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Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?

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Biggles27 · 14/08/2026 17:56

Husband hates the dresses I loved - mob btw! He says the colour is wrong, the shape doesn’t suit. I felt fantastic in them ☹️. Ditching dh isn’t an option. Are they awful or is he being unreasonable?

Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?
Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?
Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?
Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?
Husband dislikes my mother of the bride dress choices, am I wrong?
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Redpaisley · 17/08/2026 12:11

Seaside3 · 15/08/2026 13:43

Ot was more the shape than the actual dress. There's no way I woukd order from somewhere that offers every dress in 50 colours for a start.

For that shape to work, you need to be very slim like the model who is wearing the dress. Op has a good figure but I don’t think the dress you linked is for Op.

ElizaSchuyler · 17/08/2026 13:19

OP - with that kind of budget get yourself to a posh department store. Book yourself a visit with a personal shopper. I think you can do better than John Lewis though, try Harvey Nichols or Selfridges. I for example have a beautiful silk dress I wear for weddings from Harvey Nichols. It's a little too informal for a MOB but there are similar dresses that are approx the same price range. (£400-600ish). (Although very sadly they have just been bought by Frasers so I despair at ther new customer service and returns policies)

BeaLola · 17/08/2026 14:06

Perhaps once you have had a stylist session, colours done etc you could hire something amazing (if you are not wanting to pay ££££) for a wow outfit that you won’t wear again ?

Snuggleup · 17/08/2026 14:59

Im with your husband on this op.
Its not flattering not in a harsh way op but it looks ageing , like it will add years to you.
And the wrap around huge bow sorry it looks hideous.
Its like a funeral outfit one would wear to an enemys send off.

Your the mother of the bride try to look like it.

PinkHibiscusFlowers · 17/08/2026 15:23

This store is excellent for MOB dresses 👗
https://rebeccajaynebridalwear.com/mother-of-the-bride/

afloozie · 17/08/2026 16:36

With your lovely new figure (well done btw!) and your budget, could you not have something made for you? Custom-made clothes fit in a way that shop bought can't (because the latter have to be cut to fit "most people") but with bespoke you can choose style AND colour...and look and feel spectacular!

Thereasonwhynot · 17/08/2026 18:36

Op, just noticed that Needle and Thread, that you said you love, offer ‘try before you buy’ . Great opportunity to try something different before the London trip with your daughter. Best of luck.

Picklelily99 · 17/08/2026 18:36

Sorry, I think they're a bit 'heavy'! Thick, dour, funereal even. You look to have a lovely figure, maybe more of a 50's tea dress would show it off better, in a 'happier occasion' colour?

Redpaisley · 18/08/2026 00:39

pingi1 · 15/08/2026 19:38

I was MOB in April and understand how you just want to get your outfit organised but don’t rush into something. I lost 6 stone the year before (I’m 65) and tried on so many outfits but just didn’t feel they were me! Well done on the 9 stone - you need to wear something to celebrate that amazing achievement! I ended up getting a gorgeous dress from Needle and Thread and I felt a million dollars. (My DH loved it also which was important too 😊). It’s such a special day you want to “feel” your very best! Good luck- you will find your dress! This was mine 💕
www.needleandthread.com/products/sylvia-rose-long-sleeve-ankle-gown-peony-pink-bright

Beautiful dress. I am sure you looked amazing.

Redpaisley · 18/08/2026 00:43

Thereasonwhynot · 16/08/2026 18:58

Not all over 60’s. I’m coming up for 80, been looking at all the websites recommended here and would happily choose this Bombshell dress.
https://aureva.co.uk/products/bombshell-rebecca-dreams-of-summer?_pos=3&_sid=5e847212b&_ss=r
Plus op says she loves Needle and Thread, lovely flimsy floaty dresses there.

Lovely dress. I agree age is just a number, 80 is too young to wear a frumpy dress.

ElizaSchuyler · 18/08/2026 00:44

Needle and Thread do some amazing dresses.

Bunionbandit · 18/08/2026 10:58

The 1st one is ok, nice shape & style quite elegant, but I think would be nicer if not actually fabulous in a lighter colour.

The 2nd one is just awful. Sorry.

HLK6 · 21/08/2026 00:47

I have to agree, that dress is absolutely awful.
Pick another that's totally different 😉

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