DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

Sounds like a bad case of unrealistic expectations. Is a handful 5 pounds? In 2 weeks? We’re all failing if thats the benchmark. If you feel you are really failing, why not make a conscious decision to maintain for a week? It’s very good practice. Weight loss isn’t a race, it’s about finding a healthy relationship with food, and letting go of all the bad stuff, that leads to poor decisions. Good luck.

Hi ...thank you for supporting me in not drinking an extra martini and then eating my feelings this week.
I have pulled myself together and yesterday took my surf board out for an hour..the first time in two yrs...I didn't manage to stand up...well actually I rarely managed before I had two prolopaased discs and menopausal abdomen so I wasn't expecting to suddenly be leaping up like a gazelle.
But I did have fun and reminded myself that exercise can take all forms and enjoying myself doing something just for me for an hour is ok.
Scales today 73.2
A good loss of 1kg
Looking to get well down into the 72 bracket this week.

Good morning everyone

It's the first day of May and a Monday tomorrow. @ClaraTheImpossibleGirl and I love a shiny new month starting on a Monday. Good reason to come back to us Clara, you can't escape for ever 😁

So are we having a May challenge? It would normally be a good month for me to do well (no birthdays and not an awful lot on my calendar).

It's not so good now I've got my new air fryer oven. Baking has been my hobby for many years but my old oven was rubbish. (Christmas cake in oven for 6.5 hours and wasn't cooked). My OH loves homemade cake so I've been making scones and lemon drizzle cake. I'm having to practice as timings are different with it being a small oven so I have to keep baking and then sampling, agghhh!

Anyway I'd love to get back to under 11 st AGAIN. I seem to get as low as 10 st 10 lbs and something happens and I'm well over 11 st again. Anything under 11 would make me happier.

Have a good Sunday everyone. It's been raining during the night here so very wet under paw so a muddy walk ahead of me.

@Theredjellybean I am so pleased you are ok. You need that talk to sort it all out. You sound much happier though so that's a big plus.

@midnightblue12 honestly if you want a short sharp weight loss, I’d suggest cut the carbs, do a couple of weeks of very strict calorie counted/low carb and yeah you might lose 7lbs in two weeks. However…. The real weight loss will come from sustainable sensible eating that nourishes you, exercise, whole foods and sleep. I completely empathise with your feelings, I have been there and I guess we all have. Find something to wear for your sons birthday that you feel nice in, regardless of what size is on the label. Then my suggestion is to focus on your food, plan some nice meals, track what you’re eating, get out for a walk every day and drink lots of water.

I was totally there a few weeks ago, I just couldn’t get it to ‘click’ after going off track at Easter. One of my favourite mantras is ‘come back to what you know’ - that’s where you feel grounded and you can make the changes you need. Stick to the core ‘pillars’ that you know work for you- for me it’s exercise, protein, cutting out sugar- and focus on those rather than the other stuff and it tends to slot back into place.

Hi just catching up.

@Theredjellybean Sounds like you're taking some much needed time for yourself. We probably all need to do more of that really! And well done for your loss.

@poorpaws I'm up for a May challenge too. There's nothing big in may for me either so count me in. I've managed to undo my blip and want to get going back in the right direction downwards!

A 5 pound loss would be good for me. 15.5 as a target. Can't seem to beat 15.10 so a kickstart in may is a good plan. If I could be into the 14s for the summer that would be amazing.

May challenge. Yes please. I would like to lose 3 kilos.

Thanks for the support gang. I can do this, I am in control of this and I want to do this.
The excess Easter stash is in a box and I'm putting it on a high shelf for a bit. There's still some other pre Easter chocolate around so I can treat myself, I just need to keep the treats a sensible size.

I’m up for a May challenge, I go on holiday in 4 weeks at whitsun so I’d really like to be 6lbs more down by then, so 150lbs. It’s possible, but I will need to be strict.

April has overall been a pretty good month for me, after a disastrous March. I did 120km and 10 gym sessions and a couple of home workouts too although annoyingly I’m still only back to where I was before Easter. But I feel better, I feel fitter, and i feel much more in control so that’s got to be a good thing. I’d like to see a few losses now over the next few weeks and a bit less yo-yo ing. I’m still a stone down this year, nearly, and I need to remember this as I don’t really see much weight loss yet.

my strategy for May is:

• low carb/high protein and track my macros. I’d like to hit around 80g carbs max each day; if I can get a couple of days under 50g that will give me a boost.
• keep to my calories- I do this quite well when I put my mind to it, but I need to put my mind to it every day. 1300 as a baseline, up to 1500 when I exercise hard.
• increase my exercise- push my distances, lift heavier, push myself a bit more
• water!
• finish every day in green in nutracheck, and keep an eye on my weekly cals in/out not just daily.

