DIET FAILED AGAIN? Thread three. Join us in a friendly group who are very supportive without any judgement.

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Thought I'd save you the hassle @poorpaws.

Well done for those who have lost and good luck to those struggling.

My focus at the moment is just to be wiser for food selection and to keep active. The slow moving scales can wait although I did check this morning and showing I'm nearly back to 14 and a half stone.

I come to you bloated from a 1 year olds birthday tea. Everyone else has gone to walk it off and left me with the tidying up. Very worried that I will pick at the leftovers. Already had a lonely sausage fall into my mouth. Sometimes we just have to try our best.

I finally lost half a pound for the first time since feb! That half a pound has made lots of numbers look much nicer. I'm now 15st 9.5 and 99.5kg. Under 100kg. And bmi under 35. For the first time since 2012.

Next target let's try and hit 97.5.

Leftovers are dangerous! Quick put them in a box in the fridge for tomorrow! Or if it's on plates that would be scraped into the bin I have to do something to make them inedible like smush them with a paper napkin that I used to wipe the table down. Or pour washing up liquid on them. Good luck!

Whoop whoop @effiesgoldwig . That’s a massive milestone.. I didn’t eat any more leftovers.

Well done @effiesgoldwig that’s awesome!

i have a love hate relationship with leftovers, they form a substantial part of my diet as I always cook loads extra! But party food leftovers are never a good idea. I’d consider it a sunk cost and chuck the whole lot away, or else I’d be grazing on it all.

I’ve ended up on 1460 cals today. I did a bit of yoga but no run or anything vigorous except housework. My food was nice, I skipped breakfast as I was at the hygienist, then had protein pancakes with strawberries for brunch, then dinner was cooked by dh- pork belly, salad, mayo. I had a cornetto and a glass of wine, and 2 glasses of non alcoholic wine.

tomorrow I’m not going to count cals but just not go too crazy. I’m going to run in the morning, and will probably not eat breakfast, then have a brunch after running. My friend is coming round for wine and tapas - my menu is:

• roasted courgettes and peppers in lemon and herb,
• calamari
• ham/ Parma ham/ chorizo platter
• new potatoes and chorizo
• salad
• halloumi

plus wine! So could be a little calorific but I’m deliberately not doing dessert (she wont mind, she’s a dieter as well!) And then I’m determined to be back on track from Monday for my 3 week blitz!

Aww @Zebracat it can be hard to refrain from putting a sausage in your mouth. I've managed to avoid buying burgers and sausages for a few weeks now, which is one of my main downfalls.

Did a 30min slow walk on the treadmill and finished 3rd on 20min run on Nintendo Wii so should sleep well tonight. 😴

Morning all, gosh life is different when you don’t go to bed drunk and wake up with a stinking hangover isn’t it? I’ve sat under my skylight drinking my coffee, watching the birds and debating whether to go for a run or wait til later. I feel really energised! Remind me this tomorrow when I feel like a slug and am craving carbs after wine and rich food…..

Anyway, onto today! I need to prep my tapas, as always I have massively over-purchased, so I’m going to streamline my menu back down to a normal amount. I am so bloody ‘extra’ sometimes, I make life difficult and over complicated. So gonna cut back to simplify. I’m going to go for a run, depending on my hip I might try for a 10km but if it’s hurting I won’t go that far. I did stretch yesterday and will do so again today, it does actually make a difference.

other than that, no major plans- will stick a few bits on Vinted and have a tidy up, but generally should be quite a chilled day.

I was doing so well this week and the last few days it's gone to pot. Instead of going on about it I'm shaking myself down and starting again today. There is still enough time in May to see a difference on the scales and that's what I am heading for.

I hope everyone's doing okay, from the last few messages, you are all excelling, well done to everyone.

If there's still time in May for me to lose weight, there's still time for everyone else. I keep thinking to myself how amazing I will feel at the end of the month when I can report a massive loss 🙈

@poorpaws there is absolutely time in May to make a difference! What do you have planned for the rest of the bank holiday?

@thenewaveragebear1983 I have very little planned for the bank holiday. I'll do my usual dog walk and keep up my exercises.

I was hoping to bake cakes and scones getting used to new new oven air fryer but DP has had a bit of a health scare (unconfirmed as yet) but he wants to start a healthier lifestyle. He doesn't smoke or drink alcohol, walks a lot, isn't overweight but he wants to change his diet.

