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BigMoFos Week 33

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WigWamBam · 21/12/2006 09:18

I think the general agreement was that we wouldn't weigh this week, but I thought we ought to start a new thread anyway.

So here it is

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Dottydot · 03/01/2007 13:48

Thanks Jackie!!!!

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WigWamBam · 03/01/2007 13:52

My word, we've got busy all of a sudden!

Colditz, that connection between eating and feelings is such a strong one. It's a real comfort thing, and I've said before that for me it's also a way of self-medicating. My mother's attitude was if you love someone, feed them - don't tell them, don't show them, just feed them. So for me food = love, acceptance, all those other warm feelings. It's hard to change something that's been ingrained for such a long time - even in my 40s I eat to make myself feel better.

LMS - you sound as if the answer might be a new job away from your father! Easier said than done, though.

Emails to [email protected] - start weights or not, as you chose. And for the old-timers - don't bottle out of posting if you've put weight on. I know with slimming clubs the tendency is to think that you've blown it, feel embarrassed, and not go again - but not here. Let's get it over and done with, line drawn underneath it, and get on with shifting it again!

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JackieNo · 03/01/2007 13:54

I know I'll have put on, but I'll still be emailing you, WWB. Not sure exactly how much, somewhere between 4 and 7lb, I suspect. Hopefully not more than that.

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WigWamBam · 03/01/2007 13:56

I've probably put on a similar amount as well, Jackie. It's easier not to have to face up to it but we need to! No-one will tut, no-one will shake their heads in disgust, no-one will be made to feel bad for gaining.

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JackieNo · 03/01/2007 13:58

It's very comforting to know that. And to have almost 'planned' that it was going to happen, and build it into my behaviour. Definitely made Christmas less stressful, giving myself 'permission' to eat more unhealthy stuff. Knowing it's a 'swings and roundabouts' thing (stop using those inverted commas, fgs, JackieNo) and that I'll make up for it in the New Year.

Dottydot · 03/01/2007 14:00

I'm thinking I've put on 4lbs at least - possibly more - will find out tomorrow. I can still fit in my clothes, but they're tighter than they were 3 weeks ago...

Dp thinks it's outrageous, but I think it was inevitable. I just need to be able to switch back into healthy eating (after I've been weighed! ).

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WigWamBam · 03/01/2007 14:05

I think it is pretty inevitable really, and nothing outrageous - but then again I'm looking at it from your point of view because that's the one I indentify with. If I remember rightly your dp is quite slim, isn't she? It's probably hard for someone who doesn't have food issues to understand why over-eaters eats the way we do ... which, of course, is why so many of the "fat" threads here wind up with people chucking out the old "eat less, move more" chestnut.

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Dottydot · 03/01/2007 14:08

Yes, she doesn't understand how I can throw away 3 months of good eating habits and eat enough biscuits to sink a platoon of ships over 2-3 weeks! But then she always eats pretty much the same amount of the same things, doesn't feel the need to snack... It's the one thing we just don't see eye to eye on - because we can't know what it's like to either want to eat/not want to eat, if you see what I mean! Never mind, I will get back into good habits, because I've got another 2 stone to lose (and I want to lose it before next Christmas so I can eat a few more of those biscuits!! ).

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WigWamBam · 03/01/2007 14:18

Don't even think about the biscuits

Dh doesn't understand the emotional aspects of over-eating. He could do with losing weight too but he over-eats just because he likes food! He's not as overweight as I am though, and his weight has been pretty consistent over the last 10 years - mine hasn't been consistent ever. All he has to do to lose weight is stop drinking and stop having his daily chocolate bar and the weight falls off

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littlemisssensible · 03/01/2007 14:42

Thanx for the sympathy every one!

I know i'll survive because we always do, but January is always completely manic! I guess all Accountants have the same problem because no matter how often you nag the clients about 30% of the never get the paperwork to you until the beginning of Jan and there are a hard core 5% who arrive in the last week of january with it all and wonder why you won't guarentee it for the the deadline!!!

I'd look for something else but its such a good job family wise - basically 'cos i'm the boss except when Dad is here - and i'd never find another where the hours are 9-3 with permission to leave immedietly if dd is ill, has an assembly, needs to go to the dentist etc!

littlemisssensible · 03/01/2007 17:42

Hurrah!

Almost completed all of tonight's returns!!!
And so far the HMI site is behaving itself Happy, happy, happy dance! (trying to distract myself from a celebratory slice of cake! )

Isn't it strange that I resort to food in times of celebration as well as stress! Or may be not, from some of the other postings I've read...I guess eating is just my default mode!!!

Just got 3 more to write out and try and enter and I'm done! I'm planning a looooong soak with some lovely Lush bubble bar bubbles, then an early night! (Can't eat cake in the bath it goes all soggy and covers me in crumbs!)

agalch · 03/01/2007 18:33

Oh well i feel a bit crap.Was doing fine till it came time to bin the leftover cake and i just had to bloody have a bit didn't i? Well i actually had 2 bits. What am i gonna do? what if my willpower has gone?

How do i get back into the swing of things?

littlemisssensible · 03/01/2007 19:06

Ohhh agalch. Don't feel too bad, we've all eaten stuff we shouldn't have!

