Desperately seeking support..... 3 stone to lose. Who's with me?!

[kally195]

OK. This is ridiculous now.

I am a good three stone overweight. I can no longer call it baby weight because:

a) DD is now three years old.
b) I'm heavier than I was before, during or after my pregnancy.

I am unhappy. I look gross, and I feel like I am being held hostage inside my own body. I don't feel in any way attractive - in fact, I'm embarrassed by how I look and what I have done to myself. I hate the nursery run, as all the other mums are slim and healthy (even the ones who have tiny babies!).

It's impacting on my sex life with DH, on my energy to do anything (not doing any hobbies any more, house is a mess, tend to just hang around the house with DD) and on my enjoyment of life. I spend far too much money on food, which is impacting on our plans for the future (how fucking sad is that?).

I eat and drink too much, and move too little. It is that simple.

So, my life will be in calories in vs. calories out.

1100 cals per day, with most of them coming from protein and good fats. Limit carbs as I'm a carb monster and they don't fill me up.

Exercise - we have a rowing machine and a cross trainer in the garage, a really decent local swimming pool and bloody miles of fabulous countryside around us. I have no excuse not to do some form of exercise everyday, other than utter laziness.

Oh, and steps. I have a fitbit. It appears that since about this time last year, my daily average steps have halved, to less than 5000 per day. No fucking wonder I'm fat, eh? So those are going back up, even if I have to march on the sodding spot before bed.

I am happier when I consume less. I know this. I am happier when I feel healthy, when I feel good in my skin, I know this too. SO WHY THE FUCK IS THIS SO HARD???

Anyone who wants to join me in cheering the good days, gently querying the bad days, having a good old moan together instead of turning to chocolate and gin (and cake and bread and crisps and cheese and wine and beer and, quite frankly, whatever I can find in the cupboards) then please do. Otherwise, I am going to use this to offload on each and every day. To record my progress (cos there will be progress this time) and to show that I can do this. I can.

If I get brave, I might even upload photos.

I also have 3 stone to lose, which is made bloody hard by all the medication I'm currently on for one thing and another.
I can relate with so much of what you've written.
I have an Apple Watch which makes it easier to keep an eye on movement, and uses prompts for me to get up off my fat arse if I'm still for too long.
My diet is not too bad to be honest but I really struggle with the sheer effort it takes to get a single pound off. It seems like such an uphill struggle and let myself slide off the "right" path way too easily.
for you. Happy to use this as a support thread if you'd like?

I have three or at a push four stone to lose. I feel exactly the same. Hideous. So I need to do something.

Yes please to the support. YES!!!

I'm turning the "get up off your arse and move" prompts back on for my fitbit. I turned them off as they made me feel guilty.

I've just done 2000m on the rowing machine while dinner cooked. It's a start. May do more once DD is in bed and I've done the ironing and caught up on the housework a bit.

Msqueen33 yup. Here if you want support to do it "together"

@kally195 yes! I'm with you! I've got 3-4 stone to lose. Currently a stone down with Slimming World and I am struggling
I've got a Fitbit too if you want to add me and do daily challenges?

@newmumFeb17 - PM me your email address and I'll add you on fitbit. That goes for anyone else, too. My username on MFP is the same as here also.

Right - bedtime for DD. Then housework - see if I can bring up my 10000 steps by the time I'm allowed to plonk my arse down in front of the playstation (I'm a geek).

I have joined the gym. .
Exactly the same state as you. .
Doing one to one at the moment until feel happy to enter a gym alone!!

If it makes you feel any better DS was 7 when I still had 3 stone of 'baby weight' to lose. I'm now 1.5 stone lighter with another 1.5 to go though. It's been a slow and steady process but that means the weight has stayed off even when I've been slacking a bit.

I didn't go on a diet as such but took the same approach as you - more calories out, less in. Fewer snacks, not eating cake in the office, walking more and I joined a gym. It.'seems taking a while, but I'm getting there and look and feel so much better for it. Keep at it and good luck!

I would love to join a group for support!!

I am trying to loose 2 stone - I have lost 4lb!

I have joined local gym 3 weeks ago and am going 5 times per week - mainly classes.

I have cut my snacking down but haven't quite bucked up the courage to do callory counting yet.
I need to research how many I should have in a day.

Should we have a weekly weigh in or any other ideas? I don't have a fit bit

Oh I have bought green tea - that is how desperate I am haha!

X

@Chosenbyyou I'm going to brave the scales tomorrow. They are clever scales that talk to the internet and then the internet tells me how fat I am.

I do not get on them often.

But yes, like the idea of regular weigh ins for encouragement and support.

Hi, Im new to this so bear with me! I think a weekly weigh in is a fab idea. Im 32, 5ft2 and currently weigh in at 12s8lb. Heavier than before I had both my DDs (now 8 and 6). And I am a godparent at a family christening in 7 weeks. Huge expense spent with photographer and videographer hired for the day so lots of video evidence

Count me in too please, I've got 3 possibly 4 stone too loose I an determined to do it this time around.

Marking my place! On holiday next week so will start new regime on my return (21 Aug).

Ok kally195, I'm in. But no weekly weigh in for me, Im happy just feeling better and getting into smaller clothes. I've found I get despondent if I weigh in too frequently, exercise and time of month can effect this.
Looking forward to losing 3 stone (I'm 5.1 tall and size 16/18) good luck everyone x

Can I join I have 3 stones to lose as well. 3 years ago I was a sleek 8 and a half stones. I hate what I have done to myself.

Me too with 3 stone to lose and your OP ringing lots of bells!

I'm in!

Morning everyone! About to go and brave the scales. Will report back.

Plans today involve lots of lovely organising at home, a nice walk stagger in the insane winds later on and some exercise later.

Off to raid the freezer to find something healthy for dinner. At the same time that I am trying to make myself healthier and happier, I am also trying to make our finances healthier and happier (and under control) so that we can pay off the mortgage earlier than planned so we can retire before we die.

13 stone 6.5 lbs.

I am officially enormous.

However, it appears that my scales are of the opinion I have put half a stone of muscle on. I am somewhat dubious....

Just think of it this way that it's the last time you will see this number.
Next week this time instead of being heavier, you will be lighter than this!
I am also officially enormous so I can sympathise there!
How tall are you?

Very true Goose.

I would very much like to be sub- 13 stone by the end of August.

I am 5'9".

Hi! I'm joining in!
I need to lose 2 stone. I am getting fatter because I've been ttc for almost a year now and I worry that if I exercise I'll further ruin my chances of getting pregnant. I know this is probably not accurate but idk.
I've got an exercise bike that I've used twice in about 2 months...

Hi, I AM WITH YOU! I could have written your post. my DS now 6 and 8 too! Sometimes do 500 steps a day only.
..........can you suggest the best fitbit to buy? Am a lazy friggin' mare.

We can do this kally! fist pump in the air

Refilona, I can relate so much with what you have said, this is how I got fat too! nothing to do with stuffing copious amount of food in my gob

Welcome, fellow lazy fat people (warning - I have a very odd sense of humour. You'll get used to it).

@LadyFlangeWidget I have the Charge HR 2. It's fab. I'd love to say it makes me get off my butt and move, but that is patently untrue. The fitbit website does a pretty good comparison between all the different types and functions. I do quite enjoy the "oh look, I only got 3hrs 6mins sleep last night" function though.