My sil makes horrible bitchy comments, one day I was at an event she was having and she was desperately arse licking and trying to impress someone who had attended, someone she was impressed with and was trying to ingratiate her self to,
I got on quite well with the woman so loudly in front of sil I said in a joking manner, oh Jane’s so lovely and so funny , you’d never beleive the stuff she says to me, and rolled out loudly many examples, with a sweet smile, like I found it amusing,
the woman was horrified shaking her head and side eying her, as my sil was stuttering and trying to justify it, I just smiled and acted like I’d done nothing bad, and kept going, everything from interior design to her Brutal judgment of other fat women, this went down particularly well as the lady was in this category,
she didn’t say anything after but was very wary of me, as whenever I called her out she’d say its just a joke, so I took her at her word, and loudly and for a prolonged period detailed in excruciating detail all her “funny jokes” about decor choices, and the appearance and eating habits of fat women,
it did calm the comments down a lot, and I regret nothing, my husband was like wow, but I was like she said it so she can own it,