Desperately seeking support..... 3 stone to lose. Who's with me?!

[kally195]

OK. This is ridiculous now.

I am a good three stone overweight. I can no longer call it baby weight because:

a) DD is now three years old.
b) I'm heavier than I was before, during or after my pregnancy.

I am unhappy. I look gross, and I feel like I am being held hostage inside my own body. I don't feel in any way attractive - in fact, I'm embarrassed by how I look and what I have done to myself. I hate the nursery run, as all the other mums are slim and healthy (even the ones who have tiny babies!).

It's impacting on my sex life with DH, on my energy to do anything (not doing any hobbies any more, house is a mess, tend to just hang around the house with DD) and on my enjoyment of life. I spend far too much money on food, which is impacting on our plans for the future (how fucking sad is that?).

I eat and drink too much, and move too little. It is that simple.

So, my life will be in calories in vs. calories out.

1100 cals per day, with most of them coming from protein and good fats. Limit carbs as I'm a carb monster and they don't fill me up.

Exercise - we have a rowing machine and a cross trainer in the garage, a really decent local swimming pool and bloody miles of fabulous countryside around us. I have no excuse not to do some form of exercise everyday, other than utter laziness.

Oh, and steps. I have a fitbit. It appears that since about this time last year, my daily average steps have halved, to less than 5000 per day. No fucking wonder I'm fat, eh? So those are going back up, even if I have to march on the sodding spot before bed.

I am happier when I consume less. I know this. I am happier when I feel healthy, when I feel good in my skin, I know this too. SO WHY THE FUCK IS THIS SO HARD???

Anyone who wants to join me in cheering the good days, gently querying the bad days, having a good old moan together instead of turning to chocolate and gin (and cake and bread and crisps and cheese and wine and beer and, quite frankly, whatever I can find in the cupboards) then please do. Otherwise, I am going to use this to offload on each and every day. To record my progress (cos there will be progress this time) and to show that I can do this. I can.

If I get brave, I might even upload photos.

I've just placed my exercise bike in front of the telly... times they are a-changing. Just waiting for the delivery guy and will get on it while watching some shitty show on Netflix, promise...

Just got my baby to sleep - now I am going to do Pilates and not read my book (which I want to do!)

We can do this!!!!! X

My mum and dad came round and my mum brought cupcakes and gingerbread men (all home made - strawberry cupcakes no less) and I DIDN'T HAVE ANY!!!

This is major for me - so much so that they both commented on it.

Plus we went for a nice long walk up and down some very steep hills, with added wind resistance.

Me too. I joined slimming world a couple of weeks ago (again) and managed to put 2lbs on in my first week. I was so disappointed. I'll never be one of those people who have a massive loss in their first week and get motivated.
I know I just need to get in the right mind set to count calories but I can't seem to get there.

Went to see a friend and she had an entire galaxy chocolate bar. Offered me some and I refused and told her to "back away temptress!". She now blamed me of ruining her slimming world progress as she only wanted to have half

@Speckledtulip I tried slimming world this time last year, but it wasn't for me. Partly because I didn't find the support I was looking for at the group meetings (it felt quite cliquey and all seemed to be in jokes between the leader and the people who had been going for years) and partly because the whole "eat as much as you want" free foods thing is a minefield for me.

That and the constant pushing of all the SW branded low fat stuff drove me mental (I'm aware it works very well for others, and this could well be unique to the group i went to). Plus, the only bit of advice I ever got from the leader was "stop exercising, cos it will stop you losing weight".

So, what sort of day has everyone had today? What are our plans for the evening?

DH is on a run of shifts which mean I'm by myself every evening. This normally means I end up eating and drinking out of boredom and loneliness. Not tonight though. I have a fun filled evening of DIY the ironing I wimped out of yesterday and then a daft film.

@Refilona well done you! However, you missed out crucial detail. Just how big was this bar, and what sort of galaxy was it?!

Kally yes! I just find the groups really boring. I've been to 6 or 7 and they all go through everyone's weight loss. I couldn't really give two hoots that Mary lost 3lbs, Barbara lost 1lb but Peggy put on half a lb! Zzzzz! I'm clock watching the whole time, thinking of all the jobs I could be doing! Maybe that's my downfall!
I suspect most of us are the same. We just need to get in the right game of mind. That's what's lacking.

*frame

Ah, I have found my people. I'm on Day 3. Starting weight of 13st6lb at 5"7. The weight has crept on in the past few years. I too can eat loads of crap carbs but still feel hungry within the hour. I've tried WW, Slimming World, fat burning pills.

But I know that the key is to measure and log all calories consumed. Focus on protein and veg. I do love a big bowl of porridge for breakfast - keeps me full until at least 1pm. But that will be the only carbs for the day. The big thing is to get on top of the sugar intake - chocolate, cakes, biscuits really are not my friends.

Took the dc to the cinema today. Can't believe I sat there not tempted by dd's popcorn. Not once.

My target is 10st 7. By Easter as we have a big holiday booked and I am determined not to be the big Mum round the pool.

