Can stables weigh my daughter rather than accept my word?

[TheQuaintLemonDuck]

Are stables entitled to weigh my daughter rather than just take my word for it?

no other way round actually

It could be that her daughter is actually under weight for her age and requesting to ride a horse that is too big for her.
The OP hasn't made it clear.

Sometimes adults lie because they prioritise their child’s comfort over that of a horse.

sometimes adults don’t accurately know what their teens weigh.

sometimes teens don’t accurately know what they weigh.

sometimes teens lie to their parents about their weight

why do you ask the question?

Yes, because if they don't, the kids might not be allowed to ride and that's more important to them than the animal's wellbeing (and they often don't believe that putting a too heavy rider on a horse endangers rider and horse)

So she wanted to ride a horse that was too small for her?

Pony camp that DD has been on before and wants the same pony as last year they've said they'll weigh all the kids and check that's ok

Well that’s perfectly reasonable. It’s a whole year on. What’s your issue with their request?

That's rarely the case. Tiny kids can ride big horses if they're good enough riders.

Unfortunately, it's usually overweight riders who want to ride ponies. I would never allow anyone overweight to get on one of our horses (I'm fat myself and wouldn't get on a horse because of that).

And who's refusing to allow the staff to take the measurements?

Well she needs to be weighed to check she's the right weight for her desired pony. Of course you have motive to lie so your dd gets what she wants. They have a duty to the horse to check. If you're not lying all will be fine.

The stable can ask to weigh everyone, and they can refuse to allow a child to ride if they don't want to be weighed and they are concerned that they would be above the weight limit.

So your daughter wants to ride a smaller horse and they think she's too big? The stables are being very sensible. 15% of the horses weight including all tack and equipment as a general rule of thumb.

Generally it doesnt happen the other way round, as a small person on a big horse doesn't matter for weight (nor strength for that matter - the smallest pony would outpull the biggest man if it wanted to!) My exP found that out to his peril when he thought he could force my Forester to walk sensibly in from the field on a windy day using his 'brute strength' 🤣🤣

that they don't trust what I put on the registration form I guess. I don't want her to be embarrassed

Is she likely to be embarrassed? Is she too heavy to ride the horse she wants?

Did you weigh her yourself at the time of writing the application and write down her weight accurately? If so why would she be embarrassed?

If you think she might be embarrassed you could ask them to make sure nobody else hears her weight. They have to check before assigning a horse.

But why is your daughters embarrassment more important than the welfare of the pony?

Do you actually know what your daughter weighs, and been honest on the form? Because if you have, what's the problem with weighing her, as she already must know her weight?

Why would she be embarrassed? Unless you lied in order for her to get to ride the pony? If she really likes the pony, then she needs to understand that she needs do what's best for the pony, even if that means riding a different one.

Well she will only be embarrassed if you have lied about the weight otherwise it won’t come as a surprise to her .

unless its changed in 6 months then yes I do I weighed her then

Don't make a big deal of it. Weight can be neutral. Why should she be embarrassed? I'd check your attitude Isn't influencing her. How old is she?

Because no child’s weight ever changes over the course of six months.

I've just seen your other thread OP, and I'm now almost certain the issue is that your daughter is too heavy for the horse she wants, and that you have fibbed on the form to get her what she wants

The health and safety of the animals is more important then assuming a parent is telling the truth and not checking.

Parents lie for lots of reasons, they don't want their kids riding a big horse so saying they weigh less so are given a smaller horse, they can't be arsed to weight them so guess, they don't want to admit their kids is heavy...just because you've never seen it doesnt mean it doesnt happen

6 months is a long time. Many kids outgrow ponies in a year so it's absolutely right the riding school should weigh her. The ponies are their responsibility not yours.