana smoothie. I am sooo hungry.