I've just found evidence that on this day last year I weighed exactly the same as today! That is after a year of dieting, so depressing but maybe the nudge I need to get on with it. (The year before, so 2021, I was one stone heavier so there has been very slow progress). By this time next year those scales have to move downwards.

Viewed a couple of photos from 4 years ago and the tummy doesn't seem to have gone down much, so not much progress for me it seems. Although over the last 12 months I have drank far less alcohol and over the last few months I have ate far less junk food, so hopefully just have to be patient and keep working at improving habits.

I plan to try up the fitness as I'm starting to get lazy again and I felt it was helping, especially for bloating.

@poorpaws sorry to hear your dh has had a health scare, but it’s also very positive that it is motivating him to be healthier.
my dh is a naturally ‘skinny fat’ guy, he is light framed and has always been sporty and therefore eats total garbage and very little veg and drinks lager and bemoans how horrific it is for him to be 11.5 stone (he doesn’t know what I weigh!). He had a little health scare a while back due to a potential genetic condition that affects the liver that we found out was in his family. For about 3 months he took very good care of himself, his skin looked great, he slept well, he didn’t snore at all! It was glorious! The novelty wore off once he got his (thankfully) negative genetic test back. ( I must admit I get really pissed off when I get night after night of broken sleep because I get woken by snoring that is completely down to crappy lifestyle).

I think I’d find it too dangerous to make treats in my air fryer! Probably better not to even open that can of worms. My kids love to bake but yesterday I let them bake rocky roads instead, I can remind myself that children are grubby and germy and it’s an unbaked cake! I have some really good recipes for flour/dairy/sugar free biscotti and breads from my paleo days if you would like to try those?

So I had a day off yesterday and weighed in this morning and gained 1 3/4 pounds 😅 I know I haven't really gained that and it'll even out, but good job I wasn't feeling sensitive this morning 🙈
Managed to reset my mindset today and get back on it. I have absolutely no clothes as everything is too tight and the summer days are hopefully coming 😵‍💫

Can I join you?

I've gained 2 stone since covid and I just can't shift it. I've made 100 half arsed attempts. I bought a few new summer dresses, I tried them on today and I just look awful.

Pre-covid I walked 40 minutes to the office every day and 40 minutes home, I did intermittent fasting, went running at the weekend. Covid hit and my role became permanent wfh, my daily step count dropped to fuck all, I couldn't fast with the kitchen right there, I started to despise my job so was eating more for comfort, as my weight went up running became too hard and well, here we are.

I started a new job 2 months ago and I can go to the office if I want so have been cycling in each day. I need to sort my diet out now too. I'm not sure what I'm going to yet exactly but something.

I have an event at the end of September and I would love to have dropped the extra 2 stone by then. 21 weeks away, can it be done? I'm 42 with two small children. I'm generally knackered and I'm hungry 100% of the time.

Welcome @Oysterbabe, lovely of you to have joined us.

I don't know if it can be done or not but you can give it a really good try.

Plenty of support here for when your willpower gets low. I've started again today after a time of giving up. I weigh Monday morning as some others do but we weigh on different days, are on different weight loss "journeys" and really anything goes so long as we try.

I'm weighing in for the week as eaten pizza tonight.
Though ate four bits and three chicken wings only...lot less that I'd normally.
This week ended on 72.5 which I'm Very pleased with.
Next week I can get into 71... something I will be delighted

@Theredjellybean woohoo, doing well. Well done and fingers crossed for next week. Good restraint on pizza too.

Well done jellybean

DH wants to get a takeaway tomorrow as a bit of a bank holiday treat. I'll try not to go mad. I've made a spreadsheet, it feels official now there's a spreadsheet.

I've lost <fanfare>. a whole quarter of a pound 😁🙄

Every little ...

Good luck to Monday weighers.

A loss is a loss @poorpaws !

@Oysterbabe welcome to the group. I found that when I actively increased my protein I felt noticeably less drained and ‘wiped out’ with that miscellaneous tiredness. I always thought I ate a lot of protein but when I tried to hit my target of 120g every day I had to work at it so I obviously wasn’t getting as much as I thought. Especially if you are exercising a fair bit as it sounds like you are, maybe that might help you feel a bit more energised.

that being said, I feel really tired and a bit hungover today. I had a lovely evening with my friends but I drank a bit and mixed my drinks and slept terribly. given the torrential rain forecast all day I intend to just loaf about on the sofa, do some very gentle yoga to ease my hip and maybe get the foam roller on it as my legs are very tired from so much running recently.

