BigMoFos Week 33

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I think the general agreement was that we wouldn't weigh this week, but I thought we ought to start a new thread anyway.

So here it is

hi guys - havent been around much lately, eating is out of control again. I have started reading 'say goodbye to overeating' by Gillian Riley - no idea if it will help in any way but might help me understand why I do it. Anyone else read it? Well done to all of you who have kept going - I just wish I had the strengh and conviction to do the same. xxx

Hi Schneebs.

It's difficult isn't it - we know what we need to do, but just can't take control of it sometimes.

I haven't read that book but have read some similar ones - haven't found one that works for me yet, but hopefully you'll find this one helpful. And you can always post here if you need a bit of a boost - you don't need to be actively losing weight to come and get some support or just a friendly ear.

You can only do it when you're ready, we all know that. But we're here to listen if you want to talk. These threads are helping me to pinpoint my issues and understand why I overeat - they're also helping me to realise that for me, "diets" are not the answer. Come and talk to us sometimes, we honestly don't mind that you're not dieting and weighing at the moment.

Hello schneebly!
I seem to only post on here to whinge
But I am keeping in touch on here because mentally I think that once I have this baby I am ready to shift some major weight (also helped by seeing some particularly revolting photos of me the other day taken over the last 2 years or so). And I think being in the right place mentally is KEY - it's how I managed to lose the 3 stone I lost before I put it all back on again (and more) when pregnant last time. But now I feel like I might manage to do it again, rather than hopeless as I have done for a while now.

feel guilty when all I've done is rant on here recently - and there's WWB with her extremely wise words.

so do come and chat.

Thanks for your support - I think I am my own worst enemy when I am like this as I tend to shut myself off when what I really need to do is talk about it. I am good at talking about other things but not so much about my overeating! It is like I am auto pilot when I do it - it is almost habitual rather than emotional I think?

I think it becomes habitual, no matter what the initial trigger is. And maybe that's why we don't always know what the underlying issues are? We start off filling an emotional need, and end up just feeding a habit. Smoking and drinking can be just the same.

Emotional eating is a bit like a comfort blanket - the emotional need for one wears off very quickly, but because the child has always had it, they are lost without it - even when they don't need comfort, they still hug their comforter, and being without it makes them uneasy.

wise words - I am not really sure how it started but I have always eaten in secter etc since being a child but it has gotten worse as I got older

Hi all, well done to those who've lost.

WWB - glad to hear your DD had a restful night. Hopefully it'll just be a mild dose. Neither of mine have had it yet, despite my best efforts.

Schneebly - nice to see you on here - please stick around and talk to us whenever you fancy - I find that part of the whole BigMoFos threads the most helpful thing - the fact that everyone else understands what its' like, and there's never any condemnation of what people are doing (unless they're beating themselves up about something - that's the only thing we tell each other off about).

MrsJC - I have a really horrible photo of me chasing DD along the sea shore in shorts and a vest that is my 'photo of shame'. It was taken a few years ago, but is a real wake-up call if I need a reminder of why I'm doing this.

Gawd, they're demanding when they're ill, aren't they? And you can't even tell them off for it!

Schneebs, do stick around - like Jackie, I think that the talk on these threads is the most helpful part. You too, MrsJC; whinging and grumbling is definitely allowed And it's always good to see you both (and everyone else ... come and say Hello!).

I'm cringing at the thought of "photos of shame". I resist having photographs taken because they all look awful - I look like Tweedledum. Never mind 9 months pregnant, I look 9 years pregnant. I don't think it's all about being fat though, I've never liked having my photograph taken. Self-esteem, I suppose.

WWB - hope things settle down for you soon. Has she got a little bell to ring when she needs attention?

I too resist having photos taken. And try to hide behind people so that I can't be seen much. I think the only time I realised I wasn't going to get away with hiding in the background was our wedding, so I just smiled my ass off and gave in gracefully. I wasn't too unhappy about the photos either. Mind you, I was a bit smaller then - probably between a size 16/18 (this was 17 years ago).

No, no little bell ... just a little (or maybe not so little) whinge that does the same thing! And a blood-curdling shriek that she put into good use every couple of hours last night. Dh was about as much use as a fart in a colunder; got up to her once, then thought his job was done and left it all up to me - I don't think he even realised I was out of bed most of the time. So I get to run around after her all day, and all night as well. Lovely. I'm putting ear-plugs in tonight ...

. That selective hearing is great, isn't it - my DH sleeps so deeply he rarely hears ours if they wake up either.

He's all for ignoring it - sometimes she shouts out in her sleep when she dreams, she doesn't even realise she does it so we usually just leave her. But she's poorly, fgs - you don't just ignore a poorly child.

And now I'm knackered! Yesterday was pretty wearing. She's gone back to sleep on the sofa at the minute, though, so I might just sit and have a nap in the armchair ... studiously ignoring yesterday's washing-up that didn't get done because all she wanted yesterday was cuddles.

