DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

Cheap junk food can be quite luring. It's only the last year or so I've figured out it isn't worth it.

Diet not going too well. Eating quite healthily but too much of it, although had some chocolate, ice cream and some chips. Urgh. Starting again it is. 😯

Dear diet fail (ddf ?) Friends...I am half way down my third gin martini in a very very fancy London bar
I'm quite not sober
My dp has stood me up...again...
The main issue with this is...and I really hope for some un mums net understanding...we met each other when we were married to other people.
We are now 7 yrs into a real life relationship and mostly it's wonderful.
But occasionally he's a dick...I don't think he's cheating on me...I know the old saying about if the mistress becomes a wife you create a vacancy...
It's just I feel I can never complain as his marriage split was horrendous whereas mine was easy...my dexh was delighted...he is gay and had a partner who wanted real life ...
So...why am I drunkenly posting..cus I'm cross and considering eating my feelings...

I’m feeling good today. I’ve eaten my allowance. . I havent swum today but I spent hours in the garden.

@Theredjellybean is he uncontactable? Honestly, I think eating is a good idea, if the alternative is more martinis. Hugs though.

@Theredjellybean i second @Zebracat , I think you need food and some water!

I had a good day today. I went to 2 gym classes and stuck to my cals, even without eating my exercise cals. I didn’t eat anything til lunchtime, it definitely helps as it banks a few cals, but I was really hungry by the time it came to lunch. Still, best day in a while and no sugar/biscuits etc which I have had a bad habit of finding recently. I have 100 cals leftover so I am going to have some fruit and then I’m done

@Theredjellybean sadly a lot of them are dicks! It was the "again" word I didn't like so I am assuming he stands you up regularly/quite often/sometimes and that's just not nice. Time for an honest sober chat I think.

I hope you are ok this evening and safe. I wonder where the hell he is. Sending you support and a hug.

I've been engaged to my DP, either two or three years, I can never remember. Friends and neighbours keep saying it's time we got married but I really don't think I'm ever going to. Many years ago I married a man I didn't even know even though we'd been together four years before I married him. DP is a very good man, but I think one marriage was enough for me.

I've done ok today I think. I really craved chocolate this evening but I stayed away from it so that has to be a win.

What a prick @Theredjellybean! That 'again' really sounds like it's doing a lot of heavy lifting.
Do what helps get you in a happier place tonight. I'd also suggest no more martinis and something comfortingly carby. Then tomorrow consider if he's making you happy, when you have a clear head.

Thank you ladies...back at flat, two pieces of toast,large glass of water...you did all stop me having another martini for which I am grateful.

Good stuff @Theredjellybean. Try to get some decent sleep and tomorrow start to unpack that guilt around his break up. It's not your fault that it went more smoothly on your side than his, but even if it was, that's in the past now and you can't let it keep affecting the present. I'd want to have a serious conversation with him about the lack of respect standing me up shows. It's not something you do to someone you care about so either he doesn't care or he is incredibly thoughtless about the impact of his actions.

@Theredjellybean I am assuming you are sleeping this morning but I wanted to post to let you know I am thinking of you and hope you feel ok.

This situation is not ok and you need to talk, you really do. I am quite worried about you and the way you are being treated. Hugs.

Forget the diet today and eat a hearty breakfast, I believe you need it.

@Theredjellybean . Hope you are ok today. If you are feeling embarrassed, please don’t. As a chronic oversharer myself, I like it when someone else blurts, and not in a ghoulish way. No one has a perfect life. Advertising agencies made them up.

Hi everyone 👋🏻 I started meal replacements and a 1200 calorie a day diet almost 6 weeks ago and so far have lost 16lbs. My BMI is still in the overweight range but I’m hoping to get down to my target weight soon which just takes me into ideal weight territory. I’ve been using Exante meal replacements - the stock on their website is chronically low so I’ve been buying their 2-4 week diet boxes which have plenty of variety in.

I'm attempting to eat no chocolate until Friday. A small goal for some, a depresingly large one for me, but something that will hopefully reset my thinking and my weight.
One more day to go and it's not even been as awful as I thought it would be! I think I might try to build it in as a rule for a bit - chocolate at the weekend but not the week maybe. Or every other day. Just to break the habit a bit more.

