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I want to rehome my cat

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 21:53

Hi, I would like to rehome my 4 year old male tabby .. what is the kindest way of doing this?

I would like to avoid a shelter, I do t have any friends or family who can take him.

Any advice?

Thanks

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KatherineJaneway · 25/02/2020 21:57

First question is why?

If you have no one to take him that you know, a shelter is your only other option. They will at least vet new owners and look after his needs.

Butterer · 25/02/2020 22:04

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 22:17

Thanks - yes keen not to advertise.

Simple answer is, I am really just not a cat person - I have owned animals (dogs /rescue rabbits, etc), but I have never bonded with my cat - please don't flame me!! A cat really isn't for me, also - I have a very busy life and my job in the future will need me to travel a lot so I won't be around for him.

This is best for him, and me.

I care about him and want the best, hence why I am asking other cat lovers what is best!!

Thanks

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thecatneuterer · 25/02/2020 22:22

Well you need to do it through a shelter, but many of them can put him on their website with a photo and a bio but leave him with you until someone expresses an interest in meeting him. You will have to discuss with local shelters though. All your local shelters are listed here: www.catchat.org

mummymayhem18 · 25/02/2020 22:23

You should have thought of that first. Anyway it will have to be a shelter if you don't know anyone who will take the poor thing. Definitely do not advertise it. Like a previous poster said Blue Cross will try and find a new owner for it whilst it's still at your home. Less stressful all round especially for the poor cat.

JKScot4 · 25/02/2020 22:25

Cats Protection, rescue is the safest way

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 22:34

@mummymayhem18 he isn't a 'poor thing' he is currently spread out across my side of the bed.. he has a very good life and I want to match that!!!

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Strongmummy · 25/02/2020 22:38

You like him enough for him to sleep on your bed then? Sorry, but you should get flamed. I don’t get the mentality that you buy an animal then decide to get rid of it as it’s an inconvenience. Do yourself and the animal kingdom a favour and don’t have another pet

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 22:48

I like him yes - he also had scratched my 2 year old many times so would be best placed somewhere without children.

There are many reasons, ultimately I want to find him a lovely home myself. Why should I get flamed??

I've had him for 4 years.

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Strongmummy · 25/02/2020 22:53

Yes my cat also scratches my 2 year old coz she follows him about and us a general nuisance with him. My cat is also pretty unfriendly. However, I bought him and he’s my responsibility.

You said “you’re not a cat person” and you “ haven’t bonded”. You should get flamed for your flippant attitude towards animals and treating them like they’re disposable

crazycatgal · 25/02/2020 22:53

What a shitty reason. If you are not a cat person then don't get a cat.

I would contact cats protection and see what they can fo for you, then refrain from getting another pet.

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 22:59

I don't treat animals like they are disposable I have always had pets that stay with me until they die and are very much loved and part of the family.

I came on Here to ask the kindest way to rehome to a loving person that love cats as much as you all do it's much fairer!!

Anyway thanks for those who have helped, I'll try the ones that stay with me until there is interest.

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puppymouse · 25/02/2020 23:00

I am not a cat lover and get quite uncomfortable around them (dogs and horses abound here) but seriously, you are that cat's world?! It trusts you enough to lie on your bed sleeping. Why would you decide four years on it's "not for you?"

Sorry OP I know you're trying to do this kindly, but shame on you.

BookSkark · 25/02/2020 23:04

Guessing I'm not the only person to click on the thread wondering why on earth you would do that. And then probably judging even more because the reason is that you're "not a cat person". Surely you know that before taking him in? Cats don't scratch unless they're threatened; I managed to raise DS with 4 cats and they never touched him as he was taught early on about appropriate behaviour...

Anyway, judgement aside, please use one of the charities mentioned rather than Facebook etc. And then maybe think about it before getting another pet, eh?

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 23:07

He doesn't give a shit about me ... I am not his world!! He is out all day long and sleeps on my bed or the sofa and that's not to be near me! 😂

Anyway thanks all

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MarthasGinYard · 25/02/2020 23:09

Are the rest of your household not attached to the cat?

Lou573 · 25/02/2020 23:10

OP, you took him on, he’s your responsibility now, whether you’ve ‘bonded’ or not. Doubt you’ll have much luck rehoming him to be honest, rescues are crammed full of needy animals.

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 23:13

Pupppymouse - I thought long and hard before getting a kitten, I then got him and thought quite quickly I'd made a mistake as did my husband .... anyway as you have all said he is my responsibility so kept him, 4 years on I still feel the same which isn't fair on him. I'll also be doing a fair lot of travelling in a new job so not around for him so now is a good time to look for a loving home.

Judge away but I know this is the right thing.

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 23:14

Marthasginyard - no the kids are not attached he isn't friendly and avoids them, I know he is better with a family without young kids.

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SparePantsAndLego · 25/02/2020 23:18

I can’t understand how anyone could decide to get rid of an animal. It’s callouse. BUT I agree with OP. It’s best that he gets a chance to live with someone who loves him and doesn’t see him as an inconvenience. You don’t deserve him.

SparePantsAndLego · 25/02/2020 23:19

*callous

Crocsandsocks · 25/02/2020 23:51

Cats protection. They're very diligent in finding good homes. Shame though, poor bugger. Can't you just co-exist? I'm very much a cat person, but have one cat I'm just not that bonded to. She's vicious tbh!! And pisses everywhere if you're not careful!!! But is a rescue so I don't know what happened to make her like that, so I understand and feed her and fuss her ocassionally when she's in the mood. Luckily my eldest DS and DD have worked out how to handle her perfectly and she is quite relaxed with them now. I digress. What I'm getting to is even though I don't love the very bones of her in a.cst person sort of way, we rub along and have found a groove. I feed her, give her treats, and we have a nice routine of when she likes to be out and in etc. Just a daily lilt that allows us to coexist peacefully. My youngest DS has learned not to touch her (the hard way!) but we all have a healthy respect for each other now, and she has a nice life, well fed etcetc and I just accept that that is who she is and work with it. I don't feel guilty for not loving her in the same way as other pets, but it's enough for us all that she's well fed, comfortable and as happy as I think she'd ever be, and I'm happy that she's ok and seems content with life and has (more or less!) stopped weeing on my stuff and shredding people to the point of heavy bleeding. You don't need to be a cat person, just honour your commitment to the animal you brough into your home.

EachandEveryone · 26/02/2020 00:21

What are you doing with your children if your new job means you will be away much more? Doesnt add up really.

Facefullofcake · 26/02/2020 00:22

I think you're doing the best thing wanting to rehome him responsibly, in light of your circumstances changing soon - I'm glad to hear you're going to go through somewhere official.

I'm waiting for a call from a shelter to say they've space bc my one of my 2 really doesn't get on with the other (yes, ive tried feliway etc.) and it's not working out. I feel really bad about it, but keep telling myself that this way they'll both get to have happy lives, I hope.

Toddlerteaplease · 26/02/2020 02:50

Sorry but you need a flaming. You takes care on for life. You don't just get rid of it because you don't like it.