Can stables weigh my daughter rather than accept my word?

[TheQuaintLemonDuck]

Are stables entitled to weigh my daughter rather than just take my word for it?

6 months?! A lot can change, particularly for a child who is growing!

That's perfectly reasonable. And responsible of them.

why would anyone have an issue?

essentially if you don't agree with their policy, you are free to find somewhere else. Your daughters wants are not as important as the pony's welfare. And if she is in the weight range for that pony then she may still get to ride that one.

It could well have changed in 6 months. This is exactly the reason that the stables weigh people. They want a current, accurate weight

Go and work at a riding school for like, 10 minutes. People lie endlessly about their weight because they/their kid wants to ride and if they're honest theres a risk they won't ride/won't get to ride the pony/horse they want to ride.

So yes of course they can insist on weighing someone - and you can refuse and accept that means your kid doesn't ride.

The organisers will have long experience of SOME Pony Club parents ;)
Completely fair and good practice.

So you're not going to weigh her and don't have an accurate idea. Hence, they want to weigh themselves as they can't trust people because, like you, they give inaccurate numbers and don't understand the importance.

You've literally just said on your other thread that you've noticed your daughter has gained a significant amount of weight recently! So no, you dont know what she weighs, and you HAVE put outdated information on the form!

this is an odd thread. You don’t want her weighed so she’s not embarassed, haven’t weighed her yourself for 6 months, claim to be worried for the animals welfare?

of course they need to weigh her, it’s outrageous to suggest they should risk the pony not to embarass your daughter.

I don't want her to be embarrassed

They don't need to tell her her weight, they just need to allocate a suitable pony.

'Ok Margot, that's great, we're going to put you on Starlight today.'

Did you weigh her in her riding kit, including boots, body protector and hat? If so, I can’t see how she’ll be embarrassed as she’ll know what she weighs.

A 17-year-old on a pony day wanting to ride the same pony? That's a bit odd. Maybe OP has more than one daughter

They can weigh her and not tell her the reading- if that’s an issue for her- just whether or not she’s allowed on that pony. She won’t be the only one who changes pony from one year to the next.

Why are you making such a big deal of this?

This. ^ The OP's daughter shouldn't need to worry - or be embarrassed - unless the OP has put an incorrect weight on the form, (and said the girl weighs less than she actually does,) which I strongly suspect she has. So if the daughter is embarrassed, it will be down to her mother (the OP) for not putting her daughter's true weight.

When I went on a hot air balloon flight some years ago, I was asked my weight (when I booked it) and I admit I knocked a stone off. (Big mistake!) I was told the next day by a friend, that they weigh you - before you go to the balloon to get in it. So I went on a strict diet (I needed to lose a bit of weight!) and dropped about 10 pounds in the 4 weeks leading up to when the flight was. So when I was weighed I was only a little bit over what I had told them - 4 or 5 pounds I think. It was only a small discrepancy, so they let me on OK.

Moral of the story, tell the truth!

Oh and @TheQuaintLemonDuck YABVU.

Of course they can. It’s their horses. If you don’t like it then go elsewhere

Same daughter? https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/parenting/5513381-dd-visceral-fat?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=app_share

This is what I'm wondering.

The OP's answers are so short and blunt, it's hard to tell.

Blimey, the OP has been busy this afternoon!

I hated having my weight checked for riding as a young person. I am short and wasn’t overweight so they’d stick me on a pony with a tiny stride when I really wanted a bigger horse that cantered well!

But yes, they should be weighing people, to protect the horses.

Ahh ok it makes sense now kind of.

OP, if this is the same daughter in your other thread, you know she's gained weight since she was last weighed 6 months ago.

So why do you want them to take your word for it?

These kind of people dont care, as long as their brats get what they want 😬

If you're right about her weight, why would she be embarrassed?

Anyway, they're not going to shout her weight across the field or tell her she's too heavy to ride Bonnie. If she is too heavy for the horse she wants, they'll just make up an excuse, like Bonnie is already assigned or not available for the camp. It's for her safety as well as the horse's, you wouldn't want her on a horse that can't carry her.

The welfare of the horses is paramount. No drama needs to occur. They're just seeing to it that she is riding the correct sized horse.

that's really worrying!

It's exactly what you're doing.