Can stables weigh my daughter rather than accept my word?

[TheQuaintLemonDuck]

Are stables entitled to weigh my daughter rather than just take my word for it?

Yes. They need to look after their horses.

Absolutely they should

Of course they can and they should

Yes. I’d respect them for doing so. Poorly run stables would ‘take your word for it’. The horses are the priority.

Of course they can and they will be doing it to look after their horses and make sure she’s riding one of an appropriate size. If you don’t like it (god knows why) then feel free not to ride there.

You can refuse to let them obviously but they can also refuse to let you ride their horses.

100% and enthusiastically, a stable must protect their horses and have accurate weights. People lie all the time.

They should. It’s important for her safety as much as as the well being of the horse. Her weight will be part of what determines which horse is safe for her to ride.

I hope you aren’t the mother of the daughter that didn’t want her DD in a big horse when she needs one due to her weight.

The welfare of the horse is the highest priority here.

Is your daughter worried about being weighed there? Does she have an ED?

You could ask in advance, and explain, then weigh her at home and take a photo with a date stamp, if they agree.

do they exist??

who would lie if it was for the pony's good?!

I can see why weighing a teenager might be complicated, if there are underlying issues, but if your DD is visibly towards their cut-off weight, I guess they would have to check to protect the horse. Though I could never imagine trying to fudge it, I guess some people try it on.

They can insist on weighing her rather than let her ride. If she doesn’t want to be weighed she doesn’t ride if that’s their rule.

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I would hope so! Wow.

Parents lie , adults wanting to ride lie , it happens all the time .

They absolutely should do. It’s essential to protect their horses. We did a trail ride in the U.S. recently and had to provide our weights in advance and were then weighted on the day prior to the ride. The same was the case with a helicopter ride, presumably for balance, fuel and capacity reasons.

People don’t just lie about their weight, some people weigh themselves infrequently and estimate incorrectly or fail to notice they have grown or expanded since they were last weighed. I once discovered I was half a stone heavier than I’d blithely told a ski rental shop. That was depressing. More important to have your bindings correctly adjusted though than to persist in a happy delusion.

parents lie even if its detrimental to an animal?! I've never seen that

Well, rather blooming obviously, the stables have, hence their policy.

I'm guessing your daughter is wanting to ride one of the bigger horses and they are concerned that it's too big for her (if your dd is small for her age).

@TheQuaintLemonDuck of course they do , likewise there are thousands of people who ride their own horses who are really too heavy to do so and kid themselves that they ‘ride light because they are balanced ‘ , it’s rubbish 14/15/16 stone is exactly that weight however good a rider you think you are .

What’s your personal situation OP? How is the question relevant to you?

Parents will lie to protect their children's feelings and probably don't really think about the consequences.

As others have said, it's really important they get things right for the horses and riders, so it's either they weigh her or she won't get to ride. Is she especially under- or overweight? Because they'll know that anyway if you're providing an accurate weight to them, so really there's nothing to be lost in letting them take their own measurements.