BigMoFos Week 16

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Nice, shiny new thread.

Winnie, come and talk to us over here.

Posted this on the other one but putting it on here as well.

Well done sue

Well done lemonaide

and

Well done again Sue for reaching your first stone, all that happy jiggy dancing is paying off

Seriously both of you they are brilliant losses.

well done everybody!
and especially SueJonez and lemonaid

Who wants to cheer up the pregnant woman who's just been crying for 45 mins because of her sodding in-laws (well, that on top of a quite stressful week full of stuffing her face)? am totally fed up frankly.

Oh, MrsJC ... you have my sympathies.

They're not worth the salt of your tears, they're really not.

Come on, tell us what they've been doing so we can make models of them to stick pins into.

Much better week all round this week and the stayed the sames or put on 1lb's aren't shocking either so I think we can all be pleased.

Lucky for Lemonaid that she didn;t exceed my weight loss - could have been a nasty tense stand off there. AS it is I will gracefully share the corwn (though I notice after Jackies disgraceful fighting over the crown last time, I notice we've got one each this time

I'm away over the bank holiday (did I mention that already?) so fully expect to not lose this week as it will (hopefully) be my last adults weekend away for some time.

Come on Winnie - chin up! We've all been there, it will give you an incentive this week . It's perfectly legit to eat more an put on weight on holiday. Even thin people do it, the difference is that they lose it the week aster they get back, so thats what you will do too. Sorted!

I would invite you around for coffee this evening MrsJC but I'm off striaght from work. I'm back Monday late lunchtime if you want to come over and help me sort baby paraphanalia!

Oh well done suejonez and lemonaid. And well done on your first stone sue.

MrsJc - what's up? Don't waste your tears on them - as WWB says, they're not worth it.

I haven't got the energy to go into it all - think I can't stop crying becuase I was stressed anyway and they tipped me over the edge.
They're not evil like some others on here appear to be, just utterly, utterly self obsessed. And they won't talk to me about it - it's all through poor old DH. It's the fuss over tiny things that pisses me off - they seem to have the monopoly on getting upset over things whereas I never get upset apparently.
Obviously there is more but they have set me off today; in this week where I have organised flights, moving, exchange and completion on the flat, worried over and had scan, saying goodbye to lots of very dear friends, found new homes for my cats, lots of trips to the tip, been through and sorted out all our stuff, sick child, sick DH, sick me, I should apparently have made time to say goodbye in a way that could only be construed as cheerful on the fecking webcam as I was on my way out and been out to buy the wedding present for tomorrow's family wedding at the beginning of the week. And although the wedding is 15 minutes from my parents' house they've yet again wheedled out of any attempt to meet up with my parents - which they haven't done since our wedding 7 years ago.

oh here go the bloody waterworks again. I really shouldn't be doing this move whilst pregnant and trying not to put on weight but it's unaviodable. sorry for my rant, it all sounds so pathetic written down but I do feel better. Have a great week MoFos!

Ooh Lemonaid, just realised you're local to me (I'm so rubbish at cross referencing threads), I can hear coffee in M&S beckoning again...

oh have a nice time in the IOW Sue!

this was bound to happen really, moving to the other side of the world is stressful. but I had sorted out so much this week and am now wasting a morning in tears when I should be getting more done. and I have eaten so much, I have horrible indigestion all the time but I don't know what to eat now TBH - really struggling in that regard.

They sound horrendous - your rant is definitely not pathetic.

am i sending my emails to the wrong place ? useless i am lol. oh well, I lost 2lb ish (wish had got digital scales).

very very tired today cos dh had stressful meeting last night and was up worrying which made me worry so niether of us got much sleep.

plus all this shopping for new smaller clothes is getting annoying. Now I need things I can't find stuff. typical. bought a gorgeous per una outfit though. mmmmm.

well done everyone. esp Sue and lemonaid.
Sue, you need to market the international adoption process diet me thinks. works wonders.
Dh has the interview on tues, so within the week we'll know if we're heading out your way in a few months or not. after last night's meeting he wants to go anywhere

But amongst all the misery MrsJC - I see you had a scan - how was it? Hope it was a highlight of an otherwise crap week.

Have you managed to rehome the cats as well? That must be a weight off your mind (though obviously sad for you).

hello...

well done Sue and lemonaid

MrsJohnCusack {{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}

hiya
relations have reached a new low here. rang MIL and had it out with her, probably the first time in years anyone's called her on her behaviour, unfortunately I ruined it all by crying AND shouting.marvellous

apparently I am rude and 'not only they think so'. Hmm, out of their huge circle of family and friends - if I'm the one with the social skills problem how come I have loads and they have exactly none. And FIL will be seeing his perfectly nice brother for the first time in around 7 years tomorrow.

I am SO angry I can't stop shaking and crying - it's pathetic. Now they have rung up again and said they want to draw a line under it and move on. That'll be because they've realised no fulsome apologies are forthcoming. Tomorrow I will have to be ultra polite so as not to give them any more fuel, and yet they've made it fairly impossible. Plus no alchohol to buoy me up.

thanks sueJonez - scan was great, baby absolutely fine. Big relief - was really worried about it for some reason this time.

I am so sorry to rant all over this thread, but I am just a sodden mess this morning.

all i can say is (((hugs))).
and you're clearly a much nicer personthan them, so let them ruin their lives more by alienating your family. their loss.

Oh sweetheart.

You know, you don't have to draw a line underneath it if you don't want to. That's just something they're saying so that they can avoid the issue - what they mean is, "draw a line underneath it and then we can carry on just as we were before".

Well done for standing up to them - the rude things they have said to you are just their pathetic form of defence. They can't justify their own behaviour so they throw the blame back to you. It's low and cowardly behaviour on their part, because they don't want to face up to the truth in what you've told them.

What does your dh think to it all? Will he stand up for you against them or is he a wimp where they are concerned? It would be good if he could present a united front with you, and tell them that he stands by what you've told them.

unfortunately DH is a bit of wimp. He doesn't agree with them as such, but just says 'yes' and 'no' and doesn't say 'well acutally I thihk you're being totally unreasonable'. That's never going to happen though, he knows that, he just can't say it to them. 36 years of being a cowed only child die hard...
Anyway, air is cleared enough to get through tomorrow (altough I may self combust). Then have to stay with them for a week 3-10 Sept [horror emoticon] and a grudging apology and some backtracking received from MIL so I am appeased a bit as I haven't caved too badly.
Basically they hate me for taking DH and DD (and new baby) to NZ. Which is kind of understandable, but they don't seem to grasp that the split might be easier to handle if they behaved properly.
Off for a long long bath now. thank you all for the sympathy. Waterworks seem to have FINALLY dried up thank goodness.

You're not taking them away on your own though, are they ... dh has to take some of the blame for that one. I really think he needs to take your side a bit more - divide and conquer and all that.

Do you have to stay with them for the week? Is there a guest house or a Travelodge nearby that you can stay at instead, and just see them as and when it suits you? Might save your sanity a bit!

Anyway, glad you're feeling a bit better - enjoy your bath!

I know

as my sister keeps saying, you just can't argue with mad people, save your energy. Difficult though. Oh god, they'll be visiting me in NZ just after new baby born. Not even worth thinking about - can see the slippery slope to PND again starting here.
We'll have to stay with them or they'll flip out. I think I can manage it, have a friend near them to visit and some other things to do. Will just keep repeating 'it's the last time' over and over mantra-style.

Only good thing have lost appetite. Yay!

Poor you, MrsJC, I do sympathise PLEASE try not to have them visit you just after the baby's born - I had that with dd, and my doolally mil really upset me and threw me off course in my recovery from the birth I know it'll be very hard to do, but you have to put yourself and the baby first. If you must have them visit then, get a friend in and commission her to be your staunch defender. (I may be free for a short break in NZ...)

I agree really whole-heartedly with Fauve - don't have them there for at least a little while after the baby is born. You need time to settle, so will the baby. You need to be insistent about this, even if it pisses them off. Even better, dh needs to be firm about this so they can get pissed off with him instead of with you.

yep you are all right
I think we've put them off until the baby is at least a month old or so - will try and make it a bit more.
If they're here in the first month, it will be a Disaster of the highest order
Have had had words with DH about the standing up for me/him stuff today, can only hope he has taken it to heart and can manage it. I think i am probably the only person in YEARS who has 'stood' up to MIL in any way, shape or form. A great shock to her I think

Haven't been around for nearly a week so need to get caught up on all my threads...

((((MrsJC)))). Id put them off until at least three months, if you can. We can all fly out and form a human barrier if you like...

[waves to suejonez] I think I realised you were nearby when we discussed the practicalities of getting bits of human flesh out of one's kitchen utensils [everyone else on thread backs away nervously from lemonaid and sj].

I'm hoping to lose at least 0.5 lb this week so that I'll have lost half a stone and can award myself a Treat (I'm trying to motivate myself with Treats for every 7 lb and a Big Treat when I get to 10% of body weight lost). I'm contemplating a pedicure.