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I want to rehome my cat

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Remmy123 · 25/02/2020 21:53

Hi, I would like to rehome my 4 year old male tabby .. what is the kindest way of doing this?

I would like to avoid a shelter, I do t have any friends or family who can take him.

Any advice?

Thanks

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Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 14:06

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 14:19

Strongmummy - why on earth would this be bullshit for what reason? What would I gain from that exactly?

I dont need to give all of my reasons it's nothing to do with you. I am being sensible and responsible, I'm not driving him to a rescue, I could advertise on gum tree - but no, I came to a forum of cat lovers to ask advice and most shot me down. Some have been very helpful.

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viccat · 26/02/2020 14:33

I don't know why people often consider rehoming through a rescue is the worst thing - it's really not! It's quite the opposite in fact; not only are they experienced in choosing the right adopter and doing proper checks, they will also usually offer back up for the cat to go back there if things don't work out in the new home for any reason. They will have processes in place for the cats to have vet check ups, advice the adopter on pet insurance and ensure people are serious about adopting.

When I volunteered at a rescue, we had a lot of cats coming in who had previously been taken in from family or friends (or Gumtree/Facebook), many had been rehomed several times already.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 14:41

I agree with viccat. Rescues can find the exact right home for the animals in their care. Rehoming to some random person online is not the responsible solution.
Drive the cat to a bloody rescue centre. It’s the least you owe it.
And don’t get more pets.

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 15:17

@Remmy123 that’s the point. You could have said in your original post that “for reasons you didn’t want to divulge you sadly have to rehome your cat”. You didn’t. You gave callous reasons. That’s the reason you’ve been shot down

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 15:25

I don’t think the OP is callous. Pets have personalities. OP’s personality doesn’t mesh with that of her cat. The cat knows this as well. Wouldn’t it be better for the cat to live in a home where he is cherished?

Strongmummy · 26/02/2020 15:47

If we all thought like that there would be far more pets needing home. They’re not disposable. They’re not toys. They have personalities that may or may not be agreeable. As the owner you take responsibility for the fact that it’s yours.

Sagradafamiliar · 26/02/2020 15:52

So do you expect everyone to live in misery including the pet itself and just tolerate and the resent the years away when there is a better solution, mummy?

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 15:52

There are millions of pets needing homes, so your post is factually inaccurate.

Shouldn’t a pet be cherished? How happy is a cat in a home where he senses he is just tolerated?

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 15:53

Strongmummy - As the owner I take full responsibility for what is right for the animal. Nice for him to be within a home more suited to his personality, in this case it looks to be a lovely long-standing mumsnetter so it will have a happy ending l!

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Winterlife · 26/02/2020 15:55

Ooh, watch out, OP. That longstanding MN’r could be here for the sole purpose of adopting cats for use in dog fights! /s

Kittykat93 · 26/02/2020 15:56

I do hope you've not just given him away to this stranger without fully checking them out op. Everyone can look nice on the Internet.

EachandEveryone · 26/02/2020 15:59

Yes if it was a cat lover on here who we knew wouldnt they have said by now. You never even mentioned your area.

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 15:59

Why doesn't everyone read all of my posts please - I'm not handing him over to someone willy nilly!! 😡

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 16:02

... not in my area about an hour away

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Remmy123 · 26/02/2020 16:03

I'll be meeting this lady I have also loads of info sent over from her

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WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 26/02/2020 16:07

Oooh does any random person on the Internet want my cat? She's a bit of a knobhead and I've gone off her a bit.

PM me hun.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 16:14

Anyone fancy one of my kids?
FFS.
Go through an actual rescue.

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 26/02/2020 16:16

How old are your DC Wolfie? Do you want to swap one for my cat? I'd quite like a younger one if possible please, teenagers are a pain in the arse.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 16:17

Hmmm. One is a teen and the other will be in a couple of years.
Or the puppy? The puppy is an arsehole.

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 16:22

I question the sanity of posters equating a cat (or a dog, or a rabbit) with a human being.

Wolfiefan · 26/02/2020 16:23

Yes Winter. Of course we are completely serious. Hmm

WeBuiltCisCityOnSexistRoles · 26/02/2020 16:29

Well speak for yourself wolfie, I'm actually up for it

Wink
IthinkIsawahairbrushbackthere · 26/02/2020 16:36

For those suggesting that OP takes the cat to a rescue - have you ever tried rehoming an animal to a rescue? When a family member acquired an abandoned dog no rescue would take it because all the local places were full. I had a friend who because of a sudden life threatening illness found herself unable to keep two pure bred pups that she had bred intentionally with no thought of selling. The rescue charged her £ 100 each to take them.

Another friend had to rehome a young dog. She had to have neutered and then take a 60 mile round trip to a lady who agreed to take him and assess him and rehome him.

OP - if you are still reading - I would rather someone be honest and say they had made a mistake and put the effort into rehoming their pet than just continue to meet their most basic needs for food and shelter.

As a family we have two dogs who we took on because the previous owners changed their minds/had a change in circumstances. They were honest and gave the dogs up. They got their lives back, the dogs got a loving home and we gained two fantastic pets - win/win.

Winterlife · 26/02/2020 16:36

Trolling trolls.