Good Morning. I have lost .4of a kilo, which is about a pound , so really not bad given we were away for the weekend. Now 95.5 kg. Some of my clothes are getting loose. I’m so excited by that!
My daughter told me I was fat, and that I’d made the whole family fat except for her, and that she was going to raise her children with her dhs family attitudes to food, so that they wouldn't be fat. When I pointed out that I have faced some challenges, like a thyroid issue and a severe hip problem which has led to obesity, and that most of our family are not fat, she had reasons for that not mattering. I was just trying to obscure the real issue apparently. I’m both upset and annoyed. I dont mind people with a normal bmi. I just wish they didn’t have to be so fucking smug about it.

Wow @Zebracat that is a cruel thing to say. Hope you take no notice and she apologises.

@Zebracat ..I'd be furious with my DD if she said that... good retort is "I do hope you aren't going to raise them to be as rude as you dear"
Or "well I might not always be fat but you will always be rude and insensitive dear"
I am so sorry your dd was not supporting you, mine are lovely and always telling me I'm not fat and I look great etc etc...I can lend you a daughter if you like ? I have four (2 are dsd"s but are lovely) ...
And even if your mothering and feeding of them has made them fat...well you were a loving caring mum doing her best and maybe didn't know as much about nutrition or maybe they where fussy little buggers who threw your lovingly made veflg heavy pasta on the floor and screamed for nuggets and chips...
Or maybe money was tight or you had to work and rely on convenience foods...or whatever...unless you were a horrible abusive parent (I doubt) ...you were doing your best.
Smug little madam...I do so hope your prospective one day grandchildren will only eat beige food and tantrum at the sight of a mung bean...you can smile sweetly and remind her of what she said...

Good morning!

I'd like to join please.

I'm obese, and start today at 100kg. I've lost a couple of kg since Christmas, but need to try to keep more of a track of things.

We're got a summer holiday booked to Spain in the middle of August, and the last time we went, I was 10kg lighter.

My aims are first, to get to 92kg, as that will mean I am just 'overweight'. Then, aiming for the 80's!

I'm giving 16:8 a go, as I find that regardless of the size of breakfast I have, I'm always hungry by 10. Whereas, if I miss breakfast, for any reason, I'm generally good until lunch.

I've also started C25K, and have done the first two runs. This is the first time I've run willingly since school.

It's a significant birthday for me next year, and I want to be able to give myself the gift of better health, and a better weight. Lots of trauma based reasons for overeating, but I have been tackling those too.

@Zebracat I am so sorry your daughter was so rude and mean to you. I have a daughter too, she can be a little madam at times, mainly by not having time to visit me but it still hurts. I am sure she will be very sorry for what she said one day. Families ... arghh they can be tough. You have great support here, we will help you, ignore her.

@Vebrithien welcome, nice to have a few new people. Join in and enjoy a lot of support.

I am still trying to sort out my evening eating problem. I've said this before but I can control myself all day until the evening and I have to sort this as it's scuppering all my efforts. Roll on good weather so I can walk the dogs leisurely around the wildlife lake after dinner.

Supermarket shopping this morning and I must make better choices.

Thanks for the support people. We were actually really good at feeding our children. Ate a healthy home cooked meal together every day, lots of fruit and veg, limited sugar, but not to the point it became even more desirable. They were all thin and active as children. I was always careful to protect their body image, and may have gone too far with that because 2 of my adult children are now obese, but so convinced by the body positivity stuff that they think it’s wrong that I was told to lose weight before surgery. Tried to explain about load bearing joints but weren’t having it!
I don’t think this one means to be rude, she’s lovely , but I think I’ve allowed this kind of disrespect to become habitual amongst the 5 of them. I am a bit ditzy at times, so they all do a lot of eye rolling. But I’m definitely thinking I need to change the way we communicate. And that needs to start with me not telling stories that show me in that light. Lose the jolly hapless fat person thing, and yes look them in the eye and say that’s very rude when they are. I think I need to start respecting myself.