Dh gets his come-uppance later though; he has to do the food shopping on his own tonight [mean old wifey emoticon]

Yay - good for you. Get them working, I say. When DH and I discussed when to do the big Christmas shop, he suggested going late at night, so I reckon he can do ours too. I am currently making the Uberlist, the List di tutti Listi (in a mafia kind of way), so he won't have to do any actual thinking about what to buy.

We also have DS's 3rd birthday today, though no party till the new year (just too close to Christmas). So it's already a sea of brightly coloured plastic and wrapping paper.

See, that's where a lot of women get it wrong - this Thinking business. Letting him think for himself is a seriously bad idea - it's bad enough when I give him a list! I did my uber-list last night ... knowing dh he'll forget his glasses and make it up as he goes along anyway!

Actually DH is pretty good at shopping for normal weekly stuff - I'm the one who gets distracted by the new and unusual products, and trial sizes of things. Complete sucker for new stuff, I am. But my new year's resolution (sort of) is to try to 'live lean', ie consume less stuff in general (and I'm not really talking about food and drink here, just books, magazines, clothes, make-up etc). Need to get rid of more stuff as well, and hopefully free up space around the house too. But it will probably fall by the wayside, like most new year's resolutions.

Another week where I forgot about weighing myself.

Lots of sympathy for anyone looking after poorly children. All 3 of mine have been ill at some point over the past few weeks.

I like the plan to send dh out to do the shopping, WWB.

I like the sound of living lean, JackieNo. I'm a compulsive hoarder, and virtually have a nervous breakdown if I try to throw anything out - unless I really psych myself up first. I am trying very hard to sort out the house, though - I might even join the Flylady threads in the New Year - I think I could do it if some harridan was telling me I had to.

I don't think I'll be on here much for the next week or so, so Merry Christmas to everyone! Hope your dd does recover, WWB, and that your MIL - erm, what should I wish for your MIL - is inspired to give you a fantastic present this year? Whatever will help you have a lovely Xmas.

Yes Fauve - I was considering the Flylady thing in the new year too. It's not the throwing away that I have any particular problem with - it's that I keep buying/acquiring more stuff. Books, especially, and magazines/catalogues. Will be joining the mailing preference service, I think. ILs arrive tomorrow, so not sure how much I'll be online either. But will probably manage to be here a bit.

Happy Christmas to all, anyway, although I'll probably try to sneak on at some point on the day.

just wanted to say merry christmas, as i haven't been around much recently. DH and I are intending to start afresh in the new year so hopefully I will be posting my losses within a few weeks [optomistic emoticon] Anyway, hope you all have a lovely christmas, I'm off to wait for father christmas. Jingle bells, jingle bells la la la la la!

Hi all, Merry Christmas. Have eaten a huge christmas dinner, and am now on the coffee and after dinner mints. Not feeling any guilt, which is kind of refreshing and nice. Hope you're all having a good day.

What ARE you doing on here on Xmas Day, JackieNo???? A Merry Xmas to you, too, and I'm glad you enjoyed your Xmas dinner today!

I'm having a weird day because my neice had surgery to remove a tumour last week, and my sis is worried sick, as well as battling with an utter cow of a MIL - all she could say to my neice was that she had put on weight recently, never mind how was she feeling after a serious op...so in between the festivities, I'm weeping on dh's shoulder. It has the effect of me not wanting to eat at all...We're going over there on Wed, so will see what we can do to help then. If anyone's into positive vibes/reiki type stuff, please send them to my neice Helen - TIA, any positive thoughts welcome

Enjoy the festivities, everyone!

Hi Fauve (I could ask you the same question). Hope your niece's surgery was successful. Sending her good vibes.

Still got the ILs here. But they're fine, although being quite elderly, rather inclined to sit around all day, and not up to walking long distances. So we need to make a special effort to get the DCs out of the house, or they start going stir crazy (and so do we!).

Sending shedloads of positive vibes to your neice and kind thoughts to both you and your sister.

Hope everyone's had a good couple of days (and yes, that was a festive smiley - season of goodwill and all that ...

So WWB - what news on the present front ...? Spill the beans. We're all waiting expectantly. The other half of the loofah?

The other half of the loofah would at least have been (reasonably) useful!

I got a terrarium. You know, one of those large, elegant, glass globes for growing indoor plants in.

Except this is MIL we're talking about, so this one's not large; it's about 8" diameter. It's not elegant; it's short and squat, and it's shaped like an apple. Complete with stalk and leaf at the top. It's not even glass - it's plastic. There's enough room for three very tiny plants and a bit of gravel.

I could just about stomach it as being in almost good taste ... except she's chosen it "because it's Christmassy, dear" and so the gravel is spray-painted gold. It looks like something my 5-year-old might have made in class!

And she got it from B&Q. Top of the list of great places to buy your presents from ...

Not as much comedy value as elastic, but still a seriously dreadful excuse for a present.