Good morning lovely people. Monday weigh in. 95.9 kilos. So I lost an astonishing 2 kilos last week. I was a lot better than I have been but I still went over my calories on several days and a large Lindt bunny was consumed, but I shared it. I did 3 good swims and I think my metabolism responds. I also tried to only have 1 “treat” item a day, and kept them small. My target for May is 3 kilos. I would love to continue to lose 2 kilos a week, but I know I won’t. Going away next weekend and there will be cake.

@Zebracat that's fantastic.

I've lost 1kg this week but I've had a cold so I've not fancied anything rich like chocolate. My walking and exercise is down though as it is the first cold I've had in over 3 years and it's made me feel really rotten.

oh well done @Zebracat and @SapatSea

@Theredjellybean thanks. It’s given me such a boost. I just made a very lovely soup for tea, did my swim, been gardening, just under a kilo gets me under 15 stone. I so want to be there.

I felt quite slim this morning. I had a really nice day yesterday off plan, and I didn’t track anything or guilt myself. I didn’t drink as I felt a bit sick in the evening and I went to bed early which also helped.

today, I ‘m ending up a bit over target but still acceptable on 1750 cals. I ran this morning, my fastest time this year and felt good. Tonight I’m having a glass of wine and had a nice low carb dinner - made some absolutely delicious roasted cauliflower with Ras al Hanout and lemon and it was so tasty, with a pork steak and veg, and I had a huge salad for lunch.

office day tomorrow, it’s always a tricky day as it’s soooooo looooooong but I have made myself a lunch of salad, grated cheese, blue cheese mayo and some more of my spicy cauli so I’m looking forward to that. The cupboards are a bit bare so I think I’ll have a gym kitchen ready meal tomorrow for my dinner. Simple but does keep the choice out and helps keep the cals down.

Good evening everyone

It's not like me to post in an evening but I've had such a busy day. I haven't had time.

I have no idea how, but it looks like I lost 2 lbs this week. My eating wasn't always brilliant, but I did do a lot of exercise.

I started the first day of May very well until my lovely neighbour brought home-made Spotted Dick. She even said "I hope you're telling your slimming group about this". So I have admitted it to you all, but to compensate I had no snacking at all this evening which is unheard of.

There are some good losses this week so well done everyone. Let's see what we can all do in May.

Well, I lost 1lb this week and honestly, given how badly I ate, that will do. I have well and truly lost control and it's SO hard to get back on it. I'm doing fine with the intermittent fasting – and I think it's that which has saved me from further gains! – but come my eating window I'm just making bad choices. Yesterday I cooked tuna and vegetable pasta for my daughter and thought "I'll have a small bowl with some extra salad" and was all proud of myself... but then my neighbour ordered takeaway and brought me round some leftovers and I ate them. ARGH. I'm just sabotaging myself at every turn!

On the bright side I have discovered that if I have Alpro coconut milk in my coffee it's sweet enough to not need any sugar, so that has reduced my calorie intake a little. Small changes made a big difference for me before so I'm always looking for them.

It's just frustrating being at this point. I lost 6 stone and it felt easy. I'm now in a place where if I could lose 2 more I would be happy – but it's been more effort to lose the first couple of lbs of that than the last 6 stone was entirely.

Thanks for the advice the other day!
Woke up today feeling so sad about my lack of motivation so I've downloaded my fitness pal, set 1400 daily target and cracked on.
Already feeling more focused.
Breakfast was fruit, protein yogurt and nut granola,
Snack protein flapjack
Dinner chicken wrap and boiled egg
Snack fibre bar
Tea chicken and veg.

Praying I can stay focused for the rest of the week! Need to get back on track, it's really making me miserable being so unhealthy!

I do indeed love a month starting on a Monday @poorpaws - I was a bit thrown this month though by the bank holiday! DTS1 has an after school club on a Monday which he loves, sadly he'll miss out twice this month but we were away this weekend anyway, which he enjoyed.