I had one of these today, they are very nice. 144 calories but they feel very filling (like a blancmange kind of texture) and they are sugar free, and considering they are artificially sweetened they actually aren’t too sweet.

Closing up the kitchen today on 1350 cals, 54g carbs, 125g protein. Very successful day! I went to the gym at 6am but I haven’t done anything else as it’s been so wet and miserable all day.

tomorrow I’m planning food more of the same. I’m not sure if I will drink tomorrow, I have some gin and slimline tonics and a non alcoholic wine as well so I have a couple of lighter options if I want something. I think the only way to handle the bank holiday is to try to stick to meals as best as possible, avoid snacks and mindless grazing, and have things if I really really want them but be discerning enough to say no if I don’t really want it. The fact that the weather is rubbish means less likely to drink as there’s no temptation to sit and drink wine in the sun.

I haven't actually had any chocolate (miracle) but these were lovely.

@thenewaveragebear1983 that looks my kind of thing, where was it from please?

@poorpaws they were from Asda but I imagine you could get them in other supermarkets. They are quite pricey but Aldi and Lidl do a version, although not sure if they are sugar free.

These are really yum desserts only 119 cats per pot. I love the caramel ones but DH loves the dark choc.
https://www.tesco.com/groceries/en-GB/products/262697292?sc_cmp=ppcGHS+-+Grocery+-+NewMPX_PMAX_All_OT_Top+Offers_Online+Budget_1009392**262697292*&gclsrc=aw.ds&gclid=CjwKCAjwuqiiBhBtEiwATgvixNropxEhIjSvuJezNDofKKxq-VtRkbOHKPNejZSWxbJm_eURNtWAKRoCXa0QAvD_BwE&preservedReferrer=www.google.com/

FML, no loss this week after no chocolating. No gain though so I'm trying to take that as a small win.

@Theredjellybean hope you are OK.

@PinkArt that's rubbish but please stick with it. I've previously found that I seem to loose every second week when I'm consistently making good choices (still trying!)
I've had a decent few days (4) but the scales have gone up half a pound, probably need to drink more water. Trying not to obsess over weight and just make better choices.

I’m also having a very good week, but the numbers 9n the scale are jumping around like crazy. What I do know is that going back to my old disordered ways cos it’s not fair leads to an average gain of a kilo a month. Hang in there@PinkArt

Feel like I'm back to square one (eating quite healthily but too much it seems), but feel a bit smarter with food so hopefully can start losing. 🙄😂

I’ve had a good day so far. Last night I had 2 g&t and fell asleep so that helped keep the calories down!
this morning I set out to do 12 km with my friend and we got lost so we did 15km and really had to sprint the last 5 to get home for football (I mean, sprint like a nearly 40 year old , not like any kind of elite athlete). I’ve had a protein shake, a massive salad and Tuna and feta. Dinner is burgers, mine will be sans bun but with bacon and blue cheese. I have made a fruit salad and I may allow a few extra cals to have a protein pudding, and I’ve allowed 4 measures of gin and slimline. This brings me in at 1600 cals, 95g carbs, and 117g protein. For a bank holiday weekend I will take that!

I was 155.5 at weigh in and I am determined this week to see under 11st, so under 154. It’s possible. But will be difficult if I go wildly off track. We are out for a meal and drinks tomorrow so that will be my danger zone but after that, I can get my head back in the game. I am feeling very motivated, holiday in 5 weeks!

today I went through the loft and got rid of all the clothes that don’t fit me into a big pile for Vinted. I feel kinda sad about it in one way as I remember wearing them and feeling great in them, but actually my body shape has changed. It’s not any more body fat, it’s actually the effect of 5-6 years of running 3x a week and hitting the gym. So for those ‘skinny’ clothes to fit me again I’d have to lose a massive thing in my life that I love.

Guys I'm failing.
I just can't stick it out.
I've been unwell AGAIN which has led to comfort eating.
My sons birthday is in 2 weeks and I really would like to drop a handful of pounds! So annoyed at myself :(