Speckled yep - sounds familiar. My groups were literally the run round of weight loss/gain, quick anecdotes on how people had managed to get away with "cheating", loads of gross quark recipes and then plugs for SW products. Even when I tried to talk to the leader, she brushed me off and basically said "just eat muller lights and SW bars".

finola we are almost identical in weight, height and target. I too really don't want DD to grow up aware that I am the fat mum. I'm too embarrassed to take her swimming at the moment...

Good resisting there today people!!

I am 5'5 weigh 10st 7lb (have lost 4lb so far in 3/4 weeks). Aim is 9st as I was before last baby which will mean my clothes will fit me.

My main tactic is exercise and changing my mindset on food - I have been doing quite well but I think I need to properly count calories. Not got much time and can't be very organised with two young ones so that I why I haven't got going properly food wise yet.

I have a pile of gym clothes that are my aim to wear and feel confident in!! It is a big pile and my wear now clothes is a tiny pile haha!

What exercise are you all doing? I'm mainly doing classes as I weirdly don't have confidence to use the actual gym yet!

chosen I'm starting by just trying to move more - 10,000 steps per day as a minimum. Then rowing, even if it is only 2000m per day. I'm going to start going swimming again as well as soon as I fit into my costume Weights will come into at some point too.

A big one. It was a caramel one too.
I've just had half a brownie tray. I guess I need to get rid of all the unhealthy food before the diet really starts.... no?

@Refilona bloody hell - that was good of you to resist.

And yes to getting rid of the bad food. Trouble is, I tell myself that every day. Every. Damn. Day.

I'm about to input my food into MFP to see if I've got allowance left for a yoghurt or something. I'm actually hungry, not just bored.

I NEED this thread. I have about the to lose and I'm really struggling.

My problem is I can stick to lower calories for a couple of weeks, start to feel a positive difference then bugger it up again. At the moment I can't even do a day though- I am overeating everyday

I am so desperate to feel better about myself again

@NaughtyNannyPlum Snap. So let's help each other to stick to it for longer than a couple of weeks.

We can come on here to rant, ramble, obsess about food, share tips and generally cheer each other up a bit.

Can I join you all please? I'm on day 4 of calorie counting, I'd be happy with a 4 stone loss. Bought some scales yesterday and I was horrified, how did I get so fat?!
Got a 9 month old so I'm doing different exercise DVDs while he naps.
I've tried all sorts in the past, even spent a ridiculous amount on juice plus but this time I mean business, fed up of feeling so crappy about myself.

I'm also using MFP to log calories in. This time, I will be logging every calorie consumed. No cheating.

I know my danger point will be in a few weeks when I have lost a few pounds and then say to "We'll, one day off won't hurt", binge on sugary crap and it all starts again.

Morning folks!
I think MFP is definitely the way to go Finola. My SW meeting was at 9.30am today but I decided not to bother going. Just need to get in the mind set. How do you all do it? I wonder whether hypnotherapy would work. I'd love to see the Speakmans on This Morning!!
Kally yes! Quark and muller lights - yuk!!

Well, today so far has been lots of running around on the beach and minimal food. Have a drinks party tonight, but won't drink much as have loads to do tomorrow.

I'm trying to MFP everything but it's a pain in the arse as both mine and DH's phones have packed up and he has nicked my tablet for work.

Can I join too please. Saw this thread and put the cheese cake back in the fridge, thank you. On day 5 and just feeling really impatient that I don't fit into any old clothes yet. I'm 5 7" and planning to do weekly measurments instead of weighing, that just puts me in a downer

Sneeze Yup. "I haven't had chocolate for THREE WHOLE DAYS! How is it that I don't fit back into my size ten levis. Sod this, where's the cake...."

Kinda the story of my unsuccessful weightloss so far.

I will do measurements as the exercise increases, as hopefully that will stop me getting pissed off. I'm also going to work up to weighing far more frequently, as it will help me see how things effect my weight and also keep me on track. I've been weighing on average around once every six weeks, which achieves nothing.

HI all, Yes I want to lose 3 stone! Preferably 4 but think 3 is reasonable. I am 5'5, 44 years old and weigh 14'2 as of this morning. I have tried Slimming World and lose 10 pounds then put it on again plus more. I have also tried:

Diet Chef (not that nice microwave meals)
Lighter Life ( I could have eaten the dining table)
Joe Wicks £150 for 3 months (exercise plus A LOT of food but made me feel sick as so much coconut oil and meat, spinach, eggs and feta - I cant eat these foods now : ( )

So I have basically spent our 3 years of married life losing babies. We lost our son at 20 weeks then another at 14 weeks. We have given up but I am carrying more weight than when I was pregnant. I have definitely comfort eaten (cakes, crisps etc) and eaten in secret. My husband is very slim and just eats 3 normal meals per day. I snack.
I joined a gym but its 25 mins drive away and the roads to get there are shocking and I am also trying to finish my 15000 dissertation for my masters degree so I am concentrating on that and not done any exercise apart from a couple of spin classes a week.
I feel blo*dy dreadful. My knees are starting to hurt. My mother has just had 3 strokes and everyone in our family is diabetic so I am desperate not to join them. Any good diets or ideas?
I took selfies this morning in my underwear in the mirror to encourage me. This has to come off.

I'd like to join please I'm a good way into my weight loss but still have a long way to go! I've lost 1 1/2 since the end of April, but still have another three (more honestly 4) to go.