Just read your Easter story, how sad! We were quite poor during my teenage years (from around 11 - 17) after my youngest sibling was born when I was just over 11, they weren't planned and have severe additional needs, meaning DM couldn't go back to work afterwards. We went from a two income family who weren't well off to a one income family who really struggled - I didn't even have enough sanpro, school uniform etc. I feel like I really missed out on school trips (couldn't afford them), after school activities (no time or money for those), and even anyone caring that I had clean clothes... now I always make sure that my DC have enough of everything, if they want to try a club they can, etc. I've probably gone too far the other way but again, it's because I remember how awful it felt to not have those things.

Today I have enquired about joining a beginners running club... not much of a start but believe me, between my lack of fitness and my social anxiety, it would be tough!!

Hope everyone has had a good week? And hope you enjoyed the Spotted Dick @poorpaws !!

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl hi! How was running club? I run a lot but I’ve never joined a club, although many times have been tempted.

I have weighed this morning and I’m 154.4lbs. Tantalisingly close to the 10’s! I am feeling much trimmer on my waist, and also the ‘back fat/muffin top’ region, and my arms look quite lean as well, although I do have quite muscular arms anyway. So the challenge is on to not go crazy this weekend and undo all my hard work. Today I’m doing domestic stuff, cleaning, no run as I have a sore hip, but i will try to get some time for my stretches in as I haven’t done a proper stretch in ages. But as always it’s what I put in my mouth that will have the impact, so I will stick to my high protein/low carb good and try not to drink too much.

after Monday, and until we go away (just under 3 weeks) I am going to try a really strict fast800 type (although more like 1200 cals but super low carb) to give me one last push before holiday with nothing to get in the way.

enjoy the weekend all

Hi everyone, it's suddenly gone very quiet on here.

@ClaraTheImpossibleGirl actually I didn't enjoy the Spotted Dick. My neighbour is an amazing cook and I think she is a trained chef. Everything she makes is superb except the Spotted Dick which I found doughy (I hope she isn't on mumsnet, Barbara I think you are amazing if you read this).

I've been dog walking and exercising and been careful all day but yet again the four hour period in the evening when I sit down has been disastrous. I've been trying to solve this problem for two years and still I eat too much between 5 and 9. It's straight after dinner for goodness sake, you'd think I'd be full.

I've tried making dinner later and I already go to bed early, I've got to rethink this. When it's warmer and not raining I'll take the dogs out again in the evening, which will save one hours eating.

Have a good Saturday (have a good coronation day if you are a monarchist). Raining again! I'm in Devon in May and I've got the heating on! 😕

Are people feeling hungry on their diets?

I may be doing this all wrong. I've been aiming to eat as healthy but eating enough to not experience much hunger. I've never calorie counted as just thought I could do without the faff on. May revise this if my latest plan doesn't work.

I think I'll just plan some nice healthy meal amounts by guessing to help me lose weight and try cope if I get hungry 😂

Hi all I've had a really good 4 days.
I've stayed around 1400 calories everyday, the only day which wa s astruggle was yesterday where I just felt so hungry all day.
Anyway since Tuesday morning I've lost 3 3/4 pounds!
Having today off as we've got plans so I will probably put it all back on 🙈
Really hoping I can get back on it tomorrow as I really want to feel happier and less bloated for my sons birthday next weekend!
First time is months I've stuck to a diet for more then 12 hours so I'm pretty happy with myself and feeling healthier!

i have had a good week so far and scales said 72.5 kgs today so hoping for that or even less come monday
I am working today and I am a;ready exhausted - its been a really busy week
i am supposed to be doing a running event tomorrow morning but need to go and collect my dsd from hospital so might miss it ..i am not that bothered as actually prefer running on my own
i go on holiday in 7 weeks - it would be so good to have lost 7 lbs by then
i want to know @thenewaveragebear1983 how to get rid of back fat ? any tips

@Theredjellybean i don’t know really, I suppose just overall fat loss will eventually show? One of my greatest tips for getting rid of the dreaded muffin too is to simply buy a bigger size - not helpful really, but honestly after years of cramming myself in, I have embraced the fact that the number in my clothes doesn’t change, or even reflect, the number on the scales. Same with bra fat/overhang. Life’s too short.
i haven’t actually measured but I can tell that the big chunk of cake/bread/chocolate that sits above my bum on the small of my back is noticeably smaller because I can’t really grab a big wedge there anymore! Hurrah!