Just put it behind you and start again. And if you're extra careful tomorrow then a piece of cake or two shouldn't make too much difference!

We're all here for the long haul, 'cos slow and steady is supposed to be best. And you can't deprive yourself of treats in the long term because no one (not even a stick insect) could stick to that! so think of the cake as an early treat

coppertop · 03/01/2007 19:37

Agalch - That's why the MoFos threads have worked so well for me. We're all in it for the long haul so a couple of pieces of cake isn't such a bad thing. When you fall off the wagon (as I frequently do ) there's always someone around to help you back on.

I weighed myself this morning (early I know) but it looks as though I've put on about 4lbs too over the past few weeks. Eek!

I've still got Sue's site on my favourites list. I can't resist all those gorgeous photos of little Daniel.

babysmurf · 03/01/2007 20:08

agalch two bits of cake isn't the end of the world, just don't let it ruin the rest of your day - I know that my problem here would be to think "sod it, I've blown it now so I might as well have pizza for tea" which invariably does more damage to my weight loss than the cake did.

littlemisssensible · 03/01/2007 20:33

Yayyyyy! Last 3 written up and entered online! Now I can go soak!

I think it might have been sooooo busy yesterday evening because lots of accountants returned to work and thought they'd just take some work home to process during the quiet evening!!!! LOL

But in the last week of January it'll be that busy every night if last year is anything to go by!

twoisenoughmum · 03/01/2007 21:10

Please come and beat me over the head and tell me to get over myself - but I'm feeling very nervous about weighing tomorrow. Silly mare. Will probably have a bad night's sleep, just cos its looming.

I am a bit stick my head in the sand about my weight issues. The amount of excess isn't too bad, I am wearing a pair of size 14 trousers from Next (all buttons fully done up) ffs, but I still act like an anorexic teenager around a pair of scales. Drives me nuts. I have old-fashioned dial-type scales (rather than digital) and I can't really see the difference between 1lb and the next, especially without my glasses. And the needle never quite returns to zero when I step off iyswim, so I always deduct 1lb from what the scales say to compensate for that.

What a silly billy.

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WigWamBam · 03/01/2007 23:09

Come on, don't be nervous. There's nothing you can do now to change what the scales say anyway - and once you've done it, that's the worst over and done with.

We won't laugh at you, we won't tut and snigger at you, we won't think you've been awful - because we're all in the same boat!

All you have to do is get on the scales, come and have a moan and a cry if you want to if it's worse than you thought - then draw a line under it, and get on with shifting it. But you know you have to do it, you can't move forward if you don't.

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agalch · 04/01/2007 09:58

Well got up early to go to the weigh and go at 8am to find the morning class doesn't go back till the 12th.Grrrr

Will need to wait till tonight at 8pm to find out the damage.I am almost tempted not to go but hey my wedding is only 14 (gulp|) weeks away so no choice.

I reckon i must have put on almost a stone tho so will need to be really strict from now on.
Have a good day,off to get dd2 her 2nd set of immunisations done,lovely!!

schneebly · 04/01/2007 10:07

Just sent in my start weight to WWB - wish I had stuck with you guys and maybe my weight would not be what it is now!

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WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 11:09

Don't beat yourself up, schneebs - you had good reasons not to stick around. You're here and ready to start again now, and that has to be something positive.

Agalch, I know it's easy to give in to temptation and have another week off, but I think you should go tonight. At least it will be over and done with. I don't know about you, but when I've been to slimming classes and missed a week, I usually end up free-wheeling because "I've got all week to catch up", then realising that it's suddenly a week later and I've put more weight on, so I end up chickening out the following week as well - and it usually means I never go back.

I've put 7lb back on, which isn't much more than I thought I had. But I'm determined that I have to get back on track now - I've been pussyfooting around for weeks not getting anywhere, so I intend to make a really concerted effort now. I want to aim for a pound a week, rather than stopping and starting all the time. I need to get my bingeing under control as well, so I might need a bit of propping up from you guys because I'm really out of control again at the moment. The bingeing in secret has almost become a habit again, having started to get it under control a few months ago, and I'm back to doing it almost daily. So I apologise in advance because I'm probably going to get a bit needy from time to time!

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JackieNo · 04/01/2007 11:14

Hey WWB - it's what we're here for. I'll weigh this afternoon and email you.

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WigWamBam · 04/01/2007 11:24

I was quite proud of myself this morning though, I had to have words with dd's head teacher and was shaking like a leaf when I came away from the school - and normally that would have set me off; I would have marched straight down to the shops for food. But I didn't - it was difficult, and I still feel the need for something in my mouth, but I didn't give in.

So something to be proud of this morning, I think. I'm trying to find the positives and hang onto them as tightly as I can!

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agalch · 04/01/2007 11:45

Good for you WWB!!!!

I am def going to class tonight.If i have put on loads then nowt i can do about it eh?Just need to work hard at eating healthy from now on.

Are you having probs with dd's school WWB? My ds2's school are a nightmare but he will be at high school so i'm not gonna stress over it.Will be putting the dd's down for a different school tho.

Will email you my start weight tonight if thats ok.

agalch · 04/01/2007 11:46

Sorry should have said he'll be at high school soon. Doh