i prefer comments, for me it’s acknowledging the elephant in the room, no pun intended, as I know they are thinking it, but I understand some don’t like it as it feels too personal.
i got a lot of positive comments last week, as said up thread, it was all you look great kind of thing, what was weird is I work with predominantly men, onky a few women, and only the men commented. Not one woman said a word. I’d have thought it would be the opposite way round. All the women are slim, I was the only fat woman. Even when I was shamed for not eating enough at lunch, the women said nothing.
the men’s comments were all “you’ve lost weight, a LOT of weight, you look great”, kind of thing, one said to me,” you’ve lost a lot of weight, and you’ve done something to your hair (I haven’t, I assume it’s my face is slimmer , which was throwing him ) you look really lovely” . He wasn’t cracking onto me, he’d be in the class of old friend, but I thought it was sweet.
but yes, none of the women commented and I had to speak to them all one on one. They also heard the men commenting, and ignored it totally, which I did find odd, as I get on as well with them as the men if not better.
it’s the same in my friendship group, my best friend comments, and she knows I’m on the injections, but none of the women comment, but the men do. Like they have no filter.
No one has ever said I was tiny though, as I’m not 😂