I agree that the amount of crap Meghan got for what Harry wrote was really unfair. She didn't even join in on his book tours and made it known via 'sources' that she wasn't on board with some of what he wrote but she was still blamed for things he said.
I have no idea why up to now Harry has skated by with very little criticism in the media. Misogyny? Fond memories of young Harry? No idea but I find it frustrating. Once he left the palace PR shelter he so despised the real Harry has been pretty evident, an entitled arrogant whiny man child who must be extremely tricky to live with.
I don't think Meghan is perfect, but I do think that all the knowledge in the world about the Royal family does not prepare anyone for the reality of living in that institution. It must have been doubly hard moving cultures, with Harry offering no help adjusting and insisting she was right at every turn.
She obviously works hard chasing success and if only she would listen to good advice I think she could make a go of this venture at least. It's whether she will listen though. Drop the titles, just be real, be the Meghan she was when learning from Chef Choi, stop trying to be perfect and relax. And treat people with respect. I'm sure she is type A, you can tell how hard it is for her to appear natural on camera as herself, but she really needs to stop bullying people. She could be a successful influencer, a celebrity not a royal.