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A space to talk openly about weight loss journeys and challenges. Mumsnet hasn't checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. You may wish to speak to a medical professional before starting any diet.

BigMoFos Week 33

207 replies

WigWamBam · 21/12/2006 09:18

I think the general agreement was that we wouldn't weigh this week, but I thought we ought to start a new thread anyway.

So here it is

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JackieNo · 04/01/2007 11:51

Well done WWB. That's brilliant. And maybe being aware of what your triggers are gives you the power start learning to resist them.

WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 11:57

Not particularly problems with the school, just one of dd's teachers really.

Dd was punched in the mouth on the last day of last term, her teeth went through her lip, and she ended up with a black lip the size of a gobstopper. It was during lesson time, so she went to tell the teacher what had happened, and was told "I don't want to know". So she went to the TA, who didn't want to know either.

The punch doesn't bother me as much, it sounds as if it was just a bit of rough play, but I'm not happy with the teacher's attitude. It's happened a couple of times recently where dd has tried to talk to this particular teacher (their class has two) and has been brushed off. Dd's a bit of a drama queen (well, she's 5 - it's her job ) and tends to tell the teachers when even the slightest thing goes wrong, and it seems that this teacher has decided that the way to teach dd not to be so dramatic is by ignoring her. But in this case it meant that the boy who had hit her was then bragging and gloating because she was in trouble, not him.

Dd didn't want to go back to school this morning because I think it's knocked her confidence a bit - her self-esteem is a bit delicate anyway. Plus I wanted to find out what the score was today, rather than leaving it until this teacher is back in on Monday. I don't deal with confrontation very well, and the head was a bit defensive about it all because "that's not what this school is about" so I was really wobbly by the time I came away (I'm just a wuss really).

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JackieNo · 04/01/2007 12:01

Your poor DD, WWB. Was she OK when you left her this morning? Well done you for tackling the head teacher though. I find I tend to revert to being a schoolgirl when I talk to them, if I'm not very careful. Especially if it's something important, rather than just a friendly chat.

peegeeweegee · 04/01/2007 12:04

argh, weighed myself this morning, and my starting weight is 22.2st. EEEEEEKKKKKK

Okay, so healthy eating plan / increased exercise plan starts here.

Gotta fly - need to walk (!) dd to nursery.

schneebly · 04/01/2007 12:06

I think that is a terrible attitude for a teacher to have (and I am training to be a teacher bTW). I really hope something gets sorted out because this was a realy bad way to deal with things! I would be livid!

Well done WWB too on not grabbing something to eat - I am a secret binger too (in the car esp!) and I would have foundf it hard not to get some chocoltae or something after this morning!

schneebly · 04/01/2007 12:07

dont worry about your start weigh peegee - it is the fact that you are doing something about it that is important!

WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 12:10

That's the worst bit over and done with, peegee!

Dd went in OK in the end, we bumped into her best friend on the way so she went in with him reasonably happily, but we had tears last night and again this morning before we left the house, which is unusual because she loves school.

The head isn't as easily approachable as the old one was, and I hate having to deal with these things, so it was a bit of a strain!

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justamum · 04/01/2007 12:12

WWB, I've weighed this morning, will email from home. Oh God, I've put on another half a stone since I last weighed last summer time. I can blame some of that on christmas but not all.
I went swimming last night & really enjoyed it, I always forget how soothing it is to plough up and down a pool. A brilliant new gym and pool have opened about 5 mins from my house which is great motivation.
I am sick of work, i'm having It problems again as I can't get into any of my work systems, so far today I have taken the christmas tree down and cleaned out some cupboards in between chasing IS. I am not happy!

JackieNo · 04/01/2007 12:17

Hi Schneebly.

WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 12:21

Sympathies, justamum - work sounds awful.

Glad you enjoyed your swim though. I can only ever go with dd so don't get the chance to just plough up and down - even if dh comes and we take it it turns to be with her, we can only go off on our own for a few minutes at a time. Plus I'm horribly self-conscious in a swimsuit so I have to admit that I look for excuses not to go when dh takes dd.

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peegeeweegee · 04/01/2007 13:02

Sorry to hear about your dd WWB - some teachers are just sooo unapproachable...

Wow justamum - I would love a pool 5 minutes form my house...
There is a coffee shop opening on the corner of my street and that is not really going to help with the weight loss thing... I will resist temptation...I will resist temptation.

twoisenoughmum · 04/01/2007 14:06

WWB - that's brilliant that you didn't turn to food after a stressful morning and I just cannot believe the attitude of the teacher - when her tooth had gone through her lip, for heaven's sake!

I've gained 1lb. Assume its ok just to let you know here, don't have to email you as well, do I?

Bingeing in secret is awful isn't it? You know its wrong, you know its not going to make you feel any better, and yet something takes over and makes you behave irrationally. Is there any way you can give yourself a break by trying to spend less time alone? Easier said than done, I know, sometimes, and you're hardly likely to want to do housework etc in the company of other people, but just a thought.

If you like to eat frequently, could you plan lots of snacks into your day? Perhaps make every other one a healthy one and the ones in between a treat, but in a reasonable portion?

I don't know something like this:

8.00am Breakfast
10.00am Healthy snack (piece of fruit, or glass of juice and some nuts/seeds, or a yogurt)
12 noon Early lunch with some sort of treat attached (bag of crisps, 2 finger kit kat)
3.00pm Mid-afternoon snack (vegetable sticks & hummus, or yogurt, or one piece of toast & marmite)
6.00pm Early dinner with family (if that's how you do it) no puddidng, but then allow yourself a
9.00pm mid-evening treat like a few chocs, or a cup of tea and biscuit

or

Small snack when children eating their tea (perhaps a controlled amount of their left overs, or another little treat like a piece of cheese and some crackers, or a cup of tea and one or two biscuits)

Later dinner with DH, followed by a healthy snack like fruit again.

You've mentioned before that you eat reasonable portions at mealtimes, so if you give yourself permission to eat frequently at other times during the day, then you might not want to try and cram in loads all in one session?

Just a suggestion offered in friendship and with deep respect!

littlemisssensible · 04/01/2007 14:07

Hi all,

New starting weight is 13stone 1lb . But I'm not too unhappy with that as I knew I'd be back over the 13 stone mark and it could have been a hell of a lot worse!!!!

In fact I did a sneaky weigh in onthe 27th and I was much worse at that point!!!!

I'm aiming to be back under 13 stone by the end of January but I'm not going to stress about it too much because there is already way to much stress going on at work!!!!

As long as I get to the end of Jan at no more than 13.1 I'll be happy!

littlemisssensible · 04/01/2007 14:09

Forgot to say [shoots her self in head emoticon]

Well done WWB for resisting comfort food after an encounter with the head! i hate having to do that too and I always find myself being REALLY apologetic, as if the problem is all my fault!

schneebly · 04/01/2007 14:32

twoisenoughmum - I am a binge eater/snacker and for the last few days have been allowing myself a cup of tea, a couple of crackers and a piece of fruit between meals. I have not been hungry once and so I have reduced my portion sizes for meals too. It seems to be working so far for me!

WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 14:55

Twoisenough - it's not that I like to eat frequently, I just get so that I need to eat something - bit like an addict getting a fix.

My biggest danger time is in the morning after I've dropped dd off at school, and I also pick in the late evening between tea-time and bedtime. It's not that I'm hungry, I just binge regardless of how full I feel.

Spending less time alone would help because I don't do it when I'm with other people but isn't practical really because I have no family or friends close by, I don't drive, and most of them live too far away to get there and back before dd needs picking up. I'm quite isolated, which has always been a bit of a problem, and I find it very hard to form new friendships.

I don't know whether giving myself permission to snack would make bingeing less likely because the bingeing isn't about being hungry, but anything has to be worth a try - thank you for the suggestions.

The head wants to see me again before I pick dd up tonight, to let me know whether she's found any more out, but I will have dd around then so will need to find another way to stave off the anxiety!

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Dottydot · 04/01/2007 16:45

OK, I need a Big MoFos mantra going from now until 7pm - "It's OK to have put on many, many lbs. It's OK to have put on many, many lbs". Repeat until I get weighed, discover I have indeed put many, many lbs on, and then group hug needed for support!!

(can you tell I'm ever so slightly nervous..?)

coppertop · 04/01/2007 16:54

Good luck, Dot.

WWB - I'm shocked at the staff's attitude when your dd was hurt. Poor little mite.

My official gain is 4lbs.

WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 16:59

It's OK to have put on many, many pounds ... it's OK to have put on many, many pounds ...

Really, it's OK. We might feel disappointed and annoyed at ourselves, but the important thing is that we start again and keep it going.

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JackieNo · 04/01/2007 19:06

It's OK to have put on many, many pounds. It's OK to have put on many, many pounds.

Have weighed, and have put on 4lb - at the lower end of what I feared, so am pretty happy with that. In fact I'm amazed at how calm I am about it - it's because I've factored it in, and already knew it was going to happen, I guess. It was planned weight gain, not accidental, which somehow makes it OK in my mind.

Good luck tonight Dottydot.

EeyoreIsFab · 04/01/2007 19:47

Hi - I've been lurking around for a couple of days & would like to join your group please.

I weighed in today at 15st 8lb & so need to lose 5 stone, but would be quite happy with 4 (actually, anything would do at the moment ).

Still busy munching Christmas goodies this week & due to start 'healthy eating' next Monday, so not expecting a weight loss - just hoping not to put any on.

schneebly · 04/01/2007 19:53

Welcome Eeyore! All the best!

Dottydot · 04/01/2007 21:00

Hi- just a quick post to say I've put 4lbs on - again, what I expected - and thanks for the mantra!!

New week, new year, new start...

agalch · 04/01/2007 22:01

Evening all

Well i have put on 2.5lbs so i feel ok really.I'm amazed at only gaining that with the vast amounts of crap i consumed over the festive period lol.

Anyway am feeling quite positive that i can maybe lose at least a stone in the next few weeks for my wedding so i am happy atm.

So my weight today is 12st 12.5lbs.

colditz · 05/01/2007 00:00

I still haven't weighed myself, I'm really sorry, I don't have any scales and the Boots ones have been taken away because they were inaccurate